If your husband was a cowherd, would you? ...

? Cowherd's ability, the average person is unbearable. I just heard about it, but I didn't see it with my own eyes.

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Life needs freshness, but our life cannot escape repetition.

Xiaomi always feels that her husband has no interest, and his mouth is always full of "hmm, oh, ah".

The child's grades dropped, and the husband said "hmm";

Talking about his mother coming to see her grandson next month, he said "Oh";

Xiaomi said that he just bought a LV bag. He said, "Huh?" .

You know, chatting is a woman's nature. Gossiping about a piece of wood makes Xiaomi feel dying.

Remembering that her husband was chasing her at that time, those endless love stories seem to be jokes today.

Almost all married women hate third parties, fearing that they can't compete with each other. However, after the object was changed to "a woman who lost her feet", she stopped worrying. Although all men pay for it, the latter just takes part in accidental amusement, but the former is not necessarily true, and often has true feelings.

Want to hear good things, there is also a career called Cowherd (including beautiful teenagers). That's not the husband of the weaver girl, but the "slippery man".

Cowherd will not only say "uh-huh, oh, ah", but also listen to what you like best, whether it is power type, warm male type or cold type, according to your mood, dress, talk and generosity.

But a cowherd is a cowherd, and it costs you money. If you spend money once, I will have a good talk with you. If you are lucky enough to meet someone who doesn't spend money, he is likely to fall in love with you.

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A husband is a husband. What kind of bike do you want?

Xiaomi's husband, who runs a company, has always had good welfare. They met 10 years, married for 8 years, and Xiaomi was a full-time wife for 7 years. Her husband never lets her go out to work and gives her up as a queen.

Xiaomi pays great attention to the quality of life. Clothes, shoes and cosmetics will choose quality. My husband never opposes it, but encourages it. He said that he was usually too busy to spend time with his wife, and all the money he earned was spent on his wife. It was a pity that he didn't spend it.

There are always two or three times a month. My husband will give the children to his family, go out to find food, watch movies and go shopping with Xiaomi, and arrange trips at least twice a year. Life is not nourishing.

However, after a long time, Xiaomi always feels that there is something missing in life. ...

Except for two or three times a month, I never see my husband at all. He's too busy. After staying at home for too long, Xiaomi feels out of touch with society. Now that the child is in primary school and spends a lot of time during the day, she feels very empty.

Husband also invited her to the company to deal with something, but she didn't want to. I want to return to my old job, only to find that the environment has changed greatly and I am no longer competitive. She is annoyed, but she doesn't know how to solve it.

This, can the husband solve it?

On TV, yes. The husband of Giant Bull will tailor your life trajectory for you, and with the support of countless resources, you will be rejuvenated and reach the peak of your life immediately.

But is it possible?

Impossible, the husband can only solve the problems he can solve.

If you want something, your husband can give you something. Aren't you the queen?

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There is a story in Teacher Cai Kangyong's Well Said.

The truth of this world is that everyone lives in his own world.

Yuzi and Anan are lovers, but even in the most intimate and inseparable time, they still live in their own world.

On the night when Anan invested in stepping on thunder and lost 500,000 yuan, if Yu Zi happened to have a stomachache due to dysmenorrhea, then no matter how hard they tried to care about each other, what really hurt them most was their respective pain points-Anan's 500,000 yuan and Yu Zi's stomach.

This story also happened to me. When I was sweating in the stock market, I pretended to be calm and chatted with my wife. Who knows what I said at that time. All I can think about is what to do if I lose so much.

Like you're talking to your husband. Xiao Wang's wife next door bought a new LV bag, but her husband is thinking about how the company's efficiency will drop this month and what to do next month to improve its performance. You share with him how fresh the food you bought today is, and he just wants to save money for some investment. ...

We all live in our own world.

However, everyone's world should not be closed.

We are different from our lovers, because we need each other, so we have an intersection. However, I don't know from which day, we don't want to go to ta's world, and ta doesn't want to come to ours. Our intersection is getting smaller and smaller until there is nothing to say.

We don't need each other when we have nothing to say. Note that ta doesn't need you anymore.

If you only want to expand your world, it's called spiritual aggression. Invaders, such as Japan, are not a long-term solution. Only bilateral trade (exchange) is popular with everyone.

