Why don't I ask my father-in-law to take care of the children?

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Considering that Jane has just turned two years old, she goes to school a little early and can eat and go to the toilet by herself, so you want grandpa to take care of us. After careful consideration, I decided not to let grandpa take care of me. Just talk about your inner thoughts.

First, grandpa is deaf. He has new headphones now, but he still can't hear clearly. Zhener is now in a sensitive period of learning Chinese. She urgently needs to practice, communicate with others and express herself. She needs a guardian who can respond to her promptly and accurately. Have you found out recently that Shinji will start a "fight" if he doesn't understand it after saying it for more than three times? Grandpa's slow reaction is bound to aggravate the little man's impatience.

Second, grandpa smokes. You know better than I do the harm of secondhand smoke to people's health. Grandpa himself admitted that he was not going to give up smoking. Quitting smoking is not an easy task, it takes a lot of perseverance, and I have no right to ask him to quit smoking. But I don't want the smell of second-hand smoke on his clothes to harm our young children all the time.

Third, grandpa has coronary heart disease. As you know, grandpa takes medicine all the year round. My hometown has 12 mu of land, although most of them are planted with wheat, only one mu of garlic, which requires a lot of manpower, is afraid of coronary heart disease. But wheat also needs management, such as watering, spraying, weeding and harvesting. For an old man in his sixties, this is already very tiring. Our family lives on the sixth floor, and young people can't get up. Grandpa will take Jane up and down every day, and his body will be too much. If we get sick while taking care of the children, our family will be paralyzed immediately.

Fourth, grandpa has no experience with children. You and my brother were both brought up by your mother when you were young. At that time, my father was only in charge of business, so he had no experience in raising children at all. He doesn't know when to add clothes and when to make up meals. Do you remember when my father dressed Fang upside down? Children over two years old are naughty, and I'm worried that grandpa, a big man, really can't stand it.

Fifth, life is inconvenient. I want to say that it is really inconvenient for my father-in-law and daughter-in-law to live under one roof. There is only one bathroom in our house. He should be careful, and I should be careful. The weather is getting warmer and warmer, and the clothes are becoming more and more single. After work, you can relax at will, but you still have to wear long clothes and trousers, just like going to work, which is very uncomfortable. It's embarrassing if you're not careful. I feel tired just thinking about it. Grandpa is used to being free in the village, which is full of people and things he is very familiar with. If he hangs around upstairs every day and is bored, he doesn't know anyone when he goes downstairs, because he is deaf and doesn't want to play jokes on others.

Sixth, it is unfair between brothers. My brother has a child, and grandpa has been neglected since childhood. Now, we have a second child, and he will help me look after the child. Will sister-in-law be angry when she knows? If you get sick while looking after the children, it will be regarded as because you are tired of looking after the children for us. If my sister-in-law pushes it aside then, we'll have to take care of Jane and Grandpa.

Seventh, raising children is a matter for parents. I always thought that parents were guardians of children. If they can afford it, they will be born. If they can't afford it, they won't be born. Judging from the feedback relationship, how many grandchildren are taking care of grandparents? Hardly. Therefore, grandparents have no obligation to look after their grandchildren. If the elderly are willing, it must be regarded as a favor, not an obligation. Let grandpa come to see Jane, which is also a kind of gnawing at the old. It is a shameful idea to treat old people as free nannies. So we must overcome this idea of taking advantage of the elderly. It's not easy for grandpa to support you to go to college. Now it's time to feed yourself. I can assure you that as long as he is alive, I won't ask him for a penny of the income from the field. If he is ill in hospital, he should pay as much as possible.

Dear, I know grandpa likes his granddaughter, too, and wants to be with her, accompany her and enjoy family happiness. I also like to see them happy. Therefore, my proposal is that grandpa will go to school to pick up the grid on Friday afternoon and everyone will be together on Saturday. In this way, grandpa saw his granddaughter's hard work without a license and made him happy together. When we are really busy at work, please ask grandpa to help us take care of the children for two days. As a thank you, we buy him some clothes and daily necessities from time to time.

As for Jane, I'm going to send her to the baby class, where the food is very good and there are many children of the same age. Find another nanny if you are not used to it for a while.

? Love your wife.

? 201April 3, 9