The son is married, should the mother always discipline him?

Mother should stop disciplining her son after he gets married.

Because he has grown up, has his own thoughts and has his own life, so adults must learn to let go and give children space. This is the love for children.

For example, my neighbor and mother have no jobs. Before her son got married, they took care of his life at home and took good care of his son. I think it's ok to be nice to the child, but you can't spoil him too much. Of course, the son is very grateful to his mother and is very kind to her. In this way, the son got married and they all lived together after marriage. After marriage, the mother takes care of her son's daily life as usual. The difference is that if there is one more person in the family, the mother will take care of one more person. Mother has become a habit and feels that this is what she should do.

In this way, every day, the mother will clean up, tidy up her son's house, help her son wash dirty clothes, and also help her daughter-in-law. Every day she cooks and waits for two people to go home, day after day. Until one day, my son and daughter-in-law were quarreling, and when my mother passed, they were silent. My mother asked what happened, but no one said anything, so she went back to the house and closed the door. My mother was at a loss. My mother just thought it was normal to care about the child's temper.

Send water to my son as usual at night, because I am used to getting up in the middle of the night to drink water, and I will put it directly in my room. Just as my mother walked to the door to go in, I heard her daughter-in-law say, I've had enough of this life. See your mother at home every day. We have no freedom at all. Look at your mother washing your clothes. I wash clothes, even my underwear. My own mother won't even help me wash it. Your mother helps me wash clothes. I won't thank your mother. I'm embarrassed to see your mother? .

The son said:? My mother is kind to help you. Not only are you ungrateful, but you also complain? . Daughter-in-law said again:? You see your mother dotes on you and does nothing at home. Every day when she comes home, she just lies in bed. Your mother has to wait on you, and all she needs is to help you go to the bathroom to eat. Your mother sticks to you like this every day. Doesn't she know you're married? It happens every day. Can't you give us some space? It's like watching a prisoner every day If not, why don't you live with your mother and we divorce? .

I really feel the same way about this, and so does my own mother-in-law. She thinks it's good for us and helps us, but it makes my husband and I have no private space. Every day, my mother-in-law dangles in front of me and suddenly runs to our dormitory. I'm really upset. But then my mother-in-law seemed to realize that we wouldn't care too much about our affairs, and we would knock at the door when we entered our bedroom, so there wouldn't be so many contradictions at home.

My mother was very wronged when she heard these words, thinking that she was so kind to them and wouldn't let them do anything. Every day, she just lets them go home and have food, and the home will always be clean and waiting for them, but they are not only ungrateful, but also complaining, which is really hard for them. Mother went back to the house, called her father and cried, saying that they were really two ungrateful things. I will definitely educate them when I meet them, but have you ever thought that maybe you really did something wrong? .

What my father said puzzled my mother. Of course, I am not confused, because I understand the feelings of two people, mainly because my mother is too strict. Father said:? Didn't the child say that she wanted to be free, and you appeared in their lives every day to help them take care of everything? They want the two of them, but you interfere in their lives too much, and you make them have no freedom. Remember that your son is married, not alone, and someone will be nice to him? .

Do you understand that if the son gets married, the mother can't treat the son as a child as before, and mainly the mother will only be kind to the mother, but this kind of kindness spoiled the son and disrupted their lives. After listening to his father's words, the mother realized that she doted on her son, who was an adult and didn't need to do it herself. Mom and dad found a house outside, moved out and began to quit their son's life.

After moving out, my mother still felt a little uncomfortable, so she played around with her mother to vent her emotions and began to live alone with her father. When she wanted to be young again, they went to the zoo to see camels. It seems to be monkeys and elephants. They both like to take pictures with elephants. My mother said that when my son was young, we often came here. When I think of my son, I will feel very happy. But now that my son has grown up, I feel so happy.

In this way, my mother and father did everything they wanted to do before, but they didn't. My mother said that the world is so big and there are so many things I have never seen before. In the past few years, I have been around my son. I'm almost out of this world. I live my own life and live for myself? . When he got home, his son asked his mother to be a guest at home. Mother has the key to the house, but it's useless. She rang the doorbell, and the mother and son told their interesting stories and experiences.

The mother said a lot, and the son suddenly hugged his mother and said, Mom, I thank you. I know you did it for me. I'm sorry, okay? . Mom said:? Son, you have not wronged me. I spoiled you too much before. You are married. I can't treat you like a child. Besides, my mother has worked hard all her life. I should live by myself, not for you? . Daughter-in-law came out and said, mom, we will be filial to you, okay? . Mom said:? I won't come here often in the future. I'm quitting your life? . Said three eyes are wet.

I advise parents not to spoil their children too much, and don't take them as their whole. Children need adult education when they are young, because adults are role models for children, but when children grow up, they don't need adult discipline. Everyone loves their children very much, but we can't let our love be a child's injury. As long as we give our children a good education and let them grow up, that's all.