The nanny took her grandson to buy food.

Junichi Watanabe, a Japanese writer, once said, "Men are more afraid of loneliness than women, and they are not good at living independently and are not good at communication. Strong on the surface, but weak in spirit. The wife died on average 3 years after her death, while the wife died on average 15 years after her husband's death. "

Of course, we can't verify the data he gave now, but what he said is very reasonable. Generally speaking, men often need women more in their later years, and women can live well even if they live alone. At this moment, think about some old people you know around you. Are there many such situations?

Generally speaking, the demand of old men to find wives is always stronger than that of women, because many men always want to be taken care of in life. They don't want to do housework and need someone to serve them.

However, there are many problems in remarriage now, not only seeking the opinions of children, but also involving the distribution of property and sometimes disputes. So some people choose to live together, some choose to sign a prenuptial agreement, and others choose "nanny-style paid companionship" ...

As its name implies, "nanny paid company" generally refers to taking care of your employer like a nanny, but you need to be with your employer for 24 hours, and some of them will live together. Of course, your employer needs to pay more than the average nanny.

This form is welcomed by many elderly men, who are willing to invite such a nanny to accompany them. It not only solves the problem of care in life, but also solves the problem of spiritual companionship. Children generally don't object, and there is no problem of property division. They only need to pay monthly wages.

But sometimes when something happens, different groups will have different reactions and attitudes to it. "nanny-style paid companionship" is popular with employers. What does nanny say?

A 55-year-old nanny spoke her mind. She said: I really regret being such a nanny. I betrayed my reputation and freedom with a monthly salary of 8 thousand, and now I quit.

What are her experiences and stories? Maybe it can bring us some thoughts and inspiration. Let's listen to her heart together.

Narrator: Aunt Li, a 55-year-old nanny.

My surname is Li. I am 55 years old. I am a rural woman. I have been farming at home all my life and have worked in several factories in the town. I only have one son, 30 years old and married.

My husband died unexpectedly when he was working a few years ago, and our family was left without a pillar. In the past, my husband did manual labor on the construction site every month, and his salary was six or seven thousand yuan, and his life was ok. But without a husband, I have no pension and no income at home. When my husband died, I got more than 200 thousand compensation, but when my son got married, I spent all the bride price and the down payment for the wedding room.

Do you know that Lao Wang has a monthly pension of more than 8 thousand

Soon after my son got married, my grandson was born, so I went to take care of him. In my son's neighborhood, I met Lao Wang, a 69-year-old retired cadre. His wife passed away a few years ago. He lives alone and has a monthly pension of more than 8000 yuan. He has only one son, and he is very promising. He earns a lot of money abroad and sends money to Lao Wang every month, but he doesn't come back to visit Lao Wang all the year round.

Sometimes I take my grandson in the garden of the community, and Lao Wang comes out for a walk. When we saw him more, we became familiar. I treat people warmly and can chat with Lao Wang. Once, Lao Wang complained to me, "It is really difficult to find a good nanny now. I found three, and they were not satisfied. One of them wants to eat kickbacks when buying food, and I found out. "

I asked Lao Wang, "You have so much money, why don't you find a wife?" ? Must find a nanny? "

Lao Wang said, "You think it's easy to find a wife. Finding a wife is more difficult than finding a nanny. Now many women are willing to remarry, and I don't want to give my son any trouble after remarriage. Still find a nanny to worry about and take care of me in life. "

I know that Lao Wang refers to the trouble of the property, and it's hard to say anything more.

Lao Wang asked me to be his nanny.

Unexpectedly, when my grandson went to kindergarten. Once, I met Lao Wang when I picked up my children. Lao Wang actually asked me if I would babysit for him. I'm a little surprised, but I think this is also a good thing. Now that my grandson is at school, I have more time and can earn a salary again. Besides, old Wang Ren is so good.

