In the workplace, can't you really joke with the leader?

Xiao Li works in an Internet company, with a transparent team mechanism and a good working atmosphere.

But surprisingly, he joined the company with his colleagues. In three years, his colleagues have already been promoted and raised, but he still stands still.

Xiao Li asked himself, every time in the project and work, his contribution is not worse than that of his colleagues, but it is also three years. Why did the leader promote his colleagues instead of himself?

When Xiao Li asked me this question, I probably already had the answer in my heart.

In this large organization, although many companies often flaunt transparent systems and equal management, it is very important to handle the relationship between superiors and subordinates in the workplace.

I asked Xiao Li, what is your relationship with your leader, and what is his evaluation of you?

Xiao Li told me that his relationship with the leader is still very good. Usually we often have nothing to do together, and I often like to play some jokes with him. I know, most of the problems are here.

Then I asked Xiao Li, did you open some steps in public that made the boss unable to get off the stage?

Xiao Li prevaricated for a long time, and finally told me that it seemed to happen. But isn't the company culture encouraging peer management? Besides, my work and ability are not bad, and the leader is human. It should make no difference to make a joke.

I told Xiao Li that if you are the boss, someone will publicly expose your shortcomings in a joking way in public, which will damage your authority. Can you accept it?

Xiao Li was silent. ......

Joking with leaders in the workplace, such people are often "excellent employees" with strong ability.

However, please note that Excellence is your true nature and should not be your capital to "undermine leadership".

Employees with high emotional intelligence know how to handle jokes properly.

0 1 How to create a perfect "superior-subordinate relationship" What is the most taboo in the workplace?

Many friends in the workplace have different answers and ideas about this question.

Some people say it's character, others think it's ability; However, Sir Luo believes that the most important thing in the workplace is to correctly understand your relationship with your superiors.

A common mistake in the workplace is that we often substitute the mode of getting along with friends in society into workplace relations.

In life, in order to maintain friendship, we often hurt each other, dig up dark materials, and maintain and consolidate our friendship in the process.

It is feasible to get along with friends. Animal behavior has long found that one of the actions to maintain a partner in the animal kingdom is to comb each other's hair.

But this model is too prominent in the workplace.

In the organization, we have a common goal: profit; But we get along with friends in life, and our demands are not just the exchange of material interests.

We drink and chat with friends, recall the past, look forward to the future and so on. Among them, there are less material interests and more spiritual pursuits, which also determines that the relationship in the workplace is different from that in life.

As mentioned above, the common goal of an organization is to make profits, and in order to achieve this goal, an organization needs not only competent employees, but also strict workplace management system.

Specifically, when we pursue profitability as a single indicator; In addition to your personal ability, your superiors also value whether you are good or not. Can you reassure me?

Let's go back to the root of the problem. In the workplace, can you joke with the leader at will?

The answer is, no.

Although there is no so-called "perfect" superior-subordinate relationship, some red lines should be insurmountable.

In a public speech, it was said that a real entrepreneur has an important sign that he may not have any old friends.

My understanding of this sentence is that not only are there no old friends, but in the workplace relationship, it is essentially a pure exchange of interests.

Maybe you are controversial about this sentence, but frankly, what is the meaning of our work and work? Isn't it the pursuit of maximizing personal interests in essence?

It is a good thing to have an exchange of interests, and we should treat it with a correct attitude.

The so-called interpersonal relationship in the workplace is to define "subject-predicate". In the structure of the article, there is a structure called subject-predicate structure. In my opinion, workplace relations should also distinguish between "subject and predicate".

Subject-predicate structure refers to a sentence pattern consisting of one or more subjects plus one or more predicates.

This sentence is most suitable for workplace relations.

The subject is the center of gravity of the structure, and other predicates are foil; In the workplace, the "subject" is the leader, and many predicates are subordinates. This kind of workplace relationship is the healthiest.

Should we get on well with the leaders? Obviously, we should, but we need to prioritize. Leadership is the master, and we are the second. In any case, this structure cannot be changed.

In the early years, Ren, the boss of Huawei, received a long letter from a new employee, which listed the reform opinions on Huawei's system and direction.

After a glance, Ren directly ordered the dismissal of the new employee.

This is actually a "subject-predicate type"; As a leader, his majesty and decision-making power cannot be questioned by subordinates, and a reasonable decision-making mechanism has been able to avoid wrong decisions under the leadership.

At this time, as subordinates, we should not interfere too much in the decision-making of leaders.

Similarly, in the workplace, leaders can't joke at will.

Any of your jokes, whether intentional or unintentional, or even showing off your position in front of the leader will challenge the position and authority of the leader.

This kind of "showing off" joke is often triggered by employees who are capable but lack emotional intelligence. In their view, joking with leaders just proves their "unique" status.

But the opposite is true. Any untimely joke will make the leader look down on you.

Even if the leader thinks that your ability is strong enough, in this case, the leader will only think that you are a "good soldier", not a "strong general".

Although there is no so-called perfect interpersonal relationship in the workplace, we can define the upper limit and bottom line principles, which can't be touched and which can be touched.

For leaders, in addition to hoping that employees are capable, it is more important whether employees are easy to use and whether they can share responsibilities for the company.

Interpersonal relationship is a kind of altruism. How to establish high-quality interpersonal relationships in the workplace? The key is to start with "empathy".

Especially for superiors and subordinates, you can think of what leaders can't think of; What the leader can share, you help him share.

Empathy, also called empathy, is a concept expounded by Rogers, the founder of humanism. Empathy is essentially the ability to perceive other people's emotions and stand in the position of others.

That is to say, having empathy first will be beneficial to his heart.

Perceiving other people's emotions and understanding others is a kind of empathy.

From the perspective of sociobiology, altruism is an instinct of animals to exchange individual "self-sacrifice" for the existence and continuation of species.

In other words, "win-win cooperation" is the safest and most appropriate interpersonal strategy in the workplace.

Many people mistakenly think that altruism means giving up their own interests, which is wrong.

The premise of true altruism is self-interest.

In fact, it is the best interpersonal skills in the workplace to treat the relationship between superiors and subordinates correctly and not bring the emotions in life to work.