"Good Will Hunting" Film Review

This is the third time I have watched this movie, and to be honest, I am a little tired of it. But the touch is still there, maybe this is the charm of the classic. It goes straight to human nature, spans time and space, and goes all the way into your heart.

This is obviously an excellent psychological counseling teaching film. Many people don’t know how to do counseling, so they learn various counseling skills and useful information with anxiety. I think the more important thing is that first of all you have to be honest with yourself and be real, and secondly the work with the client.

Will is an unruly genius, smart, with a superb memory, eloquent, but always causing trouble. He was accidentally discovered by MIT mathematics professor Lan Bo. Lanbo went to the police station to release Will, and made a three-part agreement with Will. First, he would participate in solving math problems every week, and second, he would have psychological counseling once a week.

Will was reluctant, so he staged several good plays at the beginning to successfully force the consultant to retreat.

In the first psychological consultation, Will pointed out the counselor's homosexuality in sharp, frank and aggressive words, and the counselor left angrily. During the second psychological consultation, Will pretended to cooperate with the hypnotist but actually teased him. The consultant was equally ashamed and angry.

In fact, there is a reason why Will would make the counselors feel ashamed and successfully anger them here. A person who deliberately provoked his adoptive father to beat him in order to protect his mother and sister since he was a child must have something deep in his heart. Hiding endless pain and fear. This life also often feels a strong sense of shame - I am not treated well, I am not worthy of being loved, I am shameful.

And Will has extraordinary IQ and amazing insight, so he can always find the most important, obscure and unspeakable part of a person, then anger him and finally defeat him. This is also a constant repetition of the relationship between himself and his adoptive father.

The reason why counselors are "succumbed to the trap" is also because they have a tendency to "not dare to face themselves sincerely". Naturally, they cannot withstand Will's attacks and are restricted by their identities. , and did not dare to express anger directly, so the relationship was broken.

I changed five psychological counselors, but the result still didn’t work. Lan Bo decided to find his old classmate Sean. Sean started talking about "trust" in class - if the client doesn't trust you, he won't be able to be honest with you, and therapy will be meaningless. He also joked that if he didn't trust you, he wouldn't sleep with you, so he would take advantage of his vulnerability.

When Sean first appeared, he gave people a kind, steady but humorous feeling. It was later revealed that he was a lovely old man who was sincere and wise.

The first meeting between Sean and Will was also very interesting. Sean is outraged when Will accuses Sean's wife of cheating on her through an analysis of a painting. But unlike the previous counselor who gave up consulting with Will because he was attacked, he directly expressed his anger and almost beat Will. Will was stunned for a moment. This old man had subverted his inherent knowledge. He was really different.

In fact, in a relationship, if both parties hide their emotions and do not express them, then the relationship will not go far or deep. Because the energy of emotions will not disappear, if you don't express it directly when you feel uncomfortable, you will definitely express it in other more awkward ways. It feels like a bowl of hot noodles. You don't eat it directly, but wait until it has been sitting for a long time before eating it. The taste is so sour and refreshing.

After Sean expressed his anger directly to Will, he was still willing to continue counseling. This gives Will another possibility in the relationship. Even if we conflict, I will not abandon you. In fact, a seed of love was planted in Will's heart.

Sean and Will met for the second time. He took Will to the picturesque lakeside, where the spring breeze was pleasant and the lake was clear. It was a very suitable place to open up. He told Will that he lay in bed in the middle of the night and had insomnia, and the pain caused by his wife's death. He also gently told Will like a wise old man that many of his understandings of life were by no means what he read in books, and that he was just a scared man. arrogant child.

Finally, sincerely express to Will: Unless you want to talk about yourself, the real you, I am fascinated and I am willing to join.

The third meeting was even more interesting. Sean and Will faced each other without saying a word. I waited until the consultation was over without saying a word.

In fact, this silence was Will's test. His "disbelief" in others was too strong, so he wanted to see if the respect was really there. Sean succeeded. He made Will understand that in this room he could talk whatever he wanted or not.

This is a very subtle interaction between the client and the counselor. If the counselor can accept his own anxiety and stabilize it instead of rushing to break the silence, then the client's Real needs will emerge.

In the fourth meeting, Will was the first to break the silence and tell a joke. Later, he expressed his real worries - he did not dare to enter an intimate relationship and was afraid that the other person would not be perfect.

At this moment, the trusting relationship is truly established.

Sean told Will about his wife’s embarrassment, and while laughing, he let Will know that everyone is imperfect, but it is those imperfect little qualities that make people miss you and are willing to protect the unique person who accompanies you. life. I think Will's heart got it.

The fifth meeting was very awkward because Will was unwilling to face himself truthfully. Sean asked Will "what do you want", but Will kept avoiding it. Sean expresses his disappointment directly and asks Will to get out.

This conflict is very real and tense. In fact, counselors do not always have to play the role of kindness. After trust has been established in a relationship, conflict can be beneficial. Conflict allows the client to see that the counselor is also a real person, a caring but angry person. At the same time, the counselor's true expression will also prompt the client to start to reflect on "what do I want?"

For the sixth time, Will was late for a long time, but finally came. He had already thought about facing it. When Sean mentioned Will's childhood trauma, Will still laughed to cover it up. Sean kept saying: It's not your fault, it's not your fault, it's not your fault... Will's defense collapsed completely, and he hugged Sean and cried like a child, crying away all his fears. .

The most important reason why Sean's consultation can be successful is that his relationship with Will is equal and real. In front of Will, he did not "pretend" or regard himself as an authority, but showed an open state. You will be hurt, you will forgive, you will be angry, you will feel pity, you will be willing to accept yourself and others. Such a living individual, with love and care for others, gets closer to the frightened child little by little.

Throwing aside all consulting techniques, only life can meet another life, and only love and truth can open the door to the heart.