Solve the contradiction between wife and mom and dad

I also feel that there is no problem in this world that cannot be solved. I am really relieved to see the double-sided tape.

Extremely depressed, and then think there must be a happy family, but we don't know how they deal with it.

Some questions.

I found this article, and after reading it, I suddenly realized that the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law can be handled like this.

I think it will be of reference value to you.

Comments on Double-sided Adhesive-How should a man handle the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law (turn)

I read "Double-sided Adhesive" a few days ago, and I had some feelings, so I replied to some posts intermittently, mainly off.

How does father deal with some problems in family life? Many sisters replied and asked me.

Post on this topic alone, so I sorted out the following text, which is not very smooth because there is no

A theme that is too concentrated is only practical and emotional, reflecting the feelings of my father and my family.

An attitude and principle of life, written to encourage everyone.

Seeing double-sided tape is a very short-lived thing, so depressing. The most hateful thing in the whole thing is

It should be Yaping. There are such cowardly and shameless men in the world. If he is determined and responsible enough,

I don't want my wife to be wronged. No matter how vicious my mother-in-law and sister-in-law are, there is no place to run wild. I want to join.

What is written here is a completely different attitude and principle of life, which may not be appropriate.

But at least I don't have to vomit blood from internal injuries.

My father joined the army from rural Shandong and was very filial to my grandmother. He is also the eldest son of the family,

There are brothers and sisters below, both of whom are not fuel-efficient lamps, but he won't let my mother.

Mother suffered a little injustice. How did he do it?

When my father married my mother more than forty years ago, he was a cadre who joined the army in War of Resistance against Japanese Aggression and went to school again.

University, three generations of poor peasants, with deep roots and good education, is really a typical example of being both red and expert. Clever as my mother is,

Beautiful, but a capitalist, so when they returned to my father's hometown to visit relatives after marriage, my mother

I'm still a little worried about being wronged. But her father's performance completely reassured her.

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My mother is a woman from a water town in the south of the Yangtze River. She is slender and delicate, which is not suitable for farmers in the north.

The aesthetic standards in the village, so her two sisters-in-law gossiped in her mother-in-law's ear, saying that my mother was in good health.

No, I'm afraid there will be no dolls in the future. My grandmother studies languages for my father. My father is very angry, but

I didn't know about my grandmother, so I scolded my second aunt in front of my grandmother: "I like her like that."

Son, what's wrong with being weak as a lesbian? This is what a scholar should look like, if she

He has big hands and big feet. Like you, he can only work in the fields. "Scared my grandmother and aunt.

I'm afraid to go out. You see, my dad is macho enough, but you have to see where his power goes.

Make.

The toilets in the northern countryside are very dirty, especially forty years ago, my mother didn't dare to go at all, so I

Dad found a basin in the house for her to solve, and took it out after finishing. He met me.

Aunt, she spoke: "Brother, you are a big cadre, how can you give her shit?" keep

She is used to it. "Hearing this, my father handed me the bedpan in his hand and said," Oh, you said I can't.

Go, then you go, she is your sister-in-law, eldest sister-in-law like mother, you should. "My aunt is?

Silly, I had to empty my mother's bedpan and never dared to speak again.

My father was very famous in Shiliba Village at that time, and everyone regarded him as a hero, so people came here very much.

A lot. My grandmother thinks my father is definitely a big shot, and my mother is a great blessing to marry him.

It's okay to be a cow and a horse, so I always want to crush my mother. One day,

Father vomited a truth after drinking. After drinking too much, he got drunk in front of many people.

He said, "The proudest thing in my life is to marry such a well-educated and beautiful wife.

There are many people who want to marry her, all older than me. If she just followed me, I wouldn't lose my mind.

Anything that can make her unhappy, except my mother, need not be said in front of me when she is wronged in the future.

I don't know him. "Everyone was shocked, although my grandmother was sentenced to let my mother be wronged.

Without being sanctioned, do you think she dares to use it? Do you think my father is drunk?

It was this first time that the rules were established, and there would be much less trouble in the future. Even a little wavelet

Yes, my father always takes a clear-cut stand on my mother's side. So over the years, our family

There are few contradictions. Why, marriage is two people's lives, and in-laws are all outside in the final analysis.

People, as long as the family is United, what outsiders say, even if they say it, they just don't hear it.

That's right. My father never allows outsiders to make irresponsible remarks about our family. He is filial, but he is not.

Shun's people love their grandmother very much, but they never take the old man's words as an imperial edict, he said

Understand clearly: What does the old man know? She's confused. You can't confuse. As for siblings, they are sensible and behave themselves.

If you can help some people, if you have wild ideas or sow discord, you should send them away immediately, which is absolutely intolerable.

Love. So no one dares to speak ill of my mother in front of him.

