Even good friends should have proper limits.

1. Distinguish between politeness and closeness. I don't know if you have ever met such a person, who is highly educated, kind and polite, and won't take the initiative to say no to people around him. The better friends you are, the more you should be moderate in everything. The better the relationship between friends, the less you can consume this friendship excessively. Friendship is very precious. Only people with proper restrictions can have good social communication. In fact, the most important thing for friends to get along with each other is to know how to respect each other and keep proper boundaries between friends. People are willing to deal with people who respect others and know how to behave. In fact, keeping a proper distance from others is also a sign of one's wisdom. The more you know good friends, the closer your relationship is, and the more you should know how to operate with care. Even if two people are in love, give each other some space and keep each other's bottom line. Only by keeping a proper distance can we better maintain this precious friendship. My friend Xiaohong, a sunny girl, usually speaks directly. She always says that she is outspoken. However, it is precisely because of his outspoken attitude that more and more friends around him are getting farther and farther away from him. Because he is always particularly keen to get to the bottom of the matter, no matter big or small, there are always 100 thousand reasons. Sometimes it will bring great trouble to others, but he always says he is naive. Many things in the office are tacit, but he just wants to ask why, which sometimes leads to great embarrassment. Once, their company had a dinner party, and a group of people chatted with Kan Kan at the dinner table. One of their colleagues, Xiao Fang and Xiaohong, who have a good relationship with Xiaohong, sits next to each other. When the leader raised his glass to take the lead in drinking, Xiao Fang said that he could not drink, but he insisted on asking why he could not drink. The scene was once awkward. We can say that Xiaohong is young and ignorant, but it is because of his ignorance that people around him will gradually move away from her. No matter at work or in life, everyone needs his own space and privacy. It is good to keep some distance between friends. Everything is measured. Only those who do things within proper limits can maintain the friendship between friends and have good social contacts. Be a man, leave room for your speech, don't be too mean, don't expose other people's privacy, especially with some friends who are not particularly familiar, and keep a sense of proportion. Think twice before you do anything, and don't always impose your ideas on others. Personally, I think you should learn to think from the other person's point of view, not to interfere in other people's lives, but also to refuse others to disturb your life. Even good friends should have proper limits. If you don't want to talk, don't ask. In our life, there will always be a few people who are particularly talkative and care about other people's affairs. When I saw someone saying that they had insomnia late at night, I ran to ask them why. When they learned that their friends were lovelorn, they asked them why they broke up. They have the spirit of not delving into it, and others don't want to talk about it, but they still refuse to give up. Over time, everyone will be afraid of him and don't want to talk to him. "Everyone has secrets that they don't want to tell, and everyone has their own privacy. Friends who have insomnia late at night may have something they can't tell others, so they can only worry about themselves and can't sleep. So there is a sense of concern. Since others don't want to talk, we don't need to ask. There is no need to make others uncomfortable, but to make yourself boring. A friend of a friend is a friend of a friend, not your friend. I have two friends. Let's call them Xiao Zhang and Da Lai. They don't know each other. They just came to my company to make tea and met each other. Xiao Zhang heard that Dalai was a decoration designer, and Xiao Zhang just wanted to decorate the house, so he asked me to invite Dalai to make drawings for free. Because they are all friends, I didn't agree, so he said angrily, "Your friends are my friends. Since they are all friends, why not help? "Later, he went to the Dalai Lama himself and made many demands. After the drawings were made, he was not very satisfied because of some problems, and he said everywhere that the design level was not good. Because I can't get angry with him because of me, Dai Lai came to talk to me and said, "If it weren't for your face, this kind of person would really like to hit him and help him, but he won't get anything, and he will be spoken ill of everywhere." "I can understand the feelings of the Dalai Lama, because I often encounter such things in my life. They think that a friend of a friend is their friend, so it is natural to help themselves. For such a person, I just want to say that a friend of a friend is a friend of a friend, and a friend of a friend is not your friend. Helping you is for the sake of others' face. You are not grateful, but please don't maliciously slander them. People really don't owe you anything. A friend's wife can't be bullied. And a young friend, Xiao Li. Because of something, I added a young girlfriend. Young girlfriends often send out some chicken soup or life insights. Xiao Li often comments and praises, and often takes the initiative to find someone to chat with. Maybe Xiao Li doesn't think he's treating his girlfriend well, but what will Mix think when he sees it? There are still boundaries and distances between friends, and it is more important to keep a distance from friends' partners. This is not only the consciousness of being a man, but also the most basic respect for friends. Even if you mean no harm, be careful not to cause unnecessary misunderstandings and contradictions to them and affect their feelings. No matter how good a friend is, we should keep the distance between people. In communication, you should keep a certain distance, because after all, they are two objects, and there are no two identical people in the world. Even twins are not 100% identical, especially in personality. So they are easy-going and have their own shortcomings. The closer they get, the more unhappy they will be. Proper distance can make the other person feel fresh, thus creating a desire for contact. Under ideal control, people can easily accept the mistakes and shortcomings of others. Therefore, under the premise of contact desire, the other party can tolerate some wrong places, which increases the sense of tolerance and intimacy! Too close contact will make people feel bored, but if you can't speak it out directly, after a long time, you will find various objective reasons to find opportunities for freedom, but the other party will feel that there is something to hide from themselves or hide themselves, which will lead to suspicion and increase mutual distrust. It is this distrust that leads to many emotional breakups! Even if the relationship is iron, it is best for friends to be at arm's length and cherish it. In the final analysis, man is the contradictory unity of social attributes and natural attributes. When friends get along with each other, we must grasp the degree. Don't think that the other party is very tired, don't walk too close, it is easy to prick people, don't pay attention to words, meddle and ask for privacy; Money is not measured, brothers are unknown; There is a lack of humility and courtesy in daily life, and there is a lack of minimum respect. Friendship is a very special relationship. He is not related, but he can get along better than his brothers and sisters in good times. We should also remember that even our best friends should keep a certain distance. Over time, two independent individuals, in character and temper. When dealing with people and problems, it is inevitable that differences will arise. Once it is impossible to adjust the meeting, the relationship will crack. If you have a good relationship, there is no room for you to say what you shouldn't say and what you shouldn't do, and you have dug up the bottom with your friends and left a handle. After you turn against them, it will become a future trouble and bring a lot of right and wrong and troubles. Therefore, it is wise to leave half a sentence to your tongue and think twice before you act. After all, even a good friend should have a distance. Otherwise, it won't last long, friends will become bored, friendship will become weak, welcome you casually, and friendship will become indifferent.