About the transparent self

About the transparent self

Regarding the transparent self, our own survival or growth have different meanings to us, so it is very important no matter what stage we are at. ’s role, then let’s learn about the transparent self below. About the Transparent Self 1

I haven’t had the habit of writing a diary or publishing comments for a long time. Last night I promised to write a diary alone. After much thought, I decided to write about my transparent self, and at the same time reflect and recall. I also write about my own experiences and growth, and my views on issues at different times. Let yourself settle down and be quiet in this noisy era. Look at the past, think about the future, and let yourself mature.

When the memory is opened, those pictures that I thought were beautiful in the past come to my mind. It’s not that I have forgotten the bitterness of the past, but that the days settled in those days of childhood are so clear. No matter how many years have passed, I will always remember them. You can see through the turbid years the transparent heart of the past.

When we were children, we were so simple. What life, what career, what rights, what money, what status... are all so far away from us. Our days are transparent, our lives are transparent, and even our hearts are transparent. At that time, we didn't know how many times we said to our companions, "I won't play with you anymore, and I don't want to see you again." But after a while, we held hands and sang together again that we are good friends. But now, we have not seen each other since we said goodbye, but how many people let go of each other's hands easily just because of a word or a small thing; when we were children, we were so diligent, and we would prepare something for the people around us every festival. A small gift may be just a dime card, but we are very attentive, but now, we are too lazy to do a small thing for the people around us, even the closest ones. What is even more sad is that sometimes we do , but that person didn’t take it seriously; when we were children, we were so easily satisfied, with popsicles costing 10 cents, instant noodles costing 50 cents... We ate happily, but now we eat ice cream and ice cream costing several yuan. Money's instant noodles... but they no longer have the happiness and sweetness of childhood? We used to wear cheap clothes and felt very beautiful, but now we wear famous brands and colorful clothes, but will you walk through the crowd with your head held high like you did when you were a child? I don’t think so, because we no longer have the fearless courage to move forward as we did when we were children.

When we were children, we were particularly envious of those adults and liked their mature faces. Now, we have really grown up, but we find that deep down we still prefer the simple and transparent childhood.

We want to go back to the past, to that simple and happy childhood, where we held hands and sang songs, ate cheap snacks together, quarreled together and made up, played hide-and-seek, played sandbags, and played house together. Home...and the homework we never play with. We want to laugh happily and cry happily once. We don’t think about anything, just think about the present. It’s that simple.

We have grown up and gained a lot, but we have lost the most precious simplicity. Now we are bound by too much worldliness. Those days will only appear. In the dream, and we can never go back...

It is no longer the age of ignorance, nor the flowering season of dreaming. The passing years have written the wandering past. The gurgling river of life, the journey of flowers blooming and withering, the ups and downs, bit by bit, bloom in the heart lake like a piece of coriander and duckweed. The thoughts that flowed upstream floated in the wind, and I saw the wasted footprints and the mottled scars, bit by bit, confusing the crystal tears in my eyes.

I like to look up at the sun on a sunny day, squinting my eyes and looping the single, missing someone in my heart, or being reminded by him on the phone of the sweetness of being loved. Nothing, this is how life should be, living. Refined, not rough and monotonous. Words, music, and the quiet sound of the keyboard, it seems like a lifetime is passing by so warmly. What flows is the song, which settles into a poetic Andante in the bottom of my heart, line by line, paragraph by paragraph, as warm as honey.

My wish is actually very simple, that is, I hope to hold hands with you and enjoy the shots on the roadside, walk side by side with you through the noisy streets, and sit head-to-head with you in front of the TV My tenderness, looking into each other's eyes face to face with you, staring with you to expose each other's cunning, stepping foot to foot across mountains and rivers with you, savoring the long flow of love back to back with you.

There is no need to make your young mind heavy. The vicissitudes of life on the surface and the seriousness on the surface cannot make you a philosopher; if you leave all your friends, all you will have is a lonely figure. Since I can't become profound now, I will make myself relaxed. How can a person with a sad face hear the sound of flowers blooming; how can a person pretending to be himself understand the excitement among the frogs croaking.

A person always looks up to and admires the happiness of others. When he looks back, he finds that he is being looked up to and envied. In fact, everyone is happy. However, your happiness is often in the eyes of others.

When you can no longer have it, the only thing you can do is to make yourself not forget it. If one day I can't help but ask you who is your favorite person, please lie to me. No matter how reluctant you are, please always say that your favorite person is me. I don't mind what other people think of me, I just want to be happier than others. If you can forget everything, every day will be a new beginning.

Sometimes, I hope that time will stop for me, and I will live forever with the person I like; sometimes, I find that the people around me don’t understand me, and I suddenly feel speechless when facing the people around me. Sometimes, when you are vulnerable, you want to hide alone and don't want others to see your wounds; sometimes, you suddenly want to escape from your current life and want to pack your simple luggage and go wandering at all costs.

Maybe we like a song not because of how beautiful its melody is, but because of the mood we feel when listening to the song. Maybe we fall in love with a person not because of how perfect he is, but because of how perfect he is. Falling in love with the feeling of being with him may be just a feeling. That feeling may be what we have always missed, it may be what we cherish. If we fall in love, we may regret it, but we choose it without hesitation. Go on.

Don’t avoid the mistakes in your destiny. When you can correct them, don’t dwell on them, otherwise you will be exhausted. Don’t collide too much with the outside world. Too strong will break easily, and too strong will not last long. Only by balancing hardness and softness will you suffer less setbacks; don't insist too much, learn to be forbearing and giving in. This is redeeming and protecting yourself; when it's time to let go, don't be reluctant. If you give up like this, you will be compensated elsewhere. .