I told my son, and my son said to let me decide for myself, so I promised Lao Wang. At first, we agreed that I would only go to Lao Wang's house during the day, rest for four days every month, and earn 2500 yuan a month. Lao Wang and his son live in a community, and it is convenient for me to go to work every day. I am very satisfied with this nanny job.

After more than two years, one night, Lao Wang suddenly felt uncomfortable and called me. Fortunately, I heard you and took Lao Wang to the hospital with my son. Lao Wang is very grateful to us, and my relationship with Lao Wang is one step closer.

After Lao Wang was discharged from the hospital, he specially bought me a coat to express his gratitude. And take this opportunity to ask me: "Are you willing to take care of me 24 hours a day, which is what some people now call' nanny-style paid companionship'?" I will raise your salary to 7 million. I am getting older and older now, and no one around me really can't. "

I'm a little hesitant.

Seeing that I didn't reply, Lao Wang added, "I raised my salary to 8 thousand, which is really quite a lot in our county." It's not easy to find a nanny like you. It is rare that our personalities are so compatible. "

I was persuaded by the salary of 8000 yuan, and the monthly salary of my son and daughter-in-law only adds up to 8000 yuan. I said I would go home and discuss it with my son before replying to Lao Wang, but I was already elated.

Hearing this, the son said, "I don't agree. You have a bad reputation for living in his house like this. Our life now is ok. There is no need to be such a nanny for money. "

But I wouldn't listen. I know my son is under great pressure. He and his daughter-in-law both work in textile mills and do manual labor. Sometimes the factory is inefficient and always defaults on wages. They also have mortgages and car loans. I want to earn more money, not only to subsidize my son, but also to save a pension for myself.

I sold my reputation and freedom for a monthly salary of 8 thousand yuan.

In this way, regardless of my son's opposition, I lived in Lao Wang's house and received a salary of 8,000 yuan per month. But since I lived in Lao Wang's house, Lao Wang's attitude towards me has become worse and worse, his temper has become bigger and bigger, and his demands on me have become more and more. He always suspects that I am not doing well here and there. What bothers me more is that I really have to stay with him 24 hours a day, and I have no freedom at all.

Sometimes the daughter-in-law has something to do I want to go to my son's house to take care of my grandson, but he doesn't agree. Maybe Lao Wang feels that he deserves more services for paying such a high salary. But for this salary, I choose to put up with it.

Unexpectedly, many people in our village actually said that I have "ears" and that I have a proper relationship with Lao Wang. Otherwise, how could people give me such a high salary? What makes me even more unbearable is that someone said that my son can let his mother be such a nanny for money!

I was shaking with anger after hearing this, but I still didn't resign for the salary of 8000 yuan. I think I seldom go back to the village now. Let them talk if they want to.

Finally, I resigned because my daughter-in-law was pregnant with a second child and my little granddaughter was born. Although my daughter-in-law also invited a new moon, I still want to visit my son's house and help. In such a short time, Lao Wang disagreed, thinking that all my time was his. I resigned because of this. In fact, I also thought that when my daughter-in-law went to work after maternity leave, no one would take her little granddaughter.

When he resigned, Lao Wang was a little surprised. He didn't expect me to give up such a high salary, but I have sold my reputation and freedom for this 8 thousand yuan salary. I have already regretted it. I can't go on like this. Now I finally have such an opportunity to make up my mind to resign. I want to see my own granddaughter. Should I babysit for others and ask a nanny to take care of my granddaughter? I'm not sure.

After I resigned, I went back to my son's house and looked at my grandchildren. My heart is extremely relaxed, and I don't have to manage people for 24 hours anymore.

I will never be such a nanny again. Give me 10000 a month, and I won't do it either.

Jiao Xiao Xinyu:

This is Aunt Li's experience. As a nanny, although I got a monthly salary of 8000 yuan, I paid a lot of labor and cost, and I was not happy.

So when we make a choice, we should not only see the high salary, but also see the price behind it.

What do you think of the form of "nanny-style paid companionship"? Do you agree? Do you think it's worthwhile for Aunt Li to pay fame and freedom for a salary of 8,000 yuan?