About the second marriage (the feeling of a 43-year-old remarried woman)

Before getting married, many people may have imagined that two people can spend the rest of their lives in the sunset. At first, we were all happy about our marriage. But after entering the marriage, we found that many people in real marriage are involuntarily. Whether a marriage is happy or not depends on whether two people can keep their initial heart and go on.

Everyone has a different definition of happiness and will do different things in the process of realizing happiness in the future, but both of them are working hard for future happiness. If two people can really be loyal to each other and grow old together, of course they are happy, but if someone leaves halfway, they should also reflect on themselves and blame others.

Morphy, a famous host, said: "Some losses are doomed, and some predestinations will never bear fruit. Love a person, you don't necessarily have it. If you have someone, you must love her. "

For the marriage you have lost, since there is no room for recovery, it is just a waste of time to spend too much energy and thought. At this time, you can find the next happiness. When you meet the right person again, it will lead to a second marriage.

The world always talks about "most married couples are thieves", but in fact, no matter whether they get married for the first time or for the second time, their views and requirements on happiness are essentially the same. Both of them are working for the same interest.

So if you have a second marriage, you must learn to be honest with each other, let go of the past and cherish the present in order to have a better future.

This article describes the feelings of a 43-year-old remarried woman. After a failed marriage, she was deeply touched by the happiness of her second marriage: the second marriage began with these four words.

In retrospect, Fang Wei's first marriage was not happy. At first, she and her ex-husband met through blind date. They got married after talking for half a year.

The ex-husband has a good financial condition. After they got married, they had a good life. Although there was a little less sweetness and romance that they liked each other, fortunately, they had a good life. It didn't take long for the two of them to have problems. The three views are inconsistent, but the living habits are the opposite. The ex-husband is still her mother-in-law, and gradually the local Wei can't stand it in marriage.

I thought their life would be better after having children, but with the birth of my daughter, new problems came again. My mother-in-law wants a grandson and urges for a second child, and she doesn't care. Fang Wei was forced to be a stay-at-home mom. Then my ex-husband cheated on me. Fang Wei couldn't accept it, so she divorced her ex-husband. The daughter is her own, and the son's ex-husband is in charge.

At the time of divorce, her ex-husband tried to keep her, but in Fang Wei's mind, she still couldn't accept it, so she was quite determined to divorce the other party. In the year of her first divorce, Fang Wei devoted most of her thoughts to her work for the sake of her children. She knows very well that it is not easy to live with children in her second marriage. If she wants to remarry, she should also have a certain economic foundation.

It was not until the age of 40 that Fang Wei remarried. Under the introduction of friends, she met her husband Xu Kai, who is also single and divorced with a son. Xu Kai is two years younger than her. At first, Fang Wei felt embarrassed and stiff. She was afraid to contact soso. Soso was the first to open his heart.

During the months of getting along, Fang Wei found that soso and she have many common hobbies, and they can do many things together. Most importantly, soso can accept her daughter. He is very kind to his daughter, and sometimes even Fang Wei has a headache for her rebellion, but soso is quite patient and gets along well with her daughter.

So, after getting along for half a year, the two entered the second marriage hall. After marriage, Xu Kai took the initiative to hand over his salary to Fang Wei for management. At first, Fang Wei was a little embarrassed, but soso said, "Now that we are married, we are a family. It doesn't matter who has the money. Everyone is a woman in charge of money. When you hold it, you will feel safe. Take it! "

Looking at soso's frankness, Fang Wei accepted soso's sincerity and sincerely paid for this family. For a time, Xu Kai was too busy to take care of his son and family, so Fang Wei took care of everything at home and kept it in good order. When soso came back from dinner in the evening, Fang Wei was afraid that he would hurt his health, so he made sober soup for him and cooked porridge for him early the next day. Although they are married for the second time, they are very happy.

Now they have been married for more than three years, and their lives are very happy. After so many years of husband and wife life, Fang Wei also understood a truth. If she wants to be happy in her second marriage, she must be honest with each other.

First of all, be honest with the economy. Economy is the core and foundation of a family. If it is difficult for two people to get together economically after marriage, even if you don't know the details of each other, then you have no confidence that two people can go on together.

If one party is willing to take out his salary and give it to you for management, so that you can enjoy the dominant position in this family, you will feel safe and take the other party and this family to heart because of the same interests.

After three years of marriage, soso has never hidden private money. If she has no money, she will ask Fang Weiyi, she will remember every sum of money she spent, and Fang Wei will also write down her daily expenses. Tell soso to reassure him that there are figures.

Second marriage, although two people are in charge of money separately, they also dominate each other. They can not only know each other's details, but also be familiar with everything at home. It's hard to be unhappy.

Second: be honest with your children. Second marriage, the problem of children has always been a very sensitive topic. In many cases I have contacted, many married couples can't be honest with their children and treat each other's children as other people's children, especially boys. In the end, neither of them was happy.

In fact, when we first started together, Fang Wei thought that Xu Kai's kindness to his daughter was just a way for him to pursue himself. But when her daughter was bullied on campus because she had no father, soso stepped forward. soso's concern and consideration for her daughter in her daily life made her see hope. In the year of her daughter's senior high school entrance examination, Xu Kai accompanied her to work overtime to do her homework. Every night, she gives her lectures in person, cooks supper and heats milk. Even Fang Wei was ashamed.

Some people say: "remarried couples, if two people ignore their children's wishes or don't get their children's approval, then their children are a time bomb in your marriage life."

It was her daughter who gave Fang Wei hope, and so did Xu Kaicai.

Therefore, if in the second marriage, two people can treat each other's children fairly, treat each other honestly on the children's issues, and let the children accept themselves, then this will certainly be conducive to the development of each other's feelings.

In a word, it is important to be honest with each other if you want to be a happy couple.

In addition, for two people, we should learn to satisfy ourselves and let go of the past. Now that the marriage is over, forget it. After the second marriage, keep an appropriate distance from your ex. Don't be confused with your ex for one reason or another. Now that it is over, it is over.

Let go of the past, in the second marriage, two people have the same goal, and you are willing to be honest with each other and deal with financial problems and children's problems, so it is actually easy to manage this relationship well.

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After the divorce, you remarried. How are you now?

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