The beauty of marriage and love often has nothing to do with money and material things, and can maintain its inherent quality in the worldly package. Once this package is opened, money and materials will eat away at the body of love like bacteria. As a result, we gradually forget the warmth of hugging each other and the warmth of holding hands, and finally let love die slowly in our careful calculation. In fact, the simpler and more innocent the marriage and love are, the more beautiful and lasting they will be. About the Transparent Self 2

A recruitment website recently announced the results of a survey involving workers: more than 70% of workers have suffered "cold violence" in the workplace.

The survey showed that among the "cold violence" suffered by people in the workplace, "not being reused by leaders" ranked first with a ratio of 44.5, followed by "working hard to get a promotion or a salary increase" "It's not my turn", with a ratio of 41.2. The third place is "leaders often give themselves little shoes to wear". For example, if they arrange tasks that are simply impossible to complete, the ratio is 29.2.

Case 1:

He has excellent performance but is regarded as a "transparent person"

After graduating from college last year, Xiao Li entered a company through application to be responsible for sales business . In order to attract the attention of the boss, colleagues in the company often invite the boss to dinner. But Xiao Li believes that "God rewards those who work hard, and as long as they work hard, they will still be taken seriously." Therefore, he does not deliberately try to get close to his boss.

Xiao Li gradually discovered that no matter how outstanding his performance was, his boss always ignored him and regarded him as a "transparent person". As soon as he returned to work after the Spring Festival, he was told that the important customers he had previously been responsible for had been assigned to other colleagues. At the same time, his opportunity for business trips and inspections was also cancelled. Only then did Xiao Li realize the seriousness of the problem, so he took the initiative to find his boss and express his desire to treat him to dinner, but his boss refused because he had no time. Now Xiao Li is ready to resign.

“Not only for the treat, but also for the boss’s birthday or home decoration, he never showed up.” Xiao Wang, an employee of the company, commented on Xiao Li, saying that he is arrogant and a little ignorant, so he Marginalized by leadership.

Expert comments: Newcomers who have just joined the company often complain that the work assigned to them by their supervisors has low technical content. The seniors in the company do not take them seriously, or do not pay attention to the relationship with their bosses. Over time, this leads to Separated from each other, he was gradually left out. Typical remarks, "You think I am just air!" to complain about not being taken seriously. In fact, in many cases, it is because you treat others as nothing first. Some people think that just do your job well. But the workplace is actually a small society. Sometimes you need to pay special attention to human relations. For those who have just joined the job, it is even more necessary. study.

Case 2:

Career encounters bottleneck and suddenly left out

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Four years ago, the boss graduated from many universities He chose Zhao Xiao and has always valued her. Zhao Xiao is a very grateful person, especially cherishing this hard-won advertising planning job. He works hard and gives full play to the professional advantages he has learned. He often comes up with some wonderful planning plans and is very popular with his boss. of reuse.

But at the beginning of this year, the company introduced a planner who had returned from studying in the United States. He launched several planning plans one after another and was highly praised by customers. As a result, the company's major projects were handed over to him. Zhao Xiao gradually became a supporting role and could only help this "turtle", which made her feel very disappointed. Especially in the past six months, her boss no longer assigns important tasks to her, and there is no praise from her before. She cannot even think about a salary increase or promotion... She has become transparent in front of her boss. Should I leave or stay? If I leave, it is difficult to find a good job under the current severe employment situation. If I stay, how should I face these difficult days? Zhao Xiaozhen doesn’t know what to do.

Comments from workplace experts: After working for a period of time, especially after three to five years, you will encounter your own career bottleneck, especially in creative industries like advertising. When you encounter difficulties in your career, you will inevitably be ignored by your boss. This kind of neglect is like the neglect of one spouse in the family after they have been married for a period of time. Many employees feel depressed after encountering "cold violence". In fact, they should cheer up. You could do well before, and you can do well now. Face it with a positive attitude, do everything well, and get your boss back. To appreciate you, the sunshine always comes after the storm.

Expert comments

The key to getting out of trouble is to rely on yourself

Some workplace experts believe that there are many reasons for encountering "cold violence" in the workplace , sometimes because the other party is too strong, sometimes because the organization’s centripetal force is not strong. But those who are always ignored and made transparent need to think carefully about why you become a transparent person in the workplace. Maybe it's not all the fault of others, but mainly your own fault. The key is not to be discouraged, but to cheer up. The following five tips can help you get out of the embarrassing situation:

1. Adjust your mentality. When facing a loss of favor, you should not become depressed, but should have a normal heart and face it positively. The promotion of many people is not entirely due to ability, but more due to their mature mentality and broadmindedness.

2. Reflect on the reasons. No matter what the reason is for falling out of favor, you should reflect on yourself and apologize to your boss, but you should not let your boss lose confidence in you.

3. Strengthen learning. Recharge in time, improve yourself, regularly or irregularly attend vocational training classes or listen to lectures by writers, read more, strengthen connections with peers, grasp the latest developments and trends in the industry, re-inspire inspiration, and achieve breakthroughs.

4. Take action.

Try your best to gain opportunities and prove yourself, and you will be able to safely survive the period of falling out of favor.

5. Change your behavior. Of course, excessive flattery is not recommended, but it should be distinguished from normal communication. Not all communication is excluded, otherwise you will unintentionally alienate yourself from your colleagues and superiors.