Why do brothers and sisters' affection fade with time and age?

As time goes on and people get older, the affection between brothers and sisters will become weaker and weaker. Although this is a bit one-sided, it is also very reasonable.

When I was young, my brothers and sisters lived under the same roof, and they were each other's playmates. When someone bullied their brothers and sisters, you would not hesitate to avenge them, even though you knew that you could not beat each other.

at that time, no matter who has delicious food and fun, they will think of each other and share it with each other. It can be said that we share weal and woe. When I was a child, I was really carefree, and I was the most innocent. I didn't have any bad intentions or bad thoughts. Good is good, and bad is bad.

When we grow up slowly, learning becomes the most important thing. For our own studies, we may start to live on campus, maybe we care about our own studies and slowly ignore each other. Some brothers and sisters will also compare their grades. Parents who study well will let others learn from him. Maybe parents will give everything to their well-studied and obedient children first, which will make other brothers and sisters feel jealous and bury a curse in their children's hearts.

When they are older, some children will be admitted to the university, travel in the university, see a wider world, accept advanced culture and avant-garde ideas, and some children can only stay at home for various reasons. They may just find a job that can support themselves, thinking about how to eat enough and wear warm clothes every day, and may not have a broad vision, thus widening the gap between them.

When you reach a certain age, you have to get married and start a career. Everyone has their own family, and you have to work hard for the family. Usually, you are busy with work, and there may be little contact between brothers and sisters. Slowly, you may find that the brothers and sisters who were close and talked about everything have only sent a blessing on holidays, and their relationship is even worse than that of a friend.

But at this time, my parents are still alive, and they still get together every year, but they may just be the most familiar strangers who are full of polite words, or they may compare with each other, so that the other party can see how awesome they are and realize how bad they are.

When parents are old, they need people to wait on them, and they also need money to provide for the elderly and see a doctor. At this time, brothers and sisters may shirk each other and think that they have done enough, while others have done nothing, or when their parents have a large amount of property to divide, at this time, brothers and sisters all want more, vilify each other, compete with each other, and compete to please their parents, but they just don't know that this will only make their relationship worse.

When their parents die, the bond between them no longer exists. They can take revenge without scruple, complain, show no respect for each other, and even want to kill each other, regardless of brotherhood, fight and then split up, and never leave until death.

There are too many such examples. There are too many brothers and sisters whose feelings are not as real as those of friends. Many brothers and sisters usually don't have your presence in their eyes, but when he needs someone to take the lead in something, he will remember that I still have one or more brothers and sisters, so let them take shelter from the wind and rain for me, but when others need him, he will stay away.

There are too many brothers and sisters calculating each other. It seems that they will feel uncomfortable if they don't kill each other. It seems that the existence of brothers and sisters is a great threat to him.

Of course, there is no denying that some brothers and sisters always regard each other as more important than themselves, and they can go through fire and water for each other, but this is really rare.

Now how many brothers and sisters are worse than even the most familiar strangers? Brothers are like brothers, and sometimes they really look like a joke.

no! I have a different opinion. I think the older I get, the stronger this family relationship is, not fading away.

I have eight brothers and sisters. When I was born, my elder sister got married. When I was three years old, my second sister married again. When I was six years old, my eldest brother got married. When I was in junior high school, my third and fourth sisters also got married. When I was in the army, my siblings got married. When our army retired, the brothers separated and each got married. Trapped here, the age between brothers is hanging by a thread, and we can't feel how strong or how weak the family ties are, only that we are brothers and sisters.

They didn't get along with each other in childhood, and they didn't get along with each other when they were young. When they were adults, they all took care of their own families and had children.

when all seven brothers and sisters got married, I came back from the army and was alone.

when I got married, there were only three sisters, and the fourth sister helped me. The third sister lent me thirty yuan and the fourth sister lent me fifty yuan. I started from scratch. Married, had children, built a house: later built a villa.

With the increase of age, this kind of affection seems to be getting stronger and stronger. When my eldest brother was alive, he invited him to eat delicious food. He always helped me to do something, such as picking tea, making tea, having a cup of tea and drinking some wine, and listening to his elder brother talk about his hardships when he was young. To be honest, he really helped his father and supported his younger siblings. Every time I come back from the outside, I always go to his room to visit and pass on the words of smoke, which I couldn't talk about when I was young.

My elder sister, her daughter is only one year younger than me. When I was young, I didn't know who the elder sister was. I only knew that my mother wanted me to be called the elder sister, so did my second sister. My second sister often said that I was brought up by her, and I have no memory when I was young. My second brother-in-law's house had a market, and my father often took me to her house when I was young.

When I was a soldier, my eldest brother-in-law got sick, and I sent her two months' allowance. When my sister and I died of illness, the children depended on her. At that time, there was nothing I could do to help her. Later, my sister got old and gave her money every year.