I think my husband's position is too important. If he really wants to solve the problem, he won't.

Well, the key is whether he loves you or not, and whether he wants to stand up for you. That kind of shrinking turtle takes care of his wife.

Be wronged and pretend to be invisible and petty. Get as far away as possible. As for the kind of person who helps the family.

If you bully your wife, divorce early and leave your family childless!

That's why I don't believe any nonsense like splint gas. Being a man can't protect his wife.

What can you do if you are alive? My father is a very sorry person. He comes from the countryside, but he has never been.

Indulge in the bad habits of relatives in the countryside, he said, what songs to sing on what mountains and what to want in the countryside?

I don't care, but you have to follow my rules when you get to my house. Nor did he ask his wife and children to adapt to them, because

Because he thinks that his wife also has her own living habits, why should she accommodate others? A person in his own home

You should accommodate others. There is no such thing in the world. Not to mention children, it can't be these bad habits.

Accustomed to being polluted.

Therefore, relatives in my hometown sometimes go too far, and my dad can't make a sound when he stares.

Yes We don't think life is too much trouble. One can't choose one's origin,

But you can choose your life. Like Yaping and the splint, I just think they are alive.

should be Such people, unable to adapt to city life, always try to use agriculture on the pretext of birth.

The old customs and bad habits in the village bound his wife. Such people should get married and have children in the countryside.

You should never have come out. You are hurting people and pretending to be wronged.

Also, to help others, you should do what you can, and you can't punch your face. My father's attitude towards relatives.

Reasonable requirements are generally met. He doesn't smoke or drink, and lives frugally for his son and nephew to study.

But he never asked his wife and children to give up their lives and enjoy helping others. My aunt complained that my mother had a big skirt.

Clothes are enough for their family to live for several months. But my father never thought that my mother should not buy this big one.

Clothes, give the money to my aunt, in his words, you have food and clothing, I will provide for the children to go to school, and you have the final say.

What is your sister-in-law wearing? A person's life, you don't have to compare with her, you can't compare, you can't do it.

Yes, egalitarianism.

Also, what I hate most about men is that our custom there is such an excuse. various

This is not a custom. A place can have its own customs. Leave this place and don't say anything about the wind.

Vulgar nonsense, otherwise it will only make people laugh. Ethnic minorities can also rob relatives in their hometown.

Try going to the city, you won't die, you rascal! ! ! Help parents and brothers crush their wives with customs.

, pure two fools. How dare you say that others don't respect you and look down on rural people, you know?

Tao, people will humiliate themselves first, then humiliate others. Don't say it's not an insult that your wife doesn't follow your custom.

Your family, even if it is insulting, you deserve it anyway! ! !

I have read some posts before saying that their daughters-in-law will kowtow to their parents-in-law and other elders during the Spring Festival.

Even there are elders in the village who insist on knocking, and the daughter-in-law is unwilling to knock. The husband is still unhappy and thinks she is not.

Respect your family. I think this kind of person just needs to fight. Everyone in my family has hard bones, never.

The habit of the younger generation kowtowing to the living elders, that is, the deceased elders, depends on whether it is given to us.

There is kindness and righteousness, and not everyone can make us kneel. Now, just because we are married, we want me.

Kneeling an irrelevant stranger, if I dare to kneel, my father will definitely slap me in the face. Why?

What a bitch! ! !

The customs in rural Shandong discriminate against women, and women and children can't be with men on formal occasions.

Those who eat at the table can only eat in the kitchen. But when my father took my mother home to visit relatives, Dundun asked her

Sitting with my grandmother. Why? Custom is made by people, and people can break it. The law can only

Consider good customs, and unreasonable customs must be broken. Anyone who sticks to this custom will say something.

Who is looking for cigarettes?

Relatives from the countryside come to my house, and my mother and I not only eat at the table, but if it is my mother's turn to cook,

She didn't understand. She sat at the table with an apron on, and no one was allowed to move chopsticks. This is the minimum respect for housewives. What is the wind?

Custom, this is the custom of our family. My aunt didn't like it at first, and thought it natural for men to accompany guests to dinner.

First, it's normal for women to be busy under the stove and eat some residual soup and water. My father said that you like to stay in the kitchen.

Now eat and squat in the kitchen. No one will stop you. Our family is very free. If you don't go.

Sit here and eat honestly. Don't make trouble. So I feel that my mother-in-law is small.

Menstruation's difficulties, a lot of things are used to. Nobody cares about her and dares to speak.

Anyway, over the years, I have never seen anyone dare to mess with my mother, and my father has stopped me.

Another excuse is also annoying, that is, a man says to his wife, "In front of outsiders and my family."

You have to listen to me, you have to work harder, because you have given me face. "My father looked down on this.

