Mother's letter to the rebellious boy

Rebellion is a necessary process in life, just like a caterpillar cannot become a beautiful butterfly without breaking its cocoon. How should mothers deal with their children's rebellious period? Next, I sorted out my mother's letters to rebellious teenagers. Welcome to reading.

Mother's letter to the rebellious boy's son:

It's my dad's fault that I didn't teach. Now that my father is ill, he needs to rest, and he can't be angry and worried. My mother must take full responsibility for educating you. A few years ago, your grandfather bought a book, A Letter from Fu Lei. I have read it. Now I have learned to write to you and write down everything I want to say. I hope you can read it patiently and think it over. Of course, if you have it, change it, and if you don't, encourage it, okay?

Growing up, you were closest to your mother, but now there are many things you keep from your mother. Sometimes when I talk to you, you either stop listening to me or have to deal with the problem that your left ear goes in and your right ear goes out. I'm sorry to see you like this. Maybe mom is a little traditional and out of date. Maybe mom's behavior is not all right, but you can tell mom that she can correct it, but you shouldn't ignore her.

On that day, when you knew that your mother saw the report card that you had hidden for a long time, and you cried for your poor grades, your mother knew that you loved your mother too, but she couldn't help but give you a good lecture. So, when you came home during that time, you always looked gloomy and ignored your mother. She was so sad. Do you know that?/You know what? Do you know that?/You know what? Mom loves you very much. Your mood always touches your mother's heart, and all mothers care about it. Although you have not been a good student since childhood, which makes your mother worried, angry and humiliated, she still loves you because you are her own flesh and blood, and she knows that you are not a bad boy.

Mom has always known that you have many advantages. When you think about it, you will be infinitely warm and happy, and sometimes even secretly shed tears. You were very good at home when you were a child. Besides studying, you didn't worry your mother. When I was three years old, we traveled to Beijing with my father's unit. You run around behind my parents like a little adult, never hugging them, let alone crying, and let my dad's colleagues praise you. I remember when I was in primary school, my parents slept in on weekends, and you would buy yourself breakfast, and then read and do manual work quietly, never bothering us. Starting from the next semester of senior one, you have to get up early and go to school by bus after dinner. You never hold grudges. Your mother hits you, and you only beg your mother. When your tears are still wet, right? Mom? 、? Mom? I can't stop screaming (every time I think about it, my heart hurts); From the third grade, you will unequivocally help your mother do housework, wash dishes and wipe the floor; As for mom's shopping, of course, you help her carry big bags and small bags; You never care about food or clothes. If you have something delicious, you will remember to leave some for your mother. When you were a child, you wore old clothes returned by your cousin. Later, your mother went to find you discounted goods. You are very happy. When dad is ill in hospital, you are alone at home, taking care of your own life, and when mom forgets to give you pocket money, you are on duty to help others make money; When your mother is sick, you will bring tea and medicine, cook and wash clothes, and take care of your mother in a hurry; When mom is sad, what moves her most is that you will say: Mom, don't worry, I will take care of you, okay? ; You are proud of your mother. You once said that your mother is almost perfect except for nagging. When outsiders even want to talk about your mother, will you still be angry and will vigorously defend it?

Son, your mother sees your advantages in her eyes and keeps them in her heart, but she is not good at expressing them, but always criticizes your shortcomings and accuses you of your faults. In fact, I know that you are very eager to get your mother's praise. I'm sorry to say that my mother really needs to correct this in the future.

Watching you grow up day by day, taller than your mother, and more sensible every day, how gratified your mother is! Because my son will grow up, my burden will be lightened. However, your study status is really poor at present, which makes your mother deeply worried.

