How to chat with people you don't know

Question 1: How can I chat with an unknown or stranger? Facing different strangers, I need to meet different people's psychological needs through different forms of communication. I don't need too much understanding and restraint between them. Facing strangers, I should try to be free in conversation, and the content of the conversation should meet his own needs as much as possible or be more extensive. This will not only show your frankness, but also make strangers have scruples about you.

Here are some strangers you may face in the future, as a reference, so that you can get to know each other:

Analysis of the types of communication with strangers

● Like-minded

Also known as appreciate each other type. If we both like literature and ice skating, we are all rock enthusiasts ... Sammi, who just attended the gathering of game allies, told reporters that the so-called gathering is just to "sit in the right place" for their respective roles in the game. After recognizing each other and playing roles, everyone will smile and still call each other by the names in the game. The so-called real names, ages and occupations are not within the scope of communication, and no one will ask. As soon as the party is over, everyone is still like strangers, fighting side by side again only at the moment of networking.

characteristics: because of the same role or mission, communication is limited to a specific field, and apart from this field, they deliberately maintain a strange relationship with each other, which will not be overstepped or deepened.

● Communicative

With a strong purpose (such as business needs), people communicate with strangers at work, and they are linked together to realize their respective organizational interests. For example, the addition of MSN contacts-in order to complete a job, you may have several more contacts at once, and once the job is over, you will turn a blind eye to the contact, even if you are online, you will never say hello ... until the next job starts.

characteristics: the purpose of this relationship is clear, and there is no consideration other than work.

● mutual aid

mutual aid tour (exchange tour) is a typical example of this type. Taking advantage of the personal connections of the Internet to travel and two strangers in two cities to help each other in two directions, this new wave is sweeping the world.

Jie is in Beijing and wants to travel to Sanya during the summer vacation. She met ivy, a Sanya netizen who wants to visit Beijing, through the Internet. Jie and ivy hit it off and decided to help each other-as a result, Jie was solely responsible for the accommodation and meals of ivy when she came to Beijing, and acted as a temporary tour guide for her, so the accommodation and meals expenses of Jie when she went to Sanya were also saved because of the return of ivy.

characteristics: mutual aid type values credit most, and both parties benefit, and it has the best of both worlds. It is becoming a popular way of communicating with strangers at present.

● One-way communication type

As mentioned above, when you are depressed, please ask the taxi driver to be a temporary listener, or call the hotline for * * *.

characteristics: one person confides in the main, and the object selection is more random.

● One-to-one type

Because of loneliness or emotional needs, I take the initiative to strike up a conversation in some public places or wait to be struck up, such as bars, discos and high-end fitness places.

characteristics: for the purpose of chatting, we meet without responsibility and psychological burden.

a stranger met by a radio host

Interviewee: media freelancer/artist agent Sha Feibao

Because of her professional relationship, Sha Feibao often deals with strangers. She once hosted a program on the radio, which lasted from 1: 3 to 12: 3 at night. Every night, many people with hidden worries called her to chat, although this kind of chat was more just a kind of talk. They will give themselves a strange name whose identity no one can guess, such as "QQ candy" and "prawn". Because their identities are relatively secret, all their emotional encounters and work puzzles are no longer secrets, and they are still enthusiastic even if they can't be solved. Shafeibao himself enjoys meeting different strangers, and both sides feel a little satisfied at the moment of closing the line.

The following is a conversation between a reporter and Sha Feibao:

Q: What do you think of interacting with strangers?

A: There are too many right and wrong around modern people. For example, in the same circle, A knows B, B knows C, and C and A have a certain origin ... The privacy that was originally unintentional will be complicated by the multi-party communication between people. Too close relationship will often lead to some unrecognizable things. When you are with strangers, you won't have such problems, so you feel relaxed.

q: will you leave a phone number for the audience?

a: well, I will tell some people selectively ... those sincere listeners! However, such contact is limited to telephone calls and will not be met. They will "report" my study and work from time to time, with pure motives. In addition, some listeners will call the radio station after the program, hoping that I can continue chatting with them, haha ... It's quite fun.

q: do you usually have any experience with strangers?

