Inner Game-Day 265

This time I personally experienced the harm of self-doubt and self-denial. No, it should be more than once. It happened before, but I didn't understand or realize it.

I don't know when I began to feel less confident about what I did. Sometimes I was criticized by others when I did it right, and I also doubted myself.

What are the consequences of this mentality? Passive Nuo Nuo, standing still, hesitates and doubts everything he does. Even if he has thought clearly, he will still have doubts, especially in the decision-making related to money.

One thing happened in my work these days, which made me see my weakness more clearly.

The thing is, the day before yesterday, a township customer ordered the goods of our company, and I need to take them to him. One thing to note is that the customer does not order directly from our company, and there is a third-party intermediary company in the middle, so the actual price obtained by this customer is higher than the market price.

Because the customer lives in a township, only a rough location is left. I have no choice but to guide him through navigation and then ask for directions. I have a general direction and can basically ask names.

Arriving at the destination provided by the navigation, I asked several passers-by in succession but failed to find the specific location of the customer's home. It seems too easy for me to imagine, but in fact it's not that easy.

After about half an hour, I finally asked a passerby who knew the customer. When she saw me pulling goods, she chatted with me with great interest. During the chat, she learned that she also needed our products. She was going to go to the city to buy it herself, but she couldn't stay at home alone (it was later learned that her husband would not come back for some time). So she left me a phone number and asked me to go to her house to contact her for measurement after unloading the goods.

To tell the truth, I really thought she was just talking casually and didn't take it to heart. Then, she pointed to the direction of the client's home, and I drove away.

The goods were not much, and they were finished in less than half an hour. I just took a sip of water and when I turned around, I saw that big sister coming towards me just now. She said, master, my home is not far ahead. Please take me there and help me measure the area. After listening, I readily agreed and drove to her house.

I measured the whole room, estimated the price in my mind, and found it was a big bill of 10 thousand yuan! I'm so happy. This is an unexpected thing. It's a bit like a pie in the sky.

In order to ensure that I don't run away, I asked my sister to pay a part of the deposit first. Big sister is also very sincere and paid the money without thinking. With the money, I returned to the company. On the way back, I had a bad feeling that things were not so simple, too smooth and a little unimaginable.

Before I could think about it, the next day, a moth appeared.

My boss called me before lunch. I came up with a particularly good tone, saying that I was spying on the corner and robbing other people's customers. I also said that the elder sister who placed the order yesterday had something to do with the customer, and people agreed to place an order from them, so I stopped her.

After listening to it, I was a little puzzled. Yesterday, that big sister was actually a client of other partners? But she didn't tell me anything. Then, the boss asked me to refund the deposit, saying that this order was unacceptable to avoid misunderstanding.

When the boss said this, I was scared at that time, and I backed out. Give it back to me. I know it's not easy to get this money. Although I said quit, I still can't bear it. I've been struggling with this all day, doing nothing and eating nothing. It's your chance, but you can't grasp it. I have been playing for a long time.

At that moment, I really began to doubt myself. I was scared. Suspicion of what? I doubt I'm snooping around the corner. Scared of what? Afraid of corporate accountability, afraid of partners gnashing their teeth. Although I know I didn't do anything that violated the cooperative relationship, who can believe it? If the other party insists that I want to pry the corner, I'm not sure! In this way, following the negative thoughts, the more I think about it, the more I feel that I have done something wrong, and the more I think about it, the less confident I am.

I remember I wrote a post about my PUA six months ago, which was about my current psychological state of "self-denial and self-doubt". I don't believe what I did, even if I am not wrong.

When I realized this, I thought I should know the whole story before making a decision, instead of denying myself before it started.

Then, I took the initiative to call my client, Sister Chen, and got a detailed understanding of the real situation. It turned out that the other partner wanted Chen Jie to buy their products, but after comparison, Chen Jie felt that their products did not meet her requirements, so she found me to cooperate. Later, after the other partner learned the news, he didn't know whether it was out of anger or what kind of psychology, and ran to our boss to sow discord and said that I used improper means to dig customers.

In order to tidy up myself, I sent screenshots of my chat with Sister Chen to my boss. Finally, I saved the order and proved my innocence. Many times, as long as we are doing our best, we should not be afraid of being entangled in children. There are so many monsters in this world that you can't hide. The more you avoid them, the more they bully you. The correct way is to face them and solve them. You must believe in yourself and don't hesitate.