It is not an obligation for the elderly to take care of their grandchildren, but the helplessness of overdrawing their lives. Do you agree?

Disapprove! Everyone has a newborn child. If you want to work, you have to find someone to take care of the children, including the old people who have become grandparents! Think about the anxiety and expectation at that time! It is always uneasy to ask a nanny to take care of it, which is the best way to solve the worries (except those who don't like their parents and worry about their poor care). As a result, the custom of grandparents bringing grandchildren was formed. It's a little natural, but it's just a custom. There's no law to bring it! No child said to bring it! Just look forward to it. If you don't look forward to it, you will be disappointed, resentful and hateful! You all know that.

Time makes people old, and the birth of grandchildren promotes them to grandparents. The same expectations and obligations circulate in you. At this time, your children's expectations of you have not changed. See if you are willing to take care of the children. The premise is good health! There is a general mentality:

One is that in our nature, at a certain time, we are happy when we look at a new life all day. He just wants to hold the baby, talk to the baby all day and enjoy leaving his grandchildren.

Second, as a mother, it is natural to help her children and grandchildren without hesitation.

Third, because of family consciousness, I feel that my grandson is a descendant of my family and must be brought by my grandparents personally. In fact, most of the only children nowadays are brought up by grandparents.

Fourth, grandparents haven't completely retired yet, so they can only pay a nanny to do it for them.

Fifth, grandparents want to travel, dance, play cards and so on. They don't want to take their grandchildren or feel "overdrawn", and they don't want to help their children at all. This situation can not be said to be wrong, nor can it be said to be bad. Because there is no law that you must bring it, and no child says you must bring it! But you should negotiate a good relationship and handle the psychological contradictions that may come in the future.

In short, whether there are grandchildren is completely in your personal consciousness; But it directly affects your feelings with your children and grandchildren. Answer it or not, you have to think for yourself!

Agreed!

But there is no way. Today's children are facing a series of problems brought by high housing prices. First, life is stressful. Pay back the bank loan every month, and spend it on all aspects of life, especially the price of daily necessities is relatively high; Second, the work pressure is high. In the past, employees in the unit could help each other, but now employees in the unit are eager to compete with others, so they are walking on thin ice in their work; Third, the strength is weak. The one-child family has no brothers or sisters, and it depends on one person to support all aspects of the four old people. In this case, if you don't take your grandson, who will? You can't just watch and do nothing. Difficult, difficult, difficult.

The 5,000-year-old traditional culture in China is that the elderly love their grandchildren more!

I know that in the past hundred years, my parents, even if they are too poor to eat, should love their grandchildren! It's really selfless of them to wash clothes, wipe excrement and urine and raise grandchildren for their children! I remember I gave my parents a few dollars a month for living expenses, and they also saved some money for their grandchildren! When they were in their seventies, they had to collect rubbish and sell it for a little money. They also buy fruits and candied beans for their grandchildren and cook and wash clothes for their grandchildren every day. ...

Their spirit of loving their elders passed on to me: my wife and I regard grandchildren as our best hope in our later years! Therefore, in order to love our grandchildren, we have been working hard to contribute! We know that caring for the next generation is for the successors of the Chinese nation! A few years ago, a four-year-old doll was almost lost. I brought him back from the road in time and handed him over to the neighborhood Committee. When I meet a doll, no matter who it is, I always say hello with concern. Most parents ask their children to call me "grandpa". I'm so happy to hear the news!

There is nothing absolute in the world, saying that theoretical things need to be split in two.

People have different personalities and different physical conditions. Some old people are healthy, like children and are willing to enjoy family happiness. For her, bringing a satisfied grandson is not an overdraft of life, but the driving force and spiritual pillar of life. If a grandson doesn't let her take it, she will be depressed and empty. Many old people are getting younger and younger because they take care of their grandchildren. Taking care of the children in their eyes not only reduces the burden on children, but also enjoys the happiness brought by children and establishes feelings with grandchildren. Why not kill three birds with one stone?

Doing what you can is the last word. Some old people are sickly, need to recuperate and are unable to do things. If she is asked to take care of her grandchildren at this time, it seems even worse for her health, which is really an overdraft. Some old people are lively and active, love to play, love literature and art, can sing and dance, and can do everything. If she is allowed to take care of the children all day, it is like mixing a stepping stone to stop her from moving forward, and she will be depressed and unhappy, which is tantamount to overdrawing her life.

It is impossible for the elderly to take care of their grandchildren, let alone the helplessness of overdrawing their lives. This is a kind of affection. Help if you can. If you can't help, there's nothing you can do. Old people are blessed to have grandchildren. How to describe the helplessness of overdraft life is completely different. If you have this idea, you can foresee that family relations are not much better. Whether it is necessary for the elderly to bring it, the situation of each family is different, and it is difficult to close it without a word.

Personally, I disagree. Imagine, how old are the old people? If people are 70 or 80 years old, do they still need to bring grandchildren? If you are under 60, are you called an old man?

Today, grandchildren should be born after 50 or 60. If they are healthy, why not share the heavy responsibility for their children? Although the ancients said: "Children and grandchildren have their own children and grandchildren, don't give them cattle and horses"; Although many foreign countries do not need to bring grandchildren, the times are different and the national conditions are different.

This generation of young people are busier and more stressed than the previous generation, and they have to supervise their children's study when they come home from work. I have seen old people in Korea and Japan. Although there are no grandchildren, they still play their residual heat in the positions they can. Why not help our children when we are doing it ourselves? I believe every child understands that adopted children know their parents' kindness!

First of all, I agree with this view. Take my neighbor as an example. After having a grandson, the old man will go to the county to take care of him. The old couple lived a life of cowherd and weaver girl. The old man had to be busy in the orchard, cooking and washing clothes by himself. Once he is ill, no one takes care of him. As Tik Tok said, there are no grandchildren to look forward to, but if the family has money, the old couple had better rent out their land and take care of their grandchildren together.

The old man brought his grandson to help her husband and son continue their descendants! If the son and daughter-in-law all go to work and the family conditions are not good, only the elderly can take care of the children! Otherwise, let the daughter-in-law be a full-time wife and the son support the family! The family helps each other to live! Make it clear that it is not good for the elderly, and the old wife will be very grateful to help you support the elderly!

I don't agree with this sentence, so I looked at my grandson, who brought me happiness, health and family harmony, [Yi tooth] [Yi tooth] [Yi tooth].