Why do some people like to speak ill of others behind their backs and gossip about others?

1, lies are nice, but the truth is hard to get.

A family gave birth to a little boy, and the whole family was very happy. At the age of one, neighbors, relatives and friends came to congratulate. Some people say that children have good eyes and can be officials in the future. Some people say that children are bright-eyed and smart, and will make a fortune in the future; The host family laughed heartily.

Only one person said that the child was very good-looking and energetic, but he was born in an ordinary family. He must have been well trained. Don't let him waste his time and take the old path of an adult. His life is ordinary, and he can only eat and wear. As soon as he spoke, he was not only laughed at, but also coaxed out by his master.

Ordinary families, without training, children can only have enough food and clothing like adults, but this truth is unpleasant; It is obviously just a compliment lie for children to become rich as officials, but it makes people feel very comfortable. But people would rather listen to flattering lies than straightforward truth, which is a weakness of human nature.

The reason for this is that lies are pleasant to listen to and make people feel comfortable. A good lie won't offend anyone.

The truth is always too straightforward, which makes people feel like thorns in their backs, directly affecting people's weaknesses, and exposing shortcomings and deficiencies in public, which makes people lose face. There is such a fable that a long time ago, lies and truth bathed by the river. Wash the lies first, leave in real clothes, and refuse to wear the clothes of lies after washing them. Later, in people's eyes, only lies in real clothes are hard to accept the naked truth.

This is human nature. They all yearn for beauty and only want to listen to beautiful and moving words. Telling the truth often exposes other people's weaknesses and shortcomings, and it is also easy to offend people, so there are fewer and fewer friends who tell the truth, and there are beautiful lies in their ears. As we all know, only the truth can make you grow up in deficiency.

The person who dares to tell the truth is the one who really cares about you.

Mu Zi got along well with Eiko and was called a bosom friend, so he entered Eiko's company. As friends, every time the company has a meeting, other employees always flatter Eiko. Only Mu Zi talked about work and talked frankly about Eiko's shortcomings. Mu Zi really can't say anything about those disgusting compliments.

Slowly, Mu Zi found that Eiko's attitude towards himself had changed greatly. At the same time, he found it difficult for sincere people to stay in the company. On the contrary, those who stay are snobs. Mu Zi felt that he could not blend in with this hypocritical atmosphere, so he left there alone. Shortly after I left Mu Zi, I heard the news there that Eiko's ending was not very good. A villain recognized by the company, I thought he was an able person, and gave him a hand.

It's Eiko's carelessness, it's his own fault. Didn't Eiko like those little people at the beginning?

The truth is sometimes unpleasant, unpleasant and hurtful, so most people don't like to hear the truth. Especially when one's own shortcomings are pointed out in public, it makes people feel uncomfortable, embarrassed, unacceptable and even hate people who tell the truth.

However, "Good medicine tastes bitter and is good for illness, and unpleasant advice is good for action" is not only a warning, but also a reality of life. Without bitter medicine to cure pain, the body will not be healthy; Without direct truth to remind people of their shortcomings, people will not make progress, let alone have brilliant success. Beautiful lies confuse people and make them sleepy. I don't know why. The straightforward truth is thought-provoking, can give people a warning and make people forge ahead. People who really care about you will be honest with each other; People who really care about you will be outspoken; People who really care about you will tell the truth.

3. Dare to listen to the truth in order to achieve a better self.

People, not perfect, all have shortcomings in one way or another; People are not perfect, but also constantly pursue better.

People should dare to listen to the truth, constantly discover and understand their own shortcomings from the truth, and then constantly improve and improve themselves, so as to grow through water and fire. When others point out your shortcomings to your face, or hear others say your shortcomings, don't rush to refute them, let alone get angry about them. You should calm down and think about it. Is it true what he said? Only by knowing and understanding one's own shortcomings, accepting others' opinions with an open mind and making changes can one make progress.

It is often not your friends who praise you, but people who want to please you; A true friend will tell you your shortcomings at the risk of offending you.

The weakness of human nature is to resist talking about your shortcomings and just want to show your bright side. However, to develop, we must improve our own shortcomings. If you want to be a better yourself, you often start by listening to the truth. Those who dare to listen to the truth will not be deceived by sugar-coated shells and sweet words; Only those who dare to listen to the truth can look directly at their shortcomings and accept their imperfections; Only those who dare to listen to the truth can accept criticism from others and become better themselves.

It is understandable that you like to listen to compliments. You will understand, does this compliment help you improve yourself or push yourself to the abyss?

Sincere criticism, sometimes harsh and unpleasant, promotes people's progress and makes them better. Such criticism is more valuable than false praise. Only those who dare to listen to straightforward truth, accept well-intentioned criticism and blame, and face up to their own weaknesses and shortcomings can correct their own shortcomings, correctly understand their own hearts, constantly improve and perfect themselves, and constantly change and progress.

Only by listening to the truth can you live wisdom.

Make friends with people who often tell the truth that you are not good and point out their shortcomings, which is the winner in life. A friend who doesn't like to hear the truth must be a liar. People who are happy when they tell beautiful lies, and disgusted when they hear the straightforward truth are doomed to live in deception and being deceived. This is the biggest failure in life.