The battle of love tells us eight truths.

Love Battle is a love counseling program launched by Tianjin Satellite TV. When men and women in the world of mortals are worried about their feelings, watching the guests on the stage happy, crying and hesitating, there will always be a program that touches your heart.

1. There are no shortcuts in the world.

Girls and boys are college classmates, and their love at graduation is also tested by breaking up in different places. The boy promised the girl that if she went back to her hometown, her job, house and hukou would be solved. The temptation of big cities is enormous. The girl and the boy went to his hometown, but none of her promises were fulfilled. Girls work hard, but boys are addicted to games. Even if the girl's parents come, the boy just shows up and asks when to get married. The boy replied that he didn't know at home yet.

As long as you walk with this man, you can leave the small city on the 18th line and come to the big city of temptation. But I forgot that that person doesn't represent a big city, and the shortcut I thought made me pay more. Down-to-earth, the road is getting wider and wider, and the winding shortcut has become a cecal path.

The influence of family background is very important.

Psychologically, it emphasizes the influence of family background on individuals. For example, children whose parents quarrel are likely to continue this pattern in marriage, because they did not learn the correct way of falling in love when they were young. Another example is a family without a father, and sons tend to be more attached to their mothers, because mothers often regard their sons as the imaginary "other half".

There is a story in the first issue of Battle of Love: Brother-sister relationship is very common, right? But that woman shouted either your mother or my slogan, which was unusual. It turns out that neither boys nor mothers like older women who have "bad jobs". That woman doesn't give her a good look every time she goes to her house. Even if the woman arranges hospitalization for her and reimburses all expenses, she will turn against her when she leaves the hospital. The man really doesn't want to disobey his mother, but he doesn't want to leave his girlfriend. The woman quit, the man ate her and drank her, and even she gave the man money to raise her mother, and the result was not good.

There was a sentence in the program that impressed me deeply: "I spent some money on you. What happened?" Few men in the world can take women's money seriously without dignity. More like a child complaining to his mother. After careful inquiry, I know that when a man was a child, his parents divorced, and he lacked the image of a man that his father should give him. The strength of his mother also made him have no independent personality. Of course, he didn't learn to be an indomitable person. Although he is an adult, he acts more like a boy looking for "breast milk" everywhere.

In my opinion, the so-called fate is to point out one's family. You can't choose to come from a family, and you are likely to live according to its trajectory. It is never easy to get rid of it, and it takes great efforts.

3. Like-minded, like-minded

Two young people are soul mates, and they love each other, maybe even more. Because of looks, temperament, material and knowledge, I don't know why I am infatuated. Because love throws us together, those who decide to be together are always like-minded.

In a program, there is such a pair of childhood lovers: girls and boys have been in love since junior high school, and both parents agree. This is complete happiness? End. But after graduation, differences came: boys wanted to stay in their hometown and get married early, while girls wanted to go to Guangzhou to accumulate experience, start their own businesses and get married for a while. During the live broadcast, boys have been emphasizing: "Do you know how difficult it is to start a business? how much is it? It is good for girls to get married early and have children. " I don't understand girls' asking for trouble at all.

Seeing this, I really want to sigh that birds know the ambition of a swan. Whether it is stability or entrepreneurship, no one is right or wrong, just in different ways and without common goals. I can't give you the stability you want, and you can't stand the wonderful twists and turns I want. When two people are together, one of them must have been wronged, and he can endure the injustice for a while, but giving up his lifelong dream is tantamount to living in purgatory. Only two like-minded people can make life better. We are separated because we love each other, because we have different aspirations and different ways. Adult love, more importantly, know your own needs.

4. Don't fantasize about love

When Lin faced Xu Zhimo's pursuit, he simply said, "He doesn't love me, but he imagined me with the poet's romantic feelings." This is great wisdom, but today there are still many lovers who are looking for marriage and indulge in fantasy.

In one episode, a girl fell in love with a young man and treated him like life, but she still couldn't stop the young man from having one affair after another. The guest teacher advised the girl to leave, but the girl was reluctant to say, "He is really good to me, and everything depends on me"; If you don't leave, the girl will be miserable again: "I really don't want to clean up his mess again." Every time the women he is looking for ask me to clean up, I am fed up. "

Do boys love girls? I don't know. What I know is that if there is such a girl who can be my free old maid and sleep with me, I will not refuse if I am a man. Just sweet talk? Doing housework occasionally is a good man? A silly girl in love will always have thousands of excuses to help her lover justify herself, but she dare not face the reality: he doesn't love you that much. Reality is cruel, but fantasy is happy. The fantasy is that he is only young, and the temptation outside the fantasy is great. The fantasy is that I think too much. Love always makes people blind and immersed in fantasy dreams. Wake up, girl, is it true love? Ask your heart, it knows best.

