I am an introverted person, and I can't let go of talking to others. I can't let go of talking to my elders. How can I speak freely?

If you want to overcome stage fright, you must at least cultivate the following mentality-

First, the condescending mentality Wang Zhihuan said, "But you can broaden your horizons by going up a flight of stairs." It is said that you can only see far if you stand tall. From the point of view of speech, if you have a condescending mentality, you will have a sense of superiority, and with this sense of superiority, you will eliminate the tension in the process of speech. Generally speaking, parents can talk in front of their children (especially when the children are young), teachers can talk in front of their students, and leaders can talk in front of their subordinates, Kan Kan. That is, the former "stands" in a higher position, not looking up, but looking down, consciously or unconsciously putting himself in the position of leader. For beginners, to overcome inferiority, we must gradually develop this condescending mentality. On this issue, we might as well learn from Ah Q and have a "spiritual victory method". As Carnegie pointed out: "you have to assume that the audience owes you money and is asking you for a few days' grace;" "You are an arrogant creditor, so you don't have to be afraid of them at all."

Second, the state of mind without me Wang Guowei said when talking about the realm of ci, "There is a realm of me, and there is no realm of me." In terms of borrowing words, I think it is of great benefit to cultivate my "self-absence" to overcome my nervousness. "A world without me" means not taking yourself too seriously, but not having me in your heart. More specifically, we should overcome the fear of making a fool of ourselves. Fear of losing face is a human mentality, especially in China! Too much emphasis on face in a speech often leads to greater loss of face. I think I might as well smile and laugh at myself at the beginning of my speech. Mr. Shao Shouyi, editor-in-chief of Speech and Eloquence magazine, said in the opening remarks of a speech: "Nothing is for everyone. Bring two dishes to a friend, a plate of bean jelly and a plate of ribs. " Mr. Shao has made great contributions to the development of Chinese language and writing. He was called "Desperate Saburo" in the press. His fame and level are obvious to all, but he dares to make fun of his thinness. Mr. Shao doesn't take himself seriously, let alone us?

Third, the mentality of diluting the effect Everyone has a mentality of pursuing perfection. Paying too much attention to the effect of the speech, especially in the speech contest, often backfires. Once, there was a debate between the two classes where I taught. There are four students in the slightly stronger class who are under great psychological pressure in the voice that the students think they will definitely win the championship. Before the competition, a famous student kept asking me what the standard was and whether I could be the best debater. Because they attach too much importance to the results of the competition, their sense of tension also increases, and even they go their own way and actively express themselves. Some students had a brain thinking fault because of nervousness, which interrupted the debate. The four students in another class, however, are prepared for the worst and strive for the best mentality to fight. As a result, the latter played down their achievements and actively cooperated with the other side to win, and the best debater was also won by their four debaters. The mentality of diluting the effect often has unexpected gains.