This book saved my flattering personality and gave it to all you trapped.

I'm doing a job that doesn't belong to me because I'm afraid my colleagues will be unhappy. Because of the fear of being blamed by the leaders, the working hours are increasing, and all kinds of behaviors to please the leaders have wronged themselves.

Live a life of pleasing others and wronged yourself day after day. Only you know how tired this life is. You have countless thoughts in your heart, but you still smile at others.

In fact, you have had enough of this life, but you just don't know how to change yourself. The book "please-type personality" allows you to take off the mask of please, accept yourself slowly and live your true self. Let you know that you don't really need to meet everyone's expectations.

The "please-type" personality wants to satisfy himself and the people around him. But unfortunately, we can't satisfy everyone. No matter what we do, some people will still be dissatisfied.

Because they only care about themselves, what they care about is also related to their own interests. Therefore, no matter how much you do, it is impossible for everyone to accept it.

For example, when someone asks you to help him with his work on an excuse, but he really wants to go home from work early, you don't need to care whether the other person is happy this time, because it has nothing to do with you, and you don't need to sacrifice your time to do his work.

I heard a fable before, telling the story of a father and son riding a donkey. Once upon a time, a father and son drove a donkey into the city.

Someone on the road laughed at them and said, "What a fool! Why don't you ride a donkey into town? " So the father put his son on the donkey.

It wasn't long before someone said, "The unfilial son actually let his father walk and ride a donkey."

The father quickly let his son down and got on the donkey himself. After walking for a while, someone said, "This father is so cruel that even the children let him go, and he is not afraid that the children are tired."

The father quickly let his son ride on the donkey, thinking that this time he finally satisfied everyone.

But someone said, "They are all riding donkeys. Why not trample them to death?" So the father and son came down again, tied the four legs of the donkey and carried it away with a stick.

When they crossed the bridge, the donkey struggled and fell into the river and drowned.

This story is like flattering you. No matter what you do, people will accuse you of dissatisfaction.

When we insist on what we think is right, we need to have correct beliefs to ensure that our decisions are correct.

Many times, what we see and hear will shape our thoughts. Our beliefs come from our parents and friends, but sometimes some ideas are wrong.

Because many times, the opinions or ideas we hear are subjectively processed by others and have a strong personal color.

If these are inspiring beliefs, they will have a positive impact on our development. However, if this is a negative belief, it will slow down our progress.

For example, my colleague said that if a woman can't find a boyfriend after 30, she will go down in price, so she needs to marry herself before 30. When you hear this, you believe it. Marry yourself. Marry yourself. As a result, the two of them didn't get along well.

This is a misunderstanding of faith, so we should try our best to uncover the veil of faith and make ourselves a truly self-conscious person.

No longer please, no longer be wronged for perfection, life is so short for decades, why should we wronged ourselves to please others? Life is to love yourself and practice as a conscious person.