Mom can't be different. Although I hope you are healthy and happy, even if you are begging, I won't be disgusted, but I still want you to try to get into a good university so that you can find your ideal job smoothly in the future. Because when I see those who live at the bottom of society doing the hardest and most tiring work, the lowest income is not guaranteed, and what is even more terrible is being looked down upon. Why? Just because they have no culture. When I think about my son, I feel like an ant on hot bricks. I force you to study hard, nag and be harsh, but you know, mom still loves you. In the dead of night, my mother is also ambivalent. I don't know if my approach is right. Maybe I should let nature take its course, but today's unreasonable environment is not something my mother can change. We can only follow the trend of society. I also thought about waiting until you are really sensible to study. I'm like this myself. I also achieved success in my career by taking the self-study exam for the elderly, but you know what? Writer Zhang Ailing said? Become famous before it's too late . To this end, I spent more time and missed many opportunities; As you can see, my mother is presbyopic after 40 and looks older than others. Mom's late bloomer costs a lot. I don't want you to follow my old path.

Moreover, society is cruel. Son, you have to understand that lazy and accomplished people will be eliminated by society, and a happy life is created by hard work. Even if your mother loves you, you must be experienced, otherwise I'm afraid it will be difficult for you to survive in the future. Maybe you have lofty ideals, but a person who has never suffered is easy to aim high and can only? A pike can't move its back, but a spear can't shoot correctly? . Mom can't protect you from the rain all your life, and she doesn't want to see my son is a? Someone who needs it? Or a black sheep.

So mom still has to talk about your study. Although you don't like it, we still have to face the reality! Compared with entertainment and leisure, learning is really a very hard thing, and your learning foundation has been very poor, especially English, so the pressure is great, and you are also very distressed and depressed. But distress belongs to distress, so we must cheer up and study hard.

The authorities are fascinated, and the onlookers are fascinated. Maybe you are still young and have not fully realized many things: although you are willing to study hard, you have not studied hard, let alone studied hard. At school, the teacher said that you are often absent-minded or make small moves in class, and your homework is also in arrears; When I get home, I find that you are also fooling around, going in and out for a while, drinking tea and watching TV for a while, washing your hair and going to the toilet for a while? You didn't study wholeheartedly. Time flies. You go to bed late and get up early every day, get up at 6 o'clock in the morning to go to school, and go home at 6 o'clock in the evening, but the study effect is not good, neither learning well nor playing well.

You think there is something wrong with your intelligence. You are more stupid than others, so you can't study well. Your reason is that you can't remember English words. In fact, my mother knew your problem for a long time and pointed it out to you many times. The main reasons are as follows: First, your study habits. Instead of memorizing words wholeheartedly, you lie in bed and listen to music. Any movement outside can distract you; Second, you haven't mastered the learning skills. You have to memorize words with your mouth, hands and heart, and you can also use many memory skills, but you just stare blankly and memorize them. Third, your learning motivation. You don't want to learn, you only deal with teachers and mothers, so you often read extracurricular books in the name of reading. Although you did pay, you paid too little. You really don't have much time and energy to study. Although you are studying, half-hearted study is of course inefficient.

You should also understand that you study for yourself, not for your mother. You are fighting for your future, not for your mother. Whether you will be happy in the future is only related to yourself, although there is? How about Guangzong Yaozu? You are more likely to benefit yourself. Although mom always pushes you around for this, it's not for herself, but for you.

In the rebellious period of your youth, the biggest problem now is stubbornness and self-righteousness. You didn't receive the teacher's education well and didn't listen to your parents' advice. Although you admire your mother very much, you don't regard your mother as your role model, because you can't bear hardships, but you don't want to admit it. You just attribute your poor study to lack of intelligence, so you always don't study hard and of course you won't get good grades. Actually, you're not stupid. Look at your handicrafts, look at your paintings and listen to what you say to prove it. Son, please stop using stupidity as a shield.

You are sad to see that you are on the wrong road and your academic performance is declining, while your mother is even more anxious and bears her helplessness.

Son, listen to your mother. It's not too late to calm down and study hard. Maybe mom is a little compared with you young people in many places? Out? Yes, but my rich life experience may make my mother have a clearer view of the problem than you do. Good medicine tastes bitter and is good for illness, but advice when most unpleasant is good for action! Sometimes, you might as well accept other people's opinions! It's uncomfortable, but it works.

