It’s very flattering to praise a boy like this

Praising a boy like this for being a top guy:

Praising a boy like this for being a top guy

1 Direct praise

Direct praise is considered high quality to a certain extent. Needy behavior, such as: "You are so handsome, you are so great."

In the early and ambiguous period of love, direct compliments should be used less frequently.

In the later stages of love and marriage, direct compliments are used more frequently

2. Indirect compliments

Indirect compliments are semi-positive expressions.

The subtlety of it lies in not letting the other person feel happy, and the other person will continue to pay for you just to feel happy. For example, treat you well, strive to be the first in your heart, strive to express yourself in front of you, etc.

3 Give an example of indirect praise:

A divorced woman has high emotional intelligence. She is currently in an ambiguous relationship with a boy whose value is higher than hers. Her interest in boys is higher than boys' interest in her. The following conversation occurred when they were climbing a mountain together:

Female: It must have been hard climbing the mountain today.

Male: Yes, quite tired.

Female: I didn’t feel tired when I went hiking with my ex-husband before, and the relationship was fine at that time.

Male: (Said nothing)

Female: (After saying the above sentence, she looked at the man for a few seconds, and then said leisurely) I don’t feel tired today either .

Did you get it? This is an indirect compliment

1. This girl did not directly praise his ex-husband, nor did he directly praise the current boy.

2. This MM did not directly state that she liked this man. She only stated that she did not feel tired today, and she did not feel tired when she and her ex-husband were in a good relationship before.

3. This kind of indirect compliment requires the person being praised to make several turns in his brain to understand what the other person means.

In this way, the person being praised will fall into a fantasy. Is she praising me? Does she like me? But it doesn’t feel like she likes me very deeply, and she didn’t say anything directly. . No, no, it doesn't feel good. She just likes me. I want her to express her feelings for me frankly next time. I want to try again to see if she really likes me.

In the above example of indirect praise, MM is good at:

1. Mentioning her ex-husband candidly, without fear that the other party will be unhappy if she mentions this. Many timid and stupid people MM doesn't dare to mention it at all. They will feel inferior if they do. In fact, only girls who have the courage to face their inner fears will make men dare not have bad intentions.

2. The body movements are skillfully used. After mentioning the ex-husband, the few seconds when the hero does not speak, the gaze of the eyes is also very important.

Excessive praise is licking. Let me give you an example to understand "degree".

For example: If a boy has been working very seriously.

You praise him for his hard work, those who are capable work harder, you are excellent, but it is boring to talk too much.

So if he has been working seriously, you can just say it once or twice at most. After that, there is no need to praise him, just get along with him normally. If you praise him too much, the price will drop.

But if a boy often mentions that he has had a hard day at work or that he is very busy today, how should he respond positively and positively?

1. What are you busy with today? ?

2. It’s hard work. You can relax after get off work.

3. I feel like you are very busy every day?

4. You have been talking to me for three days...

When a man keeps asking you When talking about one of his difficulties, you can encourage and praise him at first. Later, you should learn to normalize his complaining behavior, and you can even diss him in return.

For example, point 4 mentioned above, why do you do this?

Because always comforting a man will really make him boring and he will feel that you are of lower value and you are completely unacceptable to him. Take control.

So there are several errors in everyone’s thinking model:

1. There is no need to praise a man every time. Eighty percent of the emotional value is emotional stability, and 100% of the emotional value is emotional stability. Twenty is the time to praise delayed gratification, being naughty, playful, etc. Praise only accounts for a small part of the emotional value.

2. You don’t have to respond positively to a man every time. If you respond positively every time, how can there be such a thing as emotional fluctuations?

3. Let him understand you. She is a girl with her own life, don't show her independent personality. You are not his trash can. I can pour these bitter waters on you arbitrarily.

It is rare to praise a man for no reason, so when should you praise him?

Before he takes the initiative to come to you, most of the compliments are indirect.

After you attract him and he starts to actively seek you out, you will have very, very few compliments, but use as many direct and perfect compliments as possible. The purpose is to praise him directly when he does something that makes you happy.

The following is the rhetoric.

Not directly praising boys for being handsome

1. It’s all because of you that I even let XX get dissed.

2. Have you underestimated your appearance?

3. You used your electric eyes to attract your ex.

Indirectly praising boys for their hard work

1. Is it necessary to work so hard?

2. What should we do if you work so hard?

3. Don’t be too tired and go to bed early at night.

Indirectly praising boys for being considerate

1. Hey, has your ex ever said that you are considerate?

2. Are you trying to impress me to death?

3. Aren’t you afraid of spoiling me?

No truly exquisite words can come from this It is reflected in one sentence, just like the conversation I gave you as an example at the beginning. Really exquisite indirect compliments are all improvised and created through conversation.

If used well, it is called flirting; if used improperly, it is called greasy.