How to chat with boyfriends to make interesting people have emotional appeal?

The so-called high emotional intelligence means being able to talk, and many people end up talking for a few words. I want to talk, but I don't know what to talk about. Don't worry, after reading this article, you will have a steady stream of topics, and chatting will make boys think you are very interesting.

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A friend confided to me that when I met a nice boy, I felt that the other person was the kind of person I liked, but every time I talked to him, I always didn't know what to talk about.

For example, using WeChat often asks: Have you eaten? Are you asleep? What do you do after work? So there is nothing to talk about after two or three trips.

If you chat face to face, you will spend a long time playing with each other's mobile phones.

In this way, the relationship between the two people has not progressed, and I am also very anxious, but I don't know what to do.

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Actually, I don't think people should be in such a hurry. Every couple has their own way of getting along.

However, if you want to make chatting more interesting, it is really essential for the progress of love and the long-term preservation in the later period.

In fact, the key difference is that many people are not clear about the classification of chat. If you can clearly understand the purpose of chatting and use different topics for different scenes, you will become more handy.

Here, I would like to share with you two modes of thinking in chatting.

The first process of value-oriented chat

The second result is value-oriented chat.

Let's talk about the first process value-oriented chat, that is, people do this thing and get value from the process.

For example, when we go to an amusement park, our core pleasure is the process of playing in the amusement park, playing interesting amusement projects and watching interesting things. The fun and exciting experiences are all enjoyed by us, not the photos taken on the spot.

The process is the fun we enjoy, and this is to gain value from the process.

For example, let's take a look at the following chat conversation. They are all sharing their feelings:

Boy: Honey, I miss you so much. Girl: Yes, I miss you too. Today, my colleague asked me what I was doing with my mobile phone. I am embarrassed. Boy: Haha, me too. I have never liked using mobile phones so much. Girl: Hee hee, is it true? Boy: Of course, I can't wait to fly to see you.

In fact, if you think about it seriously, what they say is basically nonsense, but these nonsense contents contain a lot of emotional sharing and interaction, which is very beneficial to the closeness and promotion of the relationship.

In other words, when we pay attention to the process value, our focus is to enjoy the present.

The second is result-oriented chat.

It means, for example, if your hair dryer is broken, the purpose of talking to the other person is not to enjoy the process, but to solve the problem.

For result-oriented chat, the lower the communication cost, the better. In other words, when we pay attention to the value of results, our thinking focuses on solving problems and achieving goals.

Many boys' natural thinking is result-oriented chat.

Seeing this, you should understand that if you want to close the upgrade relationship, you must use process value-oriented chat.

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So how can chatting be more valuable in the process? Today, I will share with you a little skill-entertaining dialogue.

I remember I had a pair of friends. They are the kind of lovers who often tease each other, which is very interesting.

When eating with them, friends will laugh at them. They use their enthusiasm and happiness to better maintain their feelings and make people around them happy.

For example:

Boy: "I'm just saying" Girl: "Huh? So you are a casual person. " Boy: "Yes, what's the matter? Are you afraid? " Girl: "It's terrible. How can you find a girlfriend so casually?"

Look at this place, not only the girls have not lowered their social status, but also the boys find it interesting. Both of them hold the spirit of entertainment and create more fun for their intimate relationship.

Then this type of dialogue is a typical entertainment dialogue. Usually, in intimate relationships, there is a characteristic that people joke and bicker with each other, but it must be noted that they don't really belittle each other or feel bad about each other, but make fun of each other.

The above dialogue is that girls grab the boy's "whatever" and extend interesting sentences to tease each other.

It is a typical challenge+counterattack dialogue.

The core of entertaining dialogue is to fully show your entertaining spirit.

In other words, you should have a fun attitude and improvise in daily communication, which will not only bring a lot of fun to two people, but also make them more familiar with constant jokes and increase tolerance, and will not be angry because of any joke.

After all, the most basic meaning of love is that two people come together to make them happier.