What should we do when we encounter insurmountable difficulties?

When encountering insurmountable difficulties, our first reaction is usually to ask someone for help. But now there is another saying, called "put yourself in silent mode when the valley is low". What the hell should we do?

I think I can ask for help and try to pull myself out of the pit with the help of other people's strength or resources. But there are two points to note:

First, the target selection should be targeted, and at least one person should have good personality and relatives and friends. Otherwise, not only will you not get help, but more people may see your jokes;

Second, lower expectations. Human nature is selfish, and the essence of communication is value exchange. If you are at a low point, rational people will worry that they can't save you, but they will be dragged into the pit by you.

You must have an attitude of "trying, but not demanding" to help others, even if you have helped them before. I believe that it is my duty for others not to help me, and it is human nature to help me. In the future, I will repay you with a spring. " With this mentality, you can speak without being rejected too much.

On the other hand, even if no one really helps you, it is not necessarily a bad thing. A migrant worker won the lottery. The first thing he did was to call his wife and tell her, "I need a lot of money for hospitalization. You can borrow it from your relatives." The next day, I called my wife and asked, "Did you borrow money?" The wife is about to cry: "I asked all my relatives and friends, but no one borrowed it." The man smiled: "well, I'll see who has the face to borrow money from me." .