a: of course! There used to be a "phone friend" in middle school. When I was bored, I called all the time, and I never met them. It was fun. Now, I'm "spiritually acquainted" with a foreigner (laughs)! The other party is a friend of a friend, although he is in a different country and has never met before ... > >

Question 2: How to chat with people you don't know and ask for the time? Question 3: How can you chat with someone you don't know online, especially after you add a beautiful woman 2 points? Try not to talk to her first, let her talk to you first, and then talk about topics she is interested in.,,

Question 4: How to chat with girls you don't know, number one. Before, Tango, a well-known girl-killer, mentioned the girl who had just met in "Bad Boys: Chatting Skills", and hurriedly left each other's phone numbers and had limited understanding of each other. How to chat with MM through SMS? Because the sense of security established by chatting up is not very high, it is not suitable to enter the pursuit program immediately after understanding. Let's first list some wrong SMS chat methods to see if you have been shot ...

When PS has developed to a certain extent, it's time to make a confession while the iron is hot. Please see the 2 romantic confessions that you must make in order to marry a foreign wife.

Some wrong SMS chat methods:

Cut to the chase: "Are you free to have dinner today?" (Too anxious, no bedding, girls generally don't like it, of course, there are also very manly ones who will be willing. )

Household registration management type: "Hello, my name is xxx, I work in yyy, and I'm from zzz. Nice to meet you." It's not like a person, it's a computer program. )

Be caring and attentive: "Tomorrow, the lowest temperature will be 1 degree, and the highest temperature will be 13 degrees. Caring about the weather means caring about yourself. Don't forget to add an extra dress." Do we know each other that well? )

Funny move: "The chimpanzee accidentally stepped on the stool pulled by the gibbon. After the gibbon gently and carefully cleaned it, they fell in love. When someone asked how they got together, the chimpanzee said with emotion: ape shit! It's all ape dung! " (forwarding humorous short messages is a low-level performance that tickles people's laughter)

narcissism: "If one day, you feel tired, just turn around and my blessing will be by your side, no matter how far away, no matter how many years, this blessing will turn into a blue star, flashing in the morning, flashing in the evening and flashing in every inch of your life." (mental derangement! )

asking questions endlessly: "What to do?" (Watching TV) "What program are you watching?" (If you are the one) "Is it interesting?" (Not bad) "What to do after reading it?" (... the woman finally stopped texting back)

What's more, she even tugged at English: "Hi, what are you doing now, close your eyes, I will be here by your side, miss you day and night!" (I won't comment)

Dear, if you have done these stupid things, please read on.

When it comes to how to send text messages to unfamiliar girls correctly, we must first understand the differences in thinking between the two sexes.

Sasha and Fangfang are together

Sasha: "I saw a skirt in Xidan yesterday, which was very beautiful."

Fangfang: "I saw a windbreaker in Dongdan the day before yesterday, and I like it very much."

Sasha is with her boyfriend

Sasha: "I saw a skirt in Xidan yesterday, which was very beautiful."

Boyfriend: "How much is it?"

For most of millions of years, men quietly waited for their prey in the grass, while women chatted with their children in caves. Men and men cooperate with each other because of a clear goal, and then they start to act silently after consultation. It is normal for women and women to get together because of the same situation, and it is normal for them to talk about each other's state and feelings. Therefore, men are projective thinking and women are mapping thinking. Until today, we will also see

that two men can go fishing without saying a word, but they can squat down by the pond for an afternoon; When two women go shopping, even if they don't buy anything, they will chatter all day.

Look at the examples of Sasha and Fangfang again

Sasha: "I saw a skirt in Xidan yesterday, which was very beautiful." (where to see something, this is the state; Especially beautiful is feeling. )

Fangfang: "I saw a windbreaker in Dongdan the day before yesterday, and I liked it very much." (Women seem to be chatting happily, but in fact, they all say their own things. )

Sasha is with her boyfriend

Sasha: "I saw a skirt in Xidan yesterday, which was very beautiful."