Man, he said that the soldier's face was made with a real knife and a real gun, bought with his life and covered with bears.

What's the face of bullying your wife at home? Of course, this will follow your sisters' husbands.

It's a bit difficult, but it can be extended that men's face is earned by making money and earning results.

Work, anyway, no matter what you do, don't go home to find face, don't say face,

Lose face. Give him face in front of outsiders, give him face in front of family, yourself.

What about face? Why are you shameless?

My father has been a soldier all his life and earned enough face outside, but I have never seen him go home to look for his face.

What should I do? It listens to my mother. Tell him to pat garlic, but he dare not peel onions. (He also

In his words, as long as it does not affect the work, what are the principles?

We all know that someone says behind his back that he is afraid of his wife. What is this? My dad said that to everyone.

Bumpkin, he is not afraid, he enjoys it and nobody cares. In fact, the atmosphere in the army

Sometimes it's not good. There are some situations and oral words that despise lesbians, especially their families, but

No one dares to show any contempt in front of my mother. Why, father's attitude is there?

What: If you don't give your wife face, you will give me face. No, it's worse than losing face.

So for so many years, from top to bottom, my mother has never been angry with others or even talked.

Speak loudly, and others should listen calmly. So, some women complain.

Husband's friends and family don't respect themselves because your own husband doesn't respect you. Don't.

Only people dare to step on you. In this case, you must go home to find the root cause.

I don't like men complaining that their wives can't do housework, and some of them have nothing to do all their lives.

Man, obviously from a poor family, can't even tell shark fin from fans, but he complains about his wife.

The Manchu-Han banquet could not be rectified. It would be even worse if another old lady could cook two home-cooked meals.

Calling my wife stupid and cooking is not as good as his mother. My mother-in-law doesn't know how to respect herself and doesn't like her daughter-in-law all day.

Will do housework, afraid of mistreating my precious son. My brother and I made this bitch, too. Give me a hug.

Complaining that my mother's cooking is terrible. But my father scolded me like a dog. My father said, your mother again.

Not your nanny. It's nice to cook for you. Whoever doesn't like it can cook it himself.

My father can't cook. He has never been in the kitchen in his life, so he never complains. My mother

He eats anything he cooks. My brother and I are not reconciled, so we try to be strong, so our food

Well done. Our family began to use a nanny very early, because my father can't cook, and.

I don't want my mother to stay in the kitchen all day. He thinks that men don't want to if they have the conditions.

You should make your wife work hard.

So I can't stand the idea that you can't even cook and wash your clothes. I will marry you.

What's the use of fallacies? In our family, there is only one answer to what a wife is used for.

That is: Marrying a wife is for love. In our small family, because we are old, we don't use a nanny.

I'd rather go to work than let an outsider loiter at home. Compared with the two of us, I cook.

It's delicious, but it doesn't mean I should cook. My husband came home from work and saw me cooking. He was very tall.

Xing, because he has something delicious. If I don't cook, he does it cheerfully, and then I don't do it.

The children happily went out to find food together, so I heard that some men stopped cooking when they got home.

After dinner, I began to get angry, saying that I was tired for a day and I couldn't even eat a hot meal at home. I feel special.

Strange, who is not tired for a day? Who should cook for you? Do I owe you? Say this

If it wasn't hitting people, what was it?

In fact, I think if a man can know how to love and respect his wife, the family atmosphere will be better.

Very good. My father-in-law is not a bad person, but rude and selfish, and my mother-in-law is weak and kind.

Not less angry with my father-in-law, my husband's personality combines the characteristics of both of them and is more popular, but

Kind, especially distressed by my mother-in-law, but he doesn't like the atmosphere of his home very much. He arrived for the first time.

When we are at home, we are surprised that there is such a life in this world, and couples can

Get along so well, appreciate each other, attract each other, and feel fresh after being married for more than 40 years.

Life is peaceful but not dull, and two people should do everything together. I am with my parents.

We are completely like friends, introducing new things to my parents and sharing all the delicious food.

It's fun. Everyone cares about other people's feelings and needs. I let it go at that time

He turned blue with jealousy.

Therefore, my husband worships my father very much. When I was studying abroad, he went back by himself during the Spring Festival.

My parents' home spent the New Year with two old people and didn't go to their home until the fourth day of junior high school. This is because they have to replace them.

I am filial, on the other hand, because I really like the atmosphere of our family.

We have been married for more than two years and have never been influenced by external forces.

My parents have been here twice, each time for three or four months, and everyone has no psychological burden.

Everyone is very happy. As soon as my husband comes home from work, all social activities can be pushed around.

He called home early to ask for leave, and his colleagues said he was homesick.

Being a woman is really hard enough. The more society develops, the higher the demand for women. I used to be.

