Why are some women unwilling to talk about marriage?

For women who have experienced emotional setbacks, more and more choose not to get married, not because they are disappointed with marriage, but because they are full of more respect. In the journey of life, they gradually drifted away from their marriage and rushed to the end of their lives without hesitation.

The reasons are often as follows.

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Love is a two-way street, not a person's insistence.

Eight difficulties in life: birth, old age, illness, death, love to leave, resentment for a long time, longing and letting go. The first four are involuntary, and the last four are based on personal practice.

There are thousands of forms of love, but the ending of love is very simple, either caring for each other or forgetting each other.

Being together naturally is everyone's expectation and yearning, but passing by and parting ways will always come unexpectedly.

Many people are like moths to a fire, caught in the whirlpool of feelings: there are talented people who meet beautiful women, Lori who loves uncles, harps and songs, and friends who can't get together.

Just because we met so beautifully, at the moment when our eyes looked at each other, we fell in love with each other hopelessly, regardless of the great differences in age, status and identity. Love is love, even if it breaks with relatives and friends, even if the whole world will not tolerate it.

When the passion for maintaining love is gone, when the initial oath becomes a joke, when the person who keeps saying that he wants to love himself all his life turns to love others, he finds that love is two-way, and his wishful thinking is futile.

The longest love is that two interesting souls attract each other for a long time. No matter how many years have passed, it is still like meeting for the first time, full of joy and happiness, full of certainty and nature.

The failed emotional experience and subsequent attempts also ended in failure, and many women began to stop looking forward to love, let alone marriage. They will follow fate for the rest of their lives, not expecting love or marriage. Living well every day is a kind of stable happiness.

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Found what you really wanted.

Jane Austen, an English woman writer, is as famous as Shakespeare. Her novels are set in rural life, showing the style of an era. Austen is unmarried for life, but in her literary works, all the heroines have happy endings, which seems to make up for her own regret of love in reality.

The film "Becoming Jane" tells the reason why she didn't get married: Jane Austen, who loves writing, met a talented young man from the city who was on holiday in the country. They were attracted by each other's talents and fell in love. But young talents can only continue their studies with the help of their uncles. If they stay with Austin, they will lose everything.

Faced with the fierce game between life and ideals, Austin wavered: she didn't want her boyfriend to ruin her future as a judge because of love, and she didn't want to give up her hobby of writing because she became a housewife after marriage.

She said goodbye to her eloped boyfriend, and later refused a proposal from a squire's child. She devoted all her enthusiasm and energy to writing and wrote a rich and wonderful life with her family.

A woman who doesn't want to enter marriage is not unwilling to try love, but to understand her heart and have a dream far more important than the pursuit of love. Therefore, they will put their limited energy into their dreams and persevere.

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Life can't, and neither can love.

In life, there are glamorous warmth and trivial chicken feathers.

With the support of love, the triviality of a chicken feather is also a good opportunity to show love. If you cry hard and tired, he will accompany you to clean up. More reality is that life is just a trivial matter, and he will only turn a deaf ear to your cries of bitterness and tiredness.

The ideal love lies not only in the present, but also in poetry and distance. If it's just you, forget it.

Just like in the TV series "My First Half Life", Luo Zijun met Laojin, a person who took care of her very much: he offered to send Zijun to work; Invited to be a guest at home, I cooked in big bags and repaired all the appliances at home. He asked Zijun and his children to eat first, but he continued to repair electrical appliances himself.

In the eyes of men like Lao Jin, the obligations of husbands and husbands are to make money and work. As for the spiritual level, * * * is consistent with language and three views, which is not the focus of consideration at all.

But life is more than just living together. You buy rice, I buy oil, you cook and I wash dishes. Life is more about two people having endless words, countless mutual recognitions, and surprises of knowing each other.

The spiritual difference is not only irreconcilable, but also a lasting injury, and the final outcome is unacceptable. Just like Teacher Xu Bochang and his wife Liu Shufen in the movie Nothing Needed, kindness can never be transformed into love. Marriage without love is the grave of two people.

Conclusion:

In the movie "Winner is King", the elderly father made a confession to his older unmarried daughter:

She shouldn't get married for her parents, nor should she listen to gossip outside and think about getting married. She wants to marry the person she likes, hold her head high, be particularly car-scrapping, and look forward to it as if she has won.