My son is three years old, but he is introverted. He doesn't like to play with children and is stubborn. How can I guide him?

What should children do if they are introverted?

On the surface, this is a child's problem, which is closely related to parents' educational methods in essence. To improve children's introverted personality, the key is that the parenting style of parents or adults should be suitable for the healthy development of children's body and mind. There are the following points for reference:

First, insist on sending children to kindergarten, let them enter a children's world, learn to associate with their peers in collective life, learn new knowledge that they didn't know before, and enjoy the fun of being with their peers.

Second, choose one or two friends who are cheerful, healthy and younger than him to play together, which can not only cultivate children's self-confidence, but also help each other.

Third, let children play freely at ordinary times. Some parents are more concerned about the cleanliness and safety of their children, so they always restrict their children from doing this and that, which will hinder their personality development. Children should be encouraged to play with sand and mud, step on water after rain, climb stone piles and yellow sand piles. In fact, just put on the right clothes, pay attention to safety and let them have fun. This unrestrained and free play will make children cheerful.

Fourth, feel happy with children. For example, telling jokes and humorous stories to children, joking with each other, participating in children's games, taking children out to play and so on.

Be patient with your child and don't ask too much of him. Parents should also try to restrain their emotions, and don't react too strongly to their children's withdrawal behavior, such as not daring to slide, not daring to jump on the trampoline, and not daring to speak loudly.

Sixth, give children positive psychological hints, and don't use words such as "Did the child bully you?" "Did the teacher criticize you today?" And other languages, so as to prevent children from always being in a weak or passive position psychologically.

Seven, create conditions to encourage children to participate in some activities, such as playing chess, piano, literacy, calculation, tourism and so on.

Children are very malleable. As long as we adults can actively guide them, they will grow up healthily.

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Cultivate children's communicative competence

A successful expert once said: "All successful people are successful because they have excellent interpersonal relationships." Cultivating children's interpersonal skills from an early age is a universal problem worthy of parents' attention.

So, how to cultivate children's communicative competence? Here are some suggestions for your reference:

1. Create an equal and harmonious communication atmosphere.

Parents can't put on a face of "dignity" and scold their children. Children should be made aware of family events that they can know, and should be properly allowed to "participate in and discuss state affairs." When children participate in the family, we should think of them and listen to their opinions. Secondly, we should provide more communication opportunities. Bring children into their social circle appropriately, and try to bring them when going out as a guest; If there are guests at home, let the children participate in the reception, give up their seats, pour tea, talk ... don't just drive the children away.

2. Encourage children to go out of the house.

Communication skills can only be learned by interacting with people. Parents should try their best to open up living space for their children, encourage them to go out of their homes and make friends, such as participating in the "Parent-child Home" activity of Family Education Herald, which is a good place to exercise their communication skills. After that, your children will play with their partners and invite their neighbors' children and classmates to their home. Psychologists point out that peers play a special role in guiding or training children to master social communication skills and help them get out of loneliness, because children can't learn such skills from adults.

3. Teach children basic communication skills.

Children's communication skills, such as sharing, taking turns, negotiation and cooperation. Parents need to teach their children subtly. A child with excellent academic performance said: A story told by my mother when I was a child will never be forgotten. The story goes like this:

A girl walked through a meadow and saw a butterfly stabbed by a thorn. She carefully pulled out the thorn for it and let it fly to nature. Later, in order to repay her kindness, the butterfly turned into a fairy and said to the little girl, "Because you are kind, please make a wish and I will make it come true." The little girl thought for a moment and said, "I hope to be happy." So the fairy bent down, whispered in her ear and disappeared without a trace. The little girl really spent her life happily. When she was old, her neighbor asked her, "Please tell us what the fairy said?" She just smiled and said, "The fairy told me that everyone around me needs my care."

Through vivid stories, the children's mothers taught their children to care about others-this is the basis for actively getting along with others and cultivating their social skills.

4. Encourage children to make continuous progress.

The second point is to give children communication skills and learn to communicate correctly:

1, the basic communication skills-say hello, say hello is to say hello when you meet, for example, when your heart rings, your old friends meet again and "look at each other"

Laugh every time you open your mouth, ask questions, say hello, etc. , all belong to greetings. Parents should teach their children how to greet people, how to bow and shake hands, how to introduce themselves to others, how to use respectful words and so on.

2, the comprehensive ability and accomplishment of interpersonal communication-dialogue, dialogue can establish more in-depth and extensive contact with each other,

Deepen the impression and enhance the trust and goodwill of both sides. Children should be taught how to ask questions for discussion, how to persuade others and how to refuse others.

3. Understanding others' communication skills-listening, listening allows us to understand others and grasp the most effective feelings of both sides.

Means. Parents should give their children some correct methods to make them a serious listener, such as focusing on their eyes, nodding their heads and echoing words when listening.

4, the deepening and development of interpersonal skills-* * * thing, that is to say, everyone Qi Xin work together to do one thing. Children's parents

Children should be given the qualities they should have in a communication group: perseverance, responsibility, sincerity and so on. Teach children how to know themselves and appreciate others.

Attention should be paid to the cultivation of psychological quality needed for interpersonal communication. Communication needs good psychological quality and personality cultivation, such as

Kind, trustworthy, sincere, cheerful, honest, etc. This requires parents to consciously cultivate in their daily lives. Pay more attention to children's words and deeds and develop good communication habits. For example, be polite when you stop by, don't take other people's things, don't grab toys, and put away your toys when you leave.

With your careful help, I believe that your children will definitely make significant progress in communicating with others, and the situation that strangers are afraid to speak will definitely change. But at this time, don't forget, you still have a very important thing to do: discover every change of your child in time-raise your hand bravely in class, greet the teacher for the first time, warmly invite your classmates to your home, smile at strangers, learn to bargain when shopping, sympathize with the weak and help others-all of which you should always keep in mind and encourage. Keep at it like this, and you will be very happy to see the good performance of your child.