The nanny abused the baby for 40 days. Why are people in the comment area accusing the mother?

Mr. Fan, a citizen of Chongqing, has a daughter after marriage with his wife. When the child was more than forty days old, because both husband and wife had to go to work, they found a nanny to take care of the child. The nanny is the mother of his wife's former colleague and has rich experience. According to previous observation, my aunt is still very conscientious. So, the two went to work with confidence and left their children to their aunts.

Disembarking, one day at work, because my wife wanted to have a baby, she turned on the camera and wanted to see the baby. The scene I saw made my wife collapse on the spot.

In the video, the aunt holds the baby's head, shakes it hard, slaps the baby's face, and even throws the baby up and repeats it. After that, he took the baby out of the stroller, fanned the baby with his hand and knocked his head on the bed. The baby cried loudly, and the aunt held the baby and grabbed its nose with her hands.

When she saw the video, Mama Mai really felt suffocated. Babies who are only forty days old should know that even if they don't have the knowledge of child care, they can't shake and flap so vigorously.

In addition to being extremely distressed by the child and hating the cold-blooded temper of the nanny, Mai Ma felt even more distressed by this mother when she saw many comments in the comment area.

The first thing to say is that the elderly have no obligation to help their children with their children. Grandma or grandma. It's your duty to help you with your children, not to help you with your children. You can't kidnap an old man's life with a child. What's more, retirement to 65 will be delayed soon. At that time, even the old people wanted to take it, but they couldn't get it, because it was not retirement time yet.

My mother-in-law doesn't bring it, but my daughter-in-law won't let me. Maybe my parents-in-law have a job, or they are in poor health when they are old, or they have already taken their children to other children, but they just can't.

Similarly, my parents have the ability and time to take care of their children, and they will definitely come. Have you found that there are old people in the community and parks who come to look after their children in Wan Li, not far from home?

A mother doesn't go to work and takes care of her children at home full time. It is said that she eats and drinks for nothing. Once a child has a little cold and cough, he will be accused of doing nothing, and even a child can't be optimistic.

Dealing with children's shit for many years, divorced from society, may also encounter derailment and domestic violence. Even if you divorce, you can't even get custody of your children because you don't have a stable source of income. Think of Hefei, the mother who took her baby and was sued by her in-laws, abused by men and forced to jump off a building without any money.

Being accused of cruelty at work. How can I rest assured that the baby is so small that the nanny can take care of it? Money is so easy to earn that you go to work after giving birth? Some people even say, why do you have children when no one takes care of them? Don't, born as a woman, even have no basic reproductive rights? Moreover, a woman is not only a mother, but also herself.

There used to be a housewife in Beijing who had been married for five years and did housework for five years. In the end, the economic compensation for housework was only 50 thousand yuan. Five years, 50 thousand Moreover, the judge righteously warned women-married women-to learn to balance the relationship between family and self-growth, pay attention to self-improvement, cherish job opportunities and maintain economic independence.

Well, we actively responded to the judge's call, cherish our work, cherish going to work after the second month, and leave the children at home to the nanny for care, even if it is only forty days. After all, it's only 10 thousand a year to take a baby to do housework full-time at home, and the worst thing to do when you go out to work for a year is 40 thousand or 50 thousand Now that the child is abused by the nanny, instead of blaming the nanny, she accuses the mother of not taking good care of the child, which makes the mothers very embarrassed.

The mother will go to work 40 days after the baby is born. Where is the maternity leave? What about the agreed five-month maternity leave? After the maternity leave, the post has been adjusted and the income has dropped sharply. Who will protect women's right to work?

As an ordinary person, it is difficult for everyone. I believe that no mother wants to leave her baby for 40 days and come out to work. How can she raise children without making money? How to give her the best education? What can I use to repay my mortgage and car loan when I'm not at work?

I especially remember that when I gave birth to a baby, the maternity leave was only three months. In order to keep my job, I worked at home just after the second month. Because I am the editor of the internal magazine, I can finish it at home without delaying the normal work of the unit.

I don't need anything at work except that I can't punch in and out on time every day, and I can't stay in the office for eight hours. The magazine is printed as scheduled every month, and there is no delay for a day, but I didn't get my salary when I was on the job, except for the money reported by maternity insurance.

Seeing this, it is estimated that some people will say, why don't you apply for labor arbitration? Sure, what are the advantages of fighting with the company? Not only will you lose your job, but you will also be 30 years old. How many companies are willing to admit you? Come to think of it, that was thirteen years ago. It is understandable that some policies or benefits are not perfect. The times are developing and cognition is changing. Everything will get better and better.

Now that more than ten years have passed, most units can still guarantee maternity leave and breastfeeding leave for women, but how many mothers have to give up their career plans and go back to their families to spend the most important first three years with their children? Usually three years later, after the children go to kindergarten, the mother will choose to return to the workplace again. However, how many women in their thirties can find suitable jobs? Not to mention, I have to spend most of my time sending my children to and from school. Which unit is willing to have an employee take time off to pick up or take care of the children when they are sick? It is easy to say that children have become successful in education, but whenever there are rebels and poor students, someone will jump out and say that mothers have failed to educate even one child.

For my mother, it is wrong to go to work, and it is also wrong not to go to work full-time; It is wrong to ask the elderly to take care of their children, and it is also wrong not to ask the elderly to take care of their children; It is wrong to ask a nanny to take care of the children, it is wrong not to ask a nanny to take care of the children by herself, and it is wrong to do everything.

If socialized child-care services can't keep up, if the rights of stay-at-home mothers can't be effectively guaranteed, and if women are always required to make sacrifices in marriage, improving the marriage rate and fertility rate will only be a castle in the air and difficult to achieve.