Last year, my second sister died, and I went to her home alone. The first thing I did was to uncover the yellow paper on my head and look at my sister with her eyes closed. My tears poured down! Five years ago, when I went to Kunming, I went to my sister's house. His hand grabbed my hand for a long time and said to her children, Your uncle is here! That intimacy is indescribable.

every year on the fourth day of the first month, I have two tables of banquets, with my sister and brother, as well as my brother-in-law and brother-in-law, to have tea, chat and have a reunion dinner with my brothers and sisters, and there are many words to respect and wish each other. We used to get together many times a year, but now someone has gone, and fewer and fewer people are holding parties.

The older people get, the more romantic they are, and the stronger they are, the more they talk. In another month, there will be six brothers and sisters and five brothers-in-law, but now there are only two. Six plus two, just filled a square table.

when the family ties are strong, eight people will definitely have a good chat!

My age has risen, and I am 68 years old this year. Let me tell you something about my family among my brothers: I have three brothers, one brother and one younger brother. I am 68 years old this year, and my brother is 73 years old and my younger brother is 63 years old. Our three brothers are separated by five years. My eldest brother has three daughters, my younger brother has one daughter, and I have one daughter and one son. Therefore, we know that the three brothers must unite, and we can't let our parents be disappointed in us. After my brother and I got married, our parents didn't separate us until my brother got married and raised a child. When we separated, my eldest daughter was 6 years old and my brother's eldest daughter was 1 years old. We all listened to our parents' distribution, and no one cared about a little thing. For example, when our second brother got married, we didn't have any home appliances, while our younger brother got married. There are all kinds of color TV sets, refrigerators and washing machines. Some villagers told us that your parents are unfair and partial to the younger son, but we two older brothers and couples replied that times are different now. When we got married, there were no home appliances, so the villagers had nothing to say, because our brothers were very United and the villagers never dared to bully us. In our big family, our brothers and sisters-in-law are very polite, never quarreled, and share things with each other, because it is really not easy for parents to be a big family with more than a dozen people eating together. After the separation, my parents lived alone, three of our brothers went out to work, and when the farm was busy, they returned to the production team to work. My parents called us to eat at his place, and after the farm was busy, we ate separately, and we went back to work in the factory. Later, I bought two storefronts in the town, the upper second floor was a house, and my brother bought a commercial house in the city. Although we have separated, we are still very United. If anyone has something to do, such as children getting married, or having any difficulties and needs, we will help each other. For example, my eldest brother has three children, and my sister-in-law is in poor health and poor economic conditions. Our two brothers will help them, saying that they are lending money to my eldest brother's family. But we didn't want any money from our eldest brother. Later, my parents got older. Because my younger brother was in the city and lived on the fifth floor, my brother's family's economy was not rich, and I was in the town. So my parents offered to live with me. If my husband and wife didn't object, they took my parents to live with me, and never asked my eldest brother and younger brother to share their parents' living expenses. Eldest brother and sister-in-law visit their parents every day when they go to the streets. My brother and sister-in-law visit their parents on Sundays, and they eat at my house every Sunday. Later, when my parents were old, my mother got Alzheimer's disease, my father was diabetic, and her toes were ulcerated and necrotic. My parents were at my house. Of course, I had to take more responsibility and take my parents to various hospitals in the city. My husband and wife always took care of me at home. My mother couldn't do anything when she got Alzheimer's disease. She had to undress when she slept, get dressed when she got up, bathe her, etc. During the day, my mother sat in the shop, and people couldn't see that my mother had Alzheimer's disease. At that time, I also comforted my wife that my brother and sister-in-law had to go to work once a week, and my sister-in-law was in poor health. They could also visit their parents often. If my parents raised a son, we should also take responsibility and give my parents a pension. My wife nodded to me and never cared about my brother. My father died first, and our brother Sanduo was very sad. My brother Erduo told me. After my father left, the urn was placed in the town's rest hall. Later, my mother died at the age of 83. We two brothers bought a cemetery in Wuxi Meiyuan Cemetery and buried our parents together in Meiyuan Cemetery. Later, because my son worked in the city, I bought a house in the city for the convenience of going to work. My granddaughter had to pick up and drop off at school, and she was older, so she rented out the house in her hometown and two storefronts to live with her son, but my brother still lives in her hometown in the countryside. My brother was responsible for collecting the rent and utilities for us. After receiving it, he asked me to transfer it to my daughter's mobile phone. Basically, every two weeks, we will go shopping with our younger brother and go back to our hometown to visit our eldest brother and sister-in-law. Every time we go to our eldest brother and sister-in-law, we are very happy. We also have to go to the fields to get many fresh vegetables and ask us to take them home. As I remember in my mind, since we are sensible, our brothers have never quarreled, and their affection is getting stronger and stronger, including the next generation. Because there are fewer children, they cherish their affection more and treat their cousins more.