"In-laws, your daughter is too extravagant and should be in charge of her." What should the in-laws say?

No matter how bad your own daughter is, she feels good. No matter how good the daughter is, she is also uncomfortable. Some mothers-in-law always seem to have double standards.

Once heard a joke, a mother-in-law said, "My daughter-in-law is too lazy to do anything, cook, wash dishes and do housework. Only my son values it."

Someone asked this mother-in-law, where is your daughter?

My mother-in-law said proudly, "My daughter is really lucky. She is married well and doesn't have to do anything. She wants to be invited to dinner and doesn't want to go out for dinner. Her husband will send it to her room to eat, and her mother-in-law has no temper. "

Not their own, but different. The same scene is the same as being a wife. In the eyes of her mother-in-law, other people's daughters are either lazy or poor. If her daughter goes to someone else's house to be a daughter-in-law, it is not lazy or lucky. It would be cruel if something happened to her husband's family.

The contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law stems from the fact that her mother-in-law is too harsh on her daughter-in-law, and she is not pleasing to the eye everywhere, but she does not know how to empathize.

Mother-in-law Liang is such a person. Since her daughter-in-law got married, she has been getting along badly. She has been making rules for her daughter-in-law, telling her not to do this and that.

Grandma Liang has a pet phrase: "I taught you this way because I treat you as my daughter." This is all for your own good. "

Zhang Fen, the daughter-in-law of Liang's mother-in-law, will be numb every time she hears this sentence. If this is for my own good, I'd rather not.

Zhang Fen is also very helpless. If the economy doesn't allow me, I really don't want to live with my mother-in-law after marriage and be bound by her everywhere.

02.

How generous is the mother-in-law? I can't sleep for more than seven years and get up in the morning. You can only drink porridge in the morning, which is good for your stomach. You can't use the washing machine to wash clothes in summer, which wastes water and electricity. It can only be used in winter You can only drink hot water, not cold water, and the air conditioner should not be adjusted too low. ...

Zhang Fen thought it was too depressing. He is an adult, not a child. In twenty or thirty years, he has formed a habit, knowing how to live and how to make himself comfortable.

Two generations live together with different views and habits. Even a person with a good temper sometimes explodes.

Zhang Fen was really wronged. She went home for a few days and talked with her mother. Mom said, "Relax. Old people are like this. They don't like it. They don't like it. They lack empathy. They always feel that their standards are right. You have to be patient and work hard to make money to buy a house and live independently. "

After listening to her mother's advice, Zhang Fencai felt better. Let's not argue with our mother-in-law. She just cares. I just went in one ear and out the other to comfort myself.

The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is very delicate. You have no idea how complicated a person's psychology is. The less you care about her, the more the other person thinks that you have a good temper and don't be angry and let her bully you.

Everyone has a temper that likes to pinch soft persimmons, and her mother-in-law will be under pressure, and there will be times when life is not smooth and she needs to vent.

At this time, the person with the best temper and the least rebuttal ability becomes her "soft persimmon" and takes you as the object of venting.

03.

Mother-in-law Liang is such a person. She has been used to saving since she was a child, and she is reluctant to eat and wear. Her son's income is not very high, and she is even more reluctant to treat people to consumption.

Zhang Fen is a bit busy at work, so shopping can only rely on online shopping. It is convenient and time-saving to place an order directly by mobile phone and wait for express delivery.

I bought clothes, shoes, socks, skin care products and daily necessities, as well as some self-improvement books. Grandma Liang is tired of receiving express delivery from time to time. Every time I come back, Grandma Liang always asks: What is this and how much is it?

Zhang Fen has no talent, so tell the truth and tell me what it is and how much it costs. I once bought a set of skin care products for three or four hundred dollars, which can be used for a long time.

As soon as Mrs. Liang heard the price, she said, "It's so expensive that you are willing to buy it. I bought it last time, and now I buy it again. Just a face. You don't need so many things. " When we were young, let alone using skin care products, we didn't even have soap. People in your time were happy, but then again, money was not so extravagant, so you have to save some flowers. My son's salary is not high Don't be extravagant. "

Zhang Fen received the express, and her heart was filled with joy. He wants to try the effect. After all, he is in personnel management. He has to face the boss and employees all day long, but he can't keep a straight face, but he still needs to pay attention to his image.

Being scolded by her mother-in-law, she was very unhappy, so she said to her mother-in-law, "Mom, I bought this with my own money, without spending your son's money."

04.

After listening to her daughter-in-law, Liang's mother-in-law was even more unhappy. She said, "Since you married my son, your money is my son's money."

Zhang Fen rolled her eyes and didn't want to argue with her mother-in-law. At this rate, she will only quarrel.

Everything my mother-in-law said was from her son's point of view, and she never thought about her daughter-in-law. It seems that if you marry your son, you will devote yourself wholeheartedly and can't keep yourself.

Zhang Fen is still living his own life. He has to buy what he should buy and spend what he should spend. Otherwise, he made money and wronged himself. What's the point?

Seeing that her "education" didn't work and was not binding on her daughter-in-law, Grandma Liang picked up the phone and complained to her distant mother.

"In-laws, your daughter is too extravagant and should be in charge. I educated her as a daughter, but your daughter didn't teach at all. It's too capricious. "

Zhang's mother has long known the virtue of Liang's mother-in-law, and she is lenient. She only has her own son in her eyes, and even privately incited her son to let his daughter-in-law's salary be kept by him or her mother-in-law

Is this not a joke? If the daughter's real salary is given to her husband's family, what will it be? Slave or nanny or servant girl, is there still freedom?

Zhang's mother endured Liang's mother-in-law for a long time. Originally, my daughter often came back to talk, so it was difficult for her to come forward. After all, it is a daughter's marriage, and it is difficult for the mother to intervene. Now the in-laws tell the wicked first, so she returns to her side:

"Mom, my daughter is not sensible, please discipline. But my daughter is a young man, not our generation. She earns money to support herself and doesn't want a penny from your son. This is already very suitable for your home. You are still not satisfied, and you are still urging your son to let my daughter pay. This is too much. "

Mother-in-law Liang denied that she had never said this.

05.

Mother Zhang took out evidence and pointed out when and how her in-laws told her son, thinking that her daughter-in-law didn't know, but she happened to be heard.

Mother-in-law Liang realized that she was unreasonable and was scolded by her biological mother. She was embarrassed to say more, so she had to say a few words at random and hung up.

From then on, mother-in-law Liang never dared to make irresponsible remarks about her daughter-in-law's shopping, let alone provoke the relationship between her son and daughter-in-law behind her back.

When a daughter is bullied in her husband's family, parents must not be silent, let alone turn their elbows outward to help her husband's family without helping their daughter.

You think this is very atmospheric, but it actually encourages the arrogance of the husband's family. When a daughter marries someone else's house, it is an outsider to her husband's family. It is difficult to integrate into the new environment. When she was isolated, family was her greatest help and confidence. If her parents help her daughter, her mother-in-law will not dare to bully her daughter-in-law.

Getting married is still a matter for two families. When a daughter is bullied, her mother-in-law should not stand by and do it when she should. Otherwise, the mother-in-law thinks that the daughter-in-law is not valued at her family. She can bully if she wants, and scold if she wants.

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