Lying clover

People always lie. Anyone who says he doesn't lie is a complete lie. Some people lie all their lives, and their existence is a lie. Some people lie occasionally, and no one knows it is a lie except himself. Lies are sometimes just the speaker's good wishes, as long as they don't hurt people, it's no harm to tell them.

In my heart, there is a "lying clover". When I picked all the leaves without hesitation, I began to lie.

Its first leaf is kindness. Don't think that all lies are malicious, and kindness is more likely to take us to the other side of lies. A doctor who has worked for many years, when those terminally ill patients seriously shook his hand, eagerly asked: "doctor." Do you think I can be cured? " He always replied without hesitation: "It can be cured." He didn't even think it was a lie. This is the common hope of him and his patients. When things are not so bad, white lies are also the motivation to support us.

The second leaf of Clover is that this lie has no sinister consequences, and it is more like a humorous joke or a euphemistic excuse. For example, the gathering of friends in the literary world is elegant in the eyes of ordinary people, but most of them are not interested in me. However, it is not only impolite, but also a sign of pride that people invite you in good faith and flatly refuse, which is far from my original intention. At this time, I usually find excuses to shirk. For example, I said I was writing something, or I already had an appointment. ...

The third leaf is what I set for myself-I can tell lies and maintain my self-esteem. We often do wrong things. Mistakes are nothing, just correct them. But because of mistakes, I hurt my self-esteem in front of everyone, that is, trauma becomes internal injury, which can't be cured for a while. I didn't cover up my mistake. I will deeply review my shortcomings in the dark, but I don't want to act like a defective product in full view. Maybe everyone feels different about self-esteem, but most people are very sensitive on this issue. For the sake of self-esteem, we can lie; For the sake of self-esteem, we shouldn't keep a lie for too long. Because true self-esteem is based on continuous improvement, lies are only a temporary smoke screen.

With the growth of age, the "lying clover" in my heart gradually withered. I sometimes lie, but the frequency is much lower. The reason, I think, lies sometimes express a wish and reflect our hope for the truth. The rings of life are getting thicker and thicker, and the true nature of the world is like a beetle in amber, which is more and more present and needs our braver gaze. I have realized that the first element of life is not "goodness" but "truth". That's not a matter of "lying on clover", it's just a thatched cottage. We don't forgive such people because we have lied. There's a difference between saying it occasionally and saying it every day.

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