True love can cross the gap, but there is too little true love.

Talk about a suitable topic. The girl's family conditions are good and she is willing to buy a house when she gets married. The condition is that the man's son-in-law is adopted by his wife, and the man's condition is poor, but he is not lacking in ambition and resolutely refuses to accept it. Say that two people have love? This does not seem to be the case. True love is that I love this man and don't care about his position, but the girl thinks that the man can't eat western food and doesn't know Japanese food. He can only sing drooling songs and only loves the man Gao Fushuai. The man doesn't like the girl's luxury.

The family gap has brought about different views and living habits, and it has always been a gap. Your frugality has become haggle over every ounce in my eyes, but my usual consumption is your extravagance and waste. Without true love, going to the wrong door is a disaster. Any little thing will be the fuse to detonate the bomb. From then on, the smoke filled the room and there was no peace at home.

6. Noisy is life, and there is no perfect lover.

Some people's marriages are respectful and like-minded, such as Qian Zhongshu and Jiang Yang. Some lovers quarrel all their lives but never give up. For example, there is a couple who have been quarreling since they got married. The wife runs a clothing store and measures male customers. The husband is jealous and the wife is disobedient. What about the wife? I blame my husband for fooling around every day, and I haven't saved a suite after 20 years of marriage. The husband resents his wife for not being gentle and gives orders to him all day; The wife accused her husband of dreaming all day and not keeping his feet on the ground. My husband wronged his only voice for many years and wanted to make a movie, but his wife didn't support it. At first, the two quarreled and accused each other on the stage, and the audience felt the rhythm of divorce. But when the wife talked about suffocation, things took a big turn. The husband went to his wife and wiped her tears with paper.

It turns out that no matter how many years they have quarreled, their love has always been there. Had a fight, had a fight, or together, this is probably true love. We often do one thing: we don't know when we are blessed. Those who lack love envy those who have love, while those who lack money always stare at those who have money, and their shortcomings are longer than others. No one is perfect, no perfect lover, be more tolerant and less complaining.

7. There is no love for no reason

I believe that all women have a little woman's dream in their hearts: no matter how powerful they look, they want a man to lean on in their hearts. Therefore, raising you is probably the most beautiful love story in the world.

This is a story about me raising you. The girl found a boyfriend who is eight years older than her. The beauty of a girl makes men automatically screen out all her shortcomings in the early stage of love, such as not doing housework, not working and spending money. But it's ok to take your girlfriend home like a fairy for a day or two. After a long time, the man also complained: "I am tired at work, and I have to do housework when I go home. It is stressful. Girls never help me share the rent, but only go shopping. " Girls are also very wronged. "When I was in love, I said I was willing to tolerate all my shortcomings. It only took a year to change? I am also trying to change, but I can't eat a big fat man in one breath. "

Obviously, what boys want is a caring lover, while what girls want is to find a long-term meal ticket that is good for her. But how can there be love for no reason in this world, and how can there be love that pays wholeheartedly and asks for nothing in return as in the novel? Love between urban men and women is warm to each other. I take care of you, you care about me, I pay my harvest, and it will always be an equal exchange. People's hearts are all meat, and sincerity can be exchanged for sincerity.

8. Stop it, girl

Girls who have seen "The Roar of Lions" should remember the lines inside: From now on, you can only be nice to me; Spoil me, don't lie to me; You must do everything you promised me; Everything you said to me should be true. Don't lie, don't scold me, care about me; When others bully me, you should come out to help me at the first time; When I am happy, you should be happy with me; When I am unhappy, you should make me happy; Always thought I was the most beautiful; You want to see me in your dream; I'm the only one in your heart.

For a long time, this was regarded as the golden rule in love. Girls use it to test the love of boys, but they can pass the test. In a certain issue, a boy and a girl only talked about love for nine months, and they couldn't stand the girl's work: girls must like to comment within five minutes when they send friends, otherwise they will call each other in series. Send her home, even if you fail the final exam. You must buy two gifts, one is duty and the other is surprise. If you want to buy something, you must buy it. If you are slow, you will be scolded. Girls don't like boys' fitness, so they rush to the boys' dormitory and tear all his fitness clothes to pieces. Make a scene in the boys' company because the boys are going back to work in the girls' hometown. If you love me, you have to put up with my work. Oh, no, no, it's a heavy test of the sleeping beauty princess castle.

I can tolerate your work once or twice, but I am also human. There is no one in this world who doesn't need the love of others. If falling in love only needs others to be kind to you and you don't have to pay anything, what is it? What do you mean by attachment and love? Girl, don't wait to kill your boyfriend to regret it.