There are boys at home, so parents must always say these four sentences.

Mom always said that these four sentences will make boys better and better.

1, "It's different to have a son or not"

A mother, afraid of her neighbor's big dog, followed her husband every time she went home. Later, her husband went abroad to work, and she was afraid to go upstairs. Her son said, "Mom is fine! Don't be afraid, I'm here. When I went upstairs, the dog barked badly. Although her son was trembling with fear, he still protected her from behind. She sincerely lamented: it is different to have a son without a son! Hearing this, the son looked proud and his courage gradually increased.

In this way, the mother seized the opportunity to say this to her son, and his son gradually changed from a timid little boy to a little man. 6~ 13 years old is the period when boys strive to become men. The sentence "Having a son is not the same as having a son" seems simple, but it virtually inspires boys' sense of responsibility and value.

2. "Why did you do this? What do you think? "

Fan Wen, who has obtained four national patents for inventions, is a boy who likes to "sabotage" since childhood. Once, my mother spent two months' salary to buy a radio, and he took it apart in a few days. Mom didn't lose her temper or accuse him when she found out, but asked him, "What do you think? Can you talk to your mother? " Fan Wen replied, "I want to see how my aunt sings in it." For a long time, no matter what trouble Fan Wen caused, her mother would first listen to his ideas, affirm his whimsy, and then accompany him to solve things.

His curiosity and innovative thinking were well protected, and thus he created inventions that won national patents again and again. After all, if something is broken, it can be repaired. If a child's thirst for knowledge is obliterated, his mind will be bound. So when the boy is tearing down his "home" again, parents should not worry about labeling him "naughty". They might as well kneel down and ask him, "What do you think?

3. "About XX, can you do it?

"Don't run! Don't fight! Stop it! Can you stop ... "The mothers have been screaming, but the boys are still running around. The more his mother stopped him, the more trouble the boy got into. How to stop boys' bad behavior? The writer fish dad once gave a good solution, replacing negative taboos with positive instructions, and finally added: "Can you do it?" .

For example, "It is necessary to keep quiet in public. Can you do it? " ? "When playing games, you can't roll on the ground and you can't hit people. Can you do it? This will not only make boys feel the fun of the challenge, but also help them build confidence in the process of completing the task.

4. "I found that ..."

An educator said: In the process of a child's growth, girls need more love and boys need more encouragement. When a boy's handwriting is crooked, you can pick out the best sentence to affirm him: "I find your handwriting is particularly correct." When the boy's 10 question is only for 1, you can say: I found this question a bit difficult, but you did it right. "

Even if a boy can't learn, he still has to be sure: I find that when you study, you have a special hard thinking. "I found ..." The essence of this sentence is to find a way to dig out the bright spots on the boy, enlarge it and give him confidence and a sense of accomplishment. With good experiences and feelings, our boys will grow up step by step.