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Why can't you joke with people you don't know? Is it about life safety?

We will come into contact with all kinds of people from birth. Because after all, we are not an individual who can be independent of society. Just like after Jia Baoyu was born in Pu Songling's Dream of Red Mansions, he began to live under the attention of a group of people. He has a grandmother who loves him, a brother and sister who can play with him, and a maid who waits on him every day but likes to play tricks on him, such as Qingwen, who cut off her nails to Jia Baoyu before she died. The characters in the dream of a red chamber can not be separated from two words, from the excitement at the beginning to the relative indifference at the end? Communication? . Not only the virtual life in the book, but also the real life. And it hasn't changed since ancient times. People maintain their relationships through communication.

People should deal with each other.

Why don't we put these first? Benefits? The word "communication" appeared before communication and communication. In addition to being your own trademark, normal communication between people is also a daily need and even more inevitable. Because we will meet all kinds of people in our life. They know something about passers-by in our lives, such as passers-by, former lovers, or people who meet by chance and never have a chance to meet again. Of course, some people will be closely connected with our lives, just like our parents, relatives, sincere friends and even our lovers.

Because we can't treat everyone equally like Mohist fraternity. As we get along, we will choose to be close to one person and alienate one person. Similarly, others will choose to treat us in the same way. This is a normal phenomenon in society. Because everyone's personality is different.

Because of this, we will choose different ways and even different attitudes when dealing with different people.

In real life, we will meet some people who like joking and some who don't. If these two people with different personalities happen to be together again, then they should know a witty communication skill. The trick is to joke less with people you don't know. In fact, this truth also applies to other friends with different personalities. Here's an example first.

So why make less jokes with people you don't know? Take the above two people who like joking and those who don't. First of all, they are strangers, and they can't find out each other's personality after such a long time. And then what? Are you kidding? It often means fun, because fun sometimes hurts people.

This naturally has nothing to do with familiar people. But if you don't know what kind of personality the other person is and whether the other person is an enemy or a friend, it will easily cause the other person's dissatisfaction and even bring bad consequences to yourself.

In fact, Guiguzi has made it clear why he should deal with unfamiliar people less.

Guiguzi believes that it is dangerous to talk deeply outside.

Guiguzi believes that if two people are intimate under unfamiliar circumstances, it is easy to bring danger to themselves. This sentence of Guiguzi can be summed up in one word? Talking deeply? . You may ask, people say don't be too intimate, don't say too intimate words, why can it be related to jokes?

In fact, the two are still related. First of all, people who can joke are generally close people. And close people will inevitably say something intimate. In addition, if the other person plays a joke on you, then besides treating you as a friend, there is almost only naked irony left. Therefore, the author thinks? Are you kidding? In fact, it means that the other person wants to be close, and when this person's relationship enters, it is inevitable to say something private. When two people are not very familiar, it is easy to bring danger to themselves.

Simple and profound? Some ancient celebrities also mentioned it. For example, Su Shi once said: The body is slightly empty but the ambition is big, and the friendship is shallow and deep. Short words and deep words are forbidden by gentlemen? It can be seen that in Su Shi's cognitive range, if two nodding acquaintances deal together, it is still difficult to talk too much and too deeply, because it is to protect themselves.

Of course, our real life is still very beautiful now, unlike the concubines in the ancient harem and the ministers in the previous dynasty, who had to be careful and step by step for their own interests. But this sentence of Guiguzi is still of some use to us now.

This sentence of Guiguzi is still useful to people today, at least to avoid embarrassment.

The author thinks that this sentence of Guiguzi is still useful for our current interpersonal communication. Besides protecting yourself, you can also avoid embarrassing scenes. Take the above example for example. If someone likes joking, say to those who can't: Hey, brother, your hair is like a bird's nest today. So how will people who can't afford to joke react after hearing this sentence? Let's make a hypothesis: if his temperament is cold, then the scene at that time is estimated to be frozen.

If he is more direct and irritable, he will probably go straight back. In this way, the scene will be very embarrassing.

So, why make less jokes with people you don't know? Guiguzi has told us the truth, which can at least help us avoid embarrassment. Guiguzi's remarks are actually very appropriate now. If you have nothing to do, you can pick up the book about Guiguzi and turn it over to cultivate your sentiment, which is also an improvement for yourself.