Son, take action and study hard!

Love your mother forever.

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Mother's letter to two rebellious boys:

Shall I weigh you? Children? Yes, I've thought about it for a long time. What do you think it is called? Men? More appropriate. Maybe you've heard of it? Puberty? This word, I want to congratulate you warmly here, and congratulate the young life on turning the most beautiful page, and you will start to grow from here, as you expected. A girl told me that growing up feels like a sweet taste and happiness. So, what is the youth of boys? Maybe it's another smell.

In our time, parents were very strict in discipline, and children's rebellion was only hidden in their hearts, and they dared not write it on their faces. Because there are many children, parents don't have much energy to pay attention to the inner feelings of each child. If the child doesn't pay attention to resistance, he will be knocked down with a stick. I personally have no memory of adolescent rebellion, which is a pity.

What is youth? If you start to doubt your favorite father's remarks; If you stop chasing idols, start paying attention to who you are; If you don't want to be called a child by your parents, you want to get the respect you deserve and decide to take care of yourself; If you feel that there is a surge of power in your body that changes and benefits the world, this is the feeling of youth. This period has the joy of growth, but also the acidity of green, which is very contradictory, right? This is the taste of youth.

During this period, as an independent individual, you began to seek self-realization and your parents began to feel uncomfortable. For more than ten years, you have long been used to this little life hovering in front of your eyes. You are at a loss for this inexplicable resistance and the feeling of flapping your wings. You must be very worried and unwilling to give up, fearing that you will fall as soon as you let go, although parents know in their hearts that no child's growth begins with mistakes! At this time, some problems and fierce conflicts will appear. If you are interested, you can simply record the rich and delicate inner feelings of this period. If you have no time, ask your parents to help you remember it. It is the commemoration of adolescence and the first step towards adulthood.

Communicating with adolescent children has become a compulsory course for parents. In this practical class, parents are all novices. We need to get used to each other and give our parents some time, okay? Tell your parents what you think, especially the inner distress, whether it is in study or in life. Sometimes parents may be impatient, but as long as you bring it up, parents will definitely change, but you have to promise to help your parents, okay? I don't know if you have heard this sentence: parents grow up with their children. Parents are not saints. They also have a lot of things they don't understand and make many mistakes. If your parents make some small mistakes because they love you, can you forgive them? Will you ignore them at this time? Or patiently point out their problems and solve them together? I think the answer must be the latter.

If you have any questions about your study, or you are uneasy about your learning methods, can you talk to someone you are willing to communicate with? It is much easier to use other people's experience than to grope step by step. If you are willing to explore by yourself, that's fine, but don't worry in this process, always remind yourself to continue to work hard. You have heard the saying that hard work may not succeed, but you will never succeed without hard work. In fact, every parent's greatest wish for his child is that he can live a happy and free life. Success or failure is secondary. The most important thing is to walk clearly step by step on this road of life, think with your own brain and embrace your future with your own hands!

An elderly friend.

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How parents should deal with their children's rebellion is a good start. If parents grasp it well, it will benefit their children for life. If they don't grasp it well, they may harm the children.

Every one of us may have experienced adolescent rebellion, but as parents, we can't really understand a child's feelings.

An article about teenagers deeply touched me. In fact, rebellion is not a big deal, everyone has a tendency to rebel.

For a person's growth, it is only temporary. Only after experiencing this temporary pain will he gradually mature and truly understand his parents' intentions.

I once read an article called "Teenager", about a child who has just turned seventeen. Although he is still childish, his strong body has become an adult.

His mother only reached the height of his shoulder when his father began to look up to him. Rebellion became a way for him to communicate with his parents. Finally, one day, my father had a heart-to-heart talk with the teenager and asked him why he was no longer smart.

The boy said: I have grown up, and I am no longer a pawn controlled by you. I need to have a life. I need to find myself?

Father sighed: How are you going to find it?

? A bag and a compass. I need to leave your shelter and find my own coordinates.