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However, communication cannot solve contradictions.

Before both husband and wife understand the true meaning of communication.

Do you still remember that after every quarrel, you finally calmed down and wanted to have in-depth communication with ta? But after talking for a while, you find that the communication can't go on.

It's your usual sentence pattern: "Husband (wife), I'm sorry, I was wrong just now, but for you …"?

Make excuses and never admit your mistakes. Is this also called communication? This is called preparing gunpowder for the next quarrel that is about to happen.

Communication means that you come and go and reach an agreement. Listen to me, don't contradict me. That's an order.

For example, my wife borrowed 65,438+million from you, saying that her brother wanted to buy a house, but you said no, and we had to pay back the mortgage.

Your wife thinks she is very reasonable, and it is human nature to help her brother. Of course, capable girls can also help.

For example, if you want to spend 0.2 million/200 thousand on a car and your wife says no, you are vain.

You think you are very reasonable, because in your line of work, a car represents strength, and changing to a good car can bring more business.

Everyone thinks they are reasonable, so they have to quarrel.

The first condition of communication is acceptance and equality.

The correct way of communication should be to give up your own inherent ideas, listen carefully to each other's opinions, know what ta really wants to say, and then see if he can solve it. If you can solve it, say the solution; if you can't solve it, say the reason.

Therefore, after a quarrel, there is usually an apology. Admitting a mistake is not only a silly apology, but also a kind of communication, and the correct communication method should be adopted.

Admit mistakes, admit mistakes for no reason, let go of anger, give up your own ideas, listen carefully to each other's opinions, and find out the fundamental points that the other party cares most about.

When I care about my brother, that's right; It is also right to buy a car. If you have enough money, no problem; If it is not enough, then there is a weight, before and after. If you don't want them all, you have to quarrel.

The husband told his wife to buy a car first, and the money will come back as soon as the business comes up, and the younger brother has the money to buy a house. Give your wife a waiting time, and she will understand. You didn't agree from the beginning, and you didn't give a solution. You want to keep her alive and suppress her.

Wife, support her husband, encourage him to buy a car to do business, and borrow some money from him by the way. Is her husband sick?

People who quarrel don't listen to each other at all, but only talk about themselves. So you find that standing in the street and cursing each other are unreasonable aunts, or two idiots who are blushing and losing their minds. Because people who can understand each other can often reach an agreement quickly. If the roads are different, they will go their separate ways immediately. What are we talking about?

My wife says it bothers me sometimes because she won't quarrel with me. No matter how noisy she is, I just don't quarrel with her. In fact, there is nothing to quarrel between two couples. If I am wrong, I will admit my mistake. If she is wrong, let her vent and calm down, and then we can communicate. Her views are based on her three views, which are formed by decades of life experience, knowledge and experience. If I want to convince her, it is to change her decades of history and experience. More importantly, quarreling is trying to persuade her and suppress her emotions. The best way to solve this problem is not to let it happen.

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This pair, like a lock and a key, is a match.

When I got married, it was all turtles and mung beans, and I took a fancy to it. Even if forced, it is the best choice at present. You and ta are both two pieces of metal of the same size. In order to find the key, you endured being hit on your body; In order to find your lock, he endured most physical defects.

The weakness of a husband (wife) is your wedding point.

For what we want, we all give up part of what we have. Please note that it is part, not all. Give up everything and you won't have yourself.

Often what we want is something we can't solve, just because the other party has it; What we have is exactly what we want. If everyone else has it, will they still need us?

It is said that flowers are inserted in cow dung, and cow dung must be particularly fertile and contain high gold content. What we often see on TV is the story of Cinderella. If Cinderella is extremely ugly and has a bad temper, will there be this story? Cow dung also has the right to choose. If this Hua Cuo flower dies, it will choose another one.

How much we give, how much we get. This is heaven. What we can't get is because we don't give. Therefore, a girl who thinks her husband is not interested and doesn't listen to her gossip may be greedy for her husband's money; If he can coax girls and has money, he will probably find a girl with more taste.

If the lock changes, the best way is to turn yourself into another key.

What should I do if my body lock is sick?

Of course, if you find the key to your spirit, change your way of thinking, and change your living habits, you will not get sick.