Boyfriend: "How much is it?" (Go directly to the problem-solving process)

Men talk to solve problems, while women talk to describe themselves in problems. Men don't know how to chat with unfamiliar girls because of the influence of receptive thinking. He will think: anyway, that's what we are actually doing, or we can meet directly; Or "giving gifts", that is, showing concern; Or "let her know how strong my hunting ability is", which is the so-called display value. In fact, these are all purposeful behaviors. For women, unless she is willing to let you enter the pursuit process, it will contradict men's purposeful behavior. However, the relationship established between the street and the street is just not suitable for immediate pursuit, so this is the fundamental reason why many chat-up offenders are unfavorable in the future.

there is a phenomenon that the active party will adapt to the passive party's way of thinking. As a male ... > >

Question 5: How to start chatting with strangers? 1. The first thing to do is to adjust your cowardly mentality and open your mind. At any time every day, stand in front of the mirror and talk to yourself first. Pretend that there is an object you want to communicate with in the mirror. When communicating, you should ask and answer, even if it is nonsense, but you must ensure that you are asked and answered. Don't be afraid that others will say that you are crazy. If someone says you, you will fight back. Have you never seen someone who is so fluent in eloquence? (I'm not teasing you. This is really a good way. I've tried it myself. This can exercise your sharp thinking ability. It's actually more difficult for a person to talk to himself than to talk to a stranger.) 2. When you are unfamiliar, but want to communicate with him/her or have to communicate with him/her, take the initiative to say hello first, so that you will have a sense of time advantage psychologically. 3. When communicating with people, pay attention to listening, and don't speak too loudly. The tone like the spring breeze will make people feel comfortable to communicate with you. However, we should also properly understand the changes of voice tone (watch more cross talk when you have time, which is not good in itself, but has done a good job in tone control). In addition, you should have a certain sense of humor (remember not to be loquacious), which will obviously narrow the distance between the two sides. A person who knows how to make the other side laugh is also a person who can break the psychological defense front of the other side. 4. When communicating with people, you should also pay attention to the eyes. You can try to look at the tip of the nose or the eyebrows of the other person, which will not only relieve the pressure of not looking at each other, but also make the other person mistakenly think that you are looking at him. Keep smiling when you speak, serious facial expressions will make people "afraid"! 5. Find a topic that * * * likes. This person is someone you just met, so don't say too much for the first time, otherwise others will think that you talk a lot. Because you are someone you just met, you should mainly talk to others, but when others ask you, or when you should make a statement, you should make a statement, got it? . . 6 find some advantages to praise him first.

question 6: how to chat with strangers! How to make friends with strangers You can actually talk to strangers more casually, but you should pay attention to each other's performance when talking. If people don't like it, you have to stop talking about it. In addition, you should read more newspapers, pay attention to the news and all walks of life, so that you can talk more with strangers. Of course, it is best to talk about what the other person knows and likes, then you can talk very well, but it needs to be really versatile.

First of all, don't treat him as a stranger.

Secondly, you should not pay special attention to his eyes, because if you look into a person's eyes for a long time, you will be nervous to look at his forehead, nose or face, and you will relax.

Finally, you should practice your eloquence in people you are familiar with, and you will be comfortable in front of strangers.

Be sure to find a topic accurately, and don't generalize, as it will feel as if you are dealing with each other and making some polite remarks. That will make people feel that you are just staying at a very shallow level, talking about topics that we both know more about, and you will feel as if you have met people who are familiar with each other.

Many people have this experience. When they walk into a strange room or meet an unfamiliar person, the most common sentence they say to themselves is: "How can I break the deadlock and make friends?"

when I am alone, sometimes I suddenly think, "Ah, I said that abruptly the other day." Or: "Oh, why did I say something that ruined the atmosphere?" When I think about it, I really want to bite off my tongue. However, there is no regret medicine in the world, so we have to regret to remind ourselves that we can't do it again next time. But in this case, I often make myself very nervous and even afraid of dating strangers.

how to avoid this embarrassment? Don't worry, now we'll teach you a few tricks, so that you can easily cross the fence with others and be an eloquent woman in the future, whether in the workplace, at parties or around friends.

one of the secrets: raiders of strange friends

how can you make others think that you are a taciturn person at a party that is like a concentration camp for beautiful women and handsome men? Don't say that there are no people you are familiar with here. In fact, some people who look very close are probably friends who have just met. As long as you say the first sentence bravely, you have already succeeded halfway.

first of all, you can observe the people around you.