? Then you go, son. Your mother and I are here waiting for your good news. ? Father gave the boy 500 yuan money. The teenager ran away from home. Began his journey to find youth and self.

The boy went to a city far from home. No more nagging from teachers and parents. Of course, there is no parental care.

In that bizarre city, 500 yuan soon disappeared like a glass of water poured into the desert. Looking at the shrinking wallet, the teenager thought of giving up, but at the thought of going home and being laughed at, he had to submit to humiliation.

The city is gorgeous, but it is difficult for teenagers to find her entrance. His growth has nothing to do with the noise of this city. In order to survive, this teenager who seldom washes clothes at home began to work in some small shops.

After a hard day's work, just for a hot meal, there is a place to shelter from the wind and rain? These things that he once had at his fingertips and didn't cherish at all, in the city far from home, accompanied by the growth of juvenile rebellion.

I went to Qiu Lai in the spring, and a year passed quickly. Teenagers washed dishes in restaurants, worked as security guards in big companies, worked as doormen in hotels and worked as vendors in night markets? Teenagers' hands are finally covered with calluses in their busy lives.

Teenagers' hearts also follow the sunrise and rest at sunset. They understand the hardships of their parents' lives and their cautious love for themselves.

Finally, when the new year came, the teenager dialed the number he knew by heart. On the other end of the phone, is it the voice of father's excitement or the sobbing of mother's joy?

Father said, come back when you find what you want.

The moment I hung up the phone, the teenager burst into tears. Soon, he boarded the train home. There are two more underwear for parents in the bag, which is simple and beautiful. This is a sensible son who bought a New Year gift for his parents?

The story ends here. But the growth of the teenager continues, which is only a stage in his growth process. Although short-lived, it is the most critical stage. From rebellion to understanding, my heart has really grown up.

Why rebel? Because children are eager to be recognized by the adult world, eager to show the world that they have grown up through rebellious behavior, and they are no longer children in the eyes of their parents and can no longer be manipulated casually? Chess pieces? Is it? Existence.

With the growth of age, children's body and mind have undergone tremendous changes. Rebellion is like a seed waiting to sprout, sprouting in the depths of a child's body. At this time, parents must support, affirm and trust their children in combination with their own growth experiences. Human nature is good? Attitude towards children.

Most people admit that children's rebellion is a necessary process in life, just like a caterpillar can't become a beautiful butterfly without breaking out of its cocoon. However, most parents can't treat their children's rebellion as leniently as caterpillars: they can sympathize with his struggle and look forward to his growth.

On the contrary, I feel extremely distressed. I am deeply afraid that this kind of rebellion will not only break the usual authority of adults, but also break the existing order of the adult world. So? What should I do in the face of rebellious children? problem

In fact, all rebellion comes from resistance to bondage and restriction. A child faces not only the physical and psychological constraints he has, but also the restrictions deliberately constructed by the adults around him.

In the past, he didn't realize this kind of bondage and restriction, and even if he did, he couldn't resist it. As they grow older, they can gradually see the world clearly, and a new self is eager to try in the fog.

However, the restrictions of adults are so tight and unbreakable that the power of growth is not enough to break away from the shackles of their own physiology, psychology and knowledge. At this time, children are undergoing transformation and unprecedented confusion, so there will be all kinds of rebellious actions, just to show their existence.

When we accuse children of rebellion, we only expose the root of this rebellion? Excessive anxiety leads to depression. It is this seemingly kind and gentle bondage that makes the growing children at a loss.

Therefore, while accusing the child of disobedience, we should also reflect on ourselves, whether it has bound the child's body and mind, and whether it has not given the child enough space and understanding.

You know, treason is not an unforgivable mistake or an unsolvable problem. What we should do is to help children, not to keep them away from their parents and families.

Therefore, what parents should do in this special period is to observe their children and understand their real thoughts. Then help them from their children's point of view.

With adolescent children at home, many parents will feel endless troubles, because when the children are older, various problems will follow.

