In marriage, women should pay special attention to "disaster comes from the mouth", don't you think?

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We all know that a good word is warm in three winters and a bad word hurts people in June, but sometimes, the closer we are, the more we will make such mistakes.

Especially in marriage, we should pay more attention to "disaster comes from the mouth".

A friend told me that she was having trouble with her husband. This time, she really made him angry. His face was ugly. She obviously wanted to apologize, but her heart began to panic.

At ordinary times, the way they get along with each other is that her husband dotes on her and follows her, which leads to her sometimes being outspoken.

In addition, her personality is a little impatient, and she is slightly annoyed, so she speaks without considering the consequences. This quarrel with her husband is the same. She never thought so much.

I was in a hurry and said what I thought, and I ended up saying something that hurt him.

It's not a big deal. He's not good at housework. She taught him slowly before she got married, but he didn't learn well enough. After she gave birth, he worked hard at it, but he still didn't achieve what she wanted.

that day, he made a little mistake while doing it again. Suddenly, she was very upset and said, "How did your mother teach you? I will teach my son to learn to do this early in the future! "

as soon as she said this, she realized that his face had changed, and then she reacted. His mother died when he was 12 years old.

without saying anything, he went to the living room quietly. Realizing that she had said something wrong, she tried to call him, but he didn't answer. Generally, when he didn't speak, he was really angry.

It's like making a mistake when reading. The first reaction is always to hide yourself and hide this mistake. She is the same, although she knows that she is wrong, but she is afraid to apologize to him.

She is very upset. This is not the first time that she has made him angry by saying something wrong. Different situations have happened before. Sometimes, she will be stubborn, and Rao will not bow first if she is wrong.

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But usually after a while, his mood will return to normal. Unlike this time, she said that after a day and a night, he still didn't say much.

Because they are the closest, what they say can hurt people the most. Maybe he won't take other people's words to heart, but what you say will.

You should understand that in marriage, sometimes the tongue hurts more than the fist, whether you do it unintentionally or intentionally.

When I was in junior high school, I met such a couple. They have been married for many years, and they have always given outsiders the impression that "women are strong and men are weak". This contrast between strength and weakness simply refers to personality.

men don't like to talk very much, while women are grumpy, so they can't lose anything, and they have a loud voice. Whoever annoys her is not afraid of half a point, and the reason is not forgiving.

Actually, her husband has a good evaluation from others. He doesn't have any bad hobbies. He doesn't smoke, drink or play cards. When he has nothing to do, he just watches TV at home and occasionally goes fishing.

She is the only one who is always dissatisfied with her husband, saying that he doesn't have one advantage, but his whole body is full of shortcomings.

The root of all this is probably that her husband doesn't make much money, and she often says that he is useless. No matter what she said, her husband didn't say anything, so it got worse.

her husband is silent, so naturally he is afraid to speak. He said, if you don't come back, she will stop talking for a while. If you answer the question, it is estimated that she can quarrel with you all night without rest.

I thought that after all these years, the marriage should be a foregone conclusion. When quarreling, women swear and talk about divorce, saying that if they were ten years younger, they would never marry him.

It was just a joke, and everyone laughed it off. I didn't expect the two of them to really get divorced later.

The difference is that the divorce was not put forward by a woman, but by her husband.

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If marriage is compared to a lake, some people can only see the calm surface of the lake, which is harmless, but they don't realize that there is an undercurrent under the lake. It is only a matter of time before it surges.

No one is a fool, and he is willing to be the weak role in a relationship all the time, accommodating because he thinks more, rather than really being afraid of that person.

if we don't stop it all the time, then one day, the undercurrent at the bottom of the lake can set off new waves and make the original calm disappear.

In fact, she didn't expect him to dare to divorce herself, but she was stubborn and didn't believe that this man who had been resigned in marriage dared to do so.

She said, "If you leave, you will be afraid of who!" So, also left.

When he filed for divorce, he was 45 years old. They got married at the age of 22, and all these years of marriage came along. Unexpectedly, it was finally destroyed by her mouth.

It's her mother-in-law's birthday. When they were at home, he said to give her a thousand dollars. And she thought it was too much, and she could only give it to 5. After saying this, she went out first, thinking that he would definitely do it according to his own requirements.

I didn't expect that after dinner, my mother-in-law said it, only then did she know that he still gave a thousand dollars. At that time, she got angry and said some unpleasant things in front of many in-laws

His face was ugly at that time, and her mother-in-law knew her character. She even came out to make amends and said that she didn't want the money, so that the two of them could live a good life.

What she was angry about was not that she gave her mother-in-law a thousand dollars, but that she didn't listen to her, so she suddenly got angry.

It was the first time that they had been married for many years. He stood on his mother's side, told her to take the money, and yelled at her to stop. She was confused at the time, and then they went back and began to quarrel.

when he went back to quarrel, he still didn't say much, but after her quarrel, he filed for divorce. Usually, she is outside, and she doesn't spit on him less. It is the same with Rao himself.

He always followed her, which made her ignore the fact that he also wanted to save face. She always only thought about her own face.

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In marriage, the days are long and life is dull. If two people live together for a long time, it is inevitable to quarrel.

She realized that even a good marriage can't be separated from quarreling, but quarreling comes back to quarreling. Close the door and pay more attention to your "proper limit". This is between you two. Shut the door and make noise, and don't let outsiders know.

Husband and wife are one. When you don't give each other face, you are actually refuting your own face. I think of my mother who often scolds my father when she is at home, but I find that Rao and her sisters still choose to praise her father when they are outside.

There is also "proper limit". There are always some people who ignore it when they are angry, and they are just venting their emotions. There are even some people who can say how to hurt people.

in this way, your temporary anger is gone, but the deeper hidden trouble is buried.

Most of the time, you may forget what you said in your anger, but those words will stab into the other person's heart as deeply as a thorn, and it is difficult to pull them out, because what you say is spilled water, which can't be taken back.

So, you have to understand that couples quarrel on the premise of solving problems, not just to vent their dissatisfaction. Think about it before you speak, is this sentence of yours a timely help or worse?

You are people who want to live together for life. Don't let those words as sharp as knives finally cut the fate of two people, which is very worthless.

between husband and wife, think twice before speaking.