Now, as long as they are professional women, they should be able to race horses by arm and give up halfway.

Gender discrimination such as death and unequal pay for equal work (civil servants and other professional exceptions) is really endless.

If you marry a little man with no skills and no temper, will you take your family with you?

My husband's family has seen the world. I hope you can be warm and considerate when you go home. There are tea, rice and soup, clothes for the four seasons, and.

If you can't do it at all, people will complain and want to find fault with you at any time. I really don't know what to do these days.

Guo Yao. I don't know how they put up with it, and I don't know what it is necessary to put up with it. I am very

I don't like to hear the argument that "long is bitter, short is life", at least I don't like to hear it.

Quote this argument as your own excuse. What are you doing? Who can't live without it? one

A man, if he can't love you, support you and help you, what's the use of your coming? I was right.

The requirements of marriage are simple. It's not that I don't want wealth and power, but these shouldn't be.

What you get through marriage can also be obtained through your own efforts. I just want one.

A man who puts me first in everything and always puts me first, if he feels that his parents and brothers are connected by blood.

Everyone is more important than his wife. They should be wronged for the sake of their wives. I'm sorry, it makes me sick.

Poison them, let their families inbreed and go to their nests.

The key is that girls should understand in their hearts that even if they love someone again, they can't get it back.

You rely on aggression, but you trample on your self-esteem and warmth. And I can't tolerate his family treating you.

Gift. To marry a person is to marry a person, which has nothing to do with his family. I advocate goodwill.

Be kind to his family, but only if they treat him equally. If his family doesn't know

Self-respect, thinking that the daughter-in-law is an accessory of her son, and her contribution is due, so she can't give me photos.

Should respect and return, I'm sorry, I don't know you, my family doesn't welcome you, I will never.

I want these people to appear before me.

If my husband can coordinate the relationship and understand my situation, we can still live by ourselves.

Married, if he is indiscriminate, he feels that the younger generation will make way for the older generation, damn it!

Whatever you say is right. I'm sorry. You can fuck off, too.

From small to large, others praised our family's good family education, pitied the old and loved the poor, and did not praise the high and step on the low.

Neither humble nor supercilious. But my parents never asked me to be unprincipled towards my elders. Filial piety/mourning

I can only be tactless. Even if I get married, I have a personality.

Completely independent, my principles will not change at all. My parents gave birth to me and raised me at the age of twenty.

After so many years, I have not been wronged at all. If I marry someone, I have to submit to humiliation and do it.

What I can't do to my parents. Knock out the front teeth and swallow them into your stomach. If my father finds out,

Yes, he will definitely knock out my front teeth first. Why? What a bitch! ! !

When I got married, I never asked my husband's family for a penny, nor did I ask my parents for a sum of money. Good girl.

I don't wear wedding clothes, but I will never forget what my parents said. My dad said, be filial to the public.

Grandma, don't let people laugh that your parents didn't teach you well, but if they give you a hard time for no reason, don't.

Endure, endure once, and there will be a second time. What was the result? He's right, grandpa.

Nothing happened, trying to suppress me and show me off. It's too much. When did my mother?

When I got married, I said, don't think that the water spilled by my married daughter belongs to her family.

I will never be angry with others.

My father was very angry after asking questions and making sure I didn't do anything wrong, but he didn't.

Someone wants to come to the door to judge, why, what reason do you have with this ignorant villager? If he had reason, he wouldn't have done it.

Such a stupid thing. My father doesn't do such degrading things, in-laws. What about you?

It wasn't your family that kissed you, it was a stranger. I am a stranger to you, my daughter.

I will talk to whoever my son marries. My dad didn't say anything, so he asked my husband to think about it.

Bai, my husband figured it out then.

Since then, I have never seen my husband's family, and they can't come to the door, but the old man's.

We pay the alimony, the father-in-law is sick, the medical expenses are all paid by us, and both sons and nephews can take the exam.

We also subsidize college. On holidays, my husband wants to go back by himself, but I won't.

It's the door. You can't afford to hide if you don't mess with me?

Now our life is very good. Sometimes, I think, the wisdom of the elderly is indeed so.

Unusual. If my father tells me to be patient, the result will be my father-in-law pushing his luck, won't it?

Breaking into our small family, my husband is in a dilemma. If you can't retreat, retreat again.

Counterattack is definitely a lose-lose situation. Even if I don't get divorced, I don't know what to do in the future.

It's over.

Human nature is evil. If they know you are insulting and squeezing you, and you dare not resist, then they

Your courage will get bigger and bigger, and you will go too far, if you give it at the beginning.

Fight back resolutely and let them know what your bottom line is, so that people who are arrogant and presumptuous will not dare.

Bully you.

The landlord seems to care about his wife. I believe you can create a happy home.