At this time, they have their own ideas, no longer listen to their parents, and sometimes even contradict their parents and do all kinds of things that parents can't accept. Many parents often feel angry and hate for their children.

Before this stage comes, as parents, if you want to be lofty? Authority? To force children to obey, then, nine times out of ten, children's rebellious psychology will be enhanced, because times are changing and children are growing, and their rebellious psychology always has roots. And then what? Care and understanding? Is to find the root of the problem and answer? What shall we do?

So, in the face of growing children, do we need to let go completely? Parents? Only by regaining childlike innocence can we face the so-called rebellion. Because? Power? It can't solve the problem, and it can't appease the child's rebellion.

I have a student whose parents are exemplary in this respect. She has a daughter of 19 years old. What do mothers and daughters say the most? We're friends? .

? I have always felt that my daughter and I are equal, trusting each other and communicating frequently. ? She said,? Growing up, my daughter will tell herself anything happy and unhappy, including studying and communicating with her classmates. Even if a boy pursues her, she will tell me. ?

She told me that communication with her daughter is equal at ordinary times, and sometimes there will be disputes because of differences of opinion. If she thinks she is wrong afterwards and criticizes her daughter wrongly, she will take the initiative to admit her mistake.

When the child puts forward his own request, she never refuses without thinking. Even if it is ridiculous, it will be carefully considered before it is released. As one thing? Respond and discuss, find out sufficient reasons, and let him understand your point of view.

Not only that, the parent will also ask the children's opinions on many things. Even if the children's opinions are not good, he will listen carefully and discuss with her.

Even if it is very necessary, it will be used? I hope? Or? May I suggest ...? At least? Formally leave him an independent space for him to study, think and realize. Instead of stiffly imposing your own ideas on children.

This mother is actually carrying out an avant-garde educational concept, that is, treating children like adults and making them feel respected, unless they are willing to be children automatically in some cases.

Such parents always support and affirm their children, especially after their children have made serious mistakes, they will give them a chance to correct them, and they always hold a positive and supportive attitude towards their children's correction.

In our education of children, we must really treat children as another person with one person's attitude. Only in this way can we truly understand our children.

In the process of growing up, he may not meet the mature conditions in our minds, but it can't be said that the child is disobedient.

There is a story in which two children who are about to grow up ask their parents to move out. The father of a child said, what's the matter? There is no place for you at home. Stay here.

The father of another child said:? All right! Can I help you? Who knows, the result is just the opposite. The father who opposed the child's moving out not only failed to stop the child from leaving the family, but also had a deep contradiction with the child. The father who supported the child to move out made the child stay.

The reason is that the first child heard his father stop him so arbitrarily and felt that it was meaningless to stay at home, so he might as well move out early.

The other child is completely different. When he offered to move out, his father not only didn't stop him, but asked him what he needed. This made him feel the warmth of his family and felt that he was actually very good at home, so he decided not to move out.

It can be seen that it is actually gratifying for a child to have independent ideas and be eager to get rid of dependence on his parents. If he depends on his parents for everything, it will be worrying!

But to understand this, we must be willing to let go of the traditional authority of the role of parents? . Only by temporarily breaking away from the role of parents can you become a? People? The attitude towards the other? People? Fight.

There are also many parents who worry that this kind of education will be indulgence and let them do whatever they want. In fact, we don't have to worry about children being unconstrained at all. As the previous examples show, true restraint does not require power or majesty.

Sometimes, a caring greeting and a warm word will make children more restrained.

Because children are struggling to grow up, they need others' recognition of their roles most. It is the formation of self-concept and the enlightenment stage of thought, so they are most susceptible.

Unfortunately, many parents always expect immediate results, so they often use absolute repression. The result was not only rebellion, but more importantly, we gave up our influence on him and caused other adverse effects.

So our children are drifting away in our incomprehension.

Therefore, in the face of children's rebellion, the most important thing is to recognize the truth; It's not who betrayed who, just a stubborn child quietly. Leave? Just us. Of course we will feel pain, but anger is unnecessary.