Cheating middle-aged woman: What will I know after divorce?

There is a question on Zhihu: "How long will it take to forget that person after breaking up?"

In fact, it's not just a breakup, even unrequited love can be very long. It takes a lot of time to like someone. How can you forget it easily as long as you put your heart into it?

How sweet it is to be together, how unwilling it is to break up, and how persistent it will be after breaking up. Sometimes it's not that we don't know how to stop loss in time, but also because the sweetness we can't forget in the past memories is the joy we are immersed in happiness, so we always feel that we are reminding ourselves of the past.

Under normal circumstances, if two people fall in love, there will be a healing period after breaking up. According to each person's personality and the depth of love, the time for each person to let go of someone will be different, and some people may be engraved in the lifeline all their lives.

In fact, after breaking up, you don't have to forget someone. The important thing is that in the adult world, you should treat love and not love rationally. If your love is always shady, it's really not worth it, because he is good to himself, so don't mess up your life because of his departure.

A few days ago, I heard from my best friend that a female employee of their company had an improper love relationship with the manager and had just been caught by surveillance. What is more destructive? They both cheated each other in their marriage. But in the end, only the female employees were dealt with, but the male manager was safe and sound.

I asked my best friend, "Why do you only deal with female employees? Do you think there is love between them? "

The best friend smiled: "That woman is very beautiful. She is still attractive after marriage, but the question is who will marry a married woman who is still cheating. Do you think it is possible? " Married women's infidelity is mostly their own destruction, but it is just someone else's plaything. What love can there be between them? The female employee couldn't stay any longer and was fired. It is estimated that it will be very painful for her to go home. "

This is an objective fact. In reality, men's cheating and women's cheating are two completely different endings.

How many men are truly loved when they cheat, but not necessarily women who cheat. I condemn whether a man is cheating or a woman is cheating. What I want to say is: "Can you stop cheating? If the marriage can't go on, you can divorce. Why do you have to cheat? "

Most women cheat because of love. In reality, there are really stupid women trapped inside.

Yue Ming is a woman who divorced because of an extramarital affair, but it was not her husband who cheated her, but her own extramarital affair that ruined her marriage. What Yue Ming suffered today, I can only say that she asked for it, but what made her speechless? It's not funny that you can't let go of the man who lied to her for a while.

Her meeting with Zhou Hao was a bit story-telling and ironic. She was originally a woman with a family, but she fell in love with Zhou Hao involuntarily. Life is sweet. After they are together, they make her look forward to the dull marriage life and push her to the abyss.

Yue Ming and her husband were originally blind dates, and they didn't have much emotional foundation. At that time, she had just turned 30. In the face of her parents' constant urging for marriage, she compromised and went to see the blind date arranged by her parents.

Parents have always said: "feelings can be cultivated slowly, as long as he is good to you, you have a good life."

Persuaded by his parents, Yue Ming married her ex-husband Fang Wei. Fang Wei is really a good blind date. She has a car and a house, and her monthly salary is not bad. Moreover, he is honest, which makes him a good match for everyone.

Life has been dull since they got married. Fang Wei is really good to her. She holds the economic power and will take the initiative to share the housework for her. But Yue Ming just thinks this life is boring, monotonous and without any passion. Fang Wei has a fatal flaw, that is, he doesn't know romance and can't joke, but neither man nor love is perfect, so Yue Ming has to make do with it.

Later, Yue Ming was pregnant with a child, and Fang Wei was very happy. She became a housewife. Yue Ming knew that she was in poor health and didn't want to give Fang Wei any trouble, so she followed the doctor's advice and raised a baby at home. She was a housewife until her children were over two years old. In the past two years, her relationship with Fang Wei was unremarkable, without any expectation, until she met Zhou Hao, Zhou Hao and Fang Wei, which were completely different types.

Zhou Hao is two years younger than Yue Ming. He is lively, talkative, humorous and good at making girls happy. Yue Ming met him in a shopping mall, and a group of girls were chatting around him. Yue Ming didn't care at first. It was Zhou Hao who took the initiative to find Yue Ming to promote his products. Yue Ming didn't pay much attention to him at that time.

However, Zhou Hao walked on, watching Zhou Hao so patient, and Yue Ming began to listen carefully to his introduction. Zhou Hao talked about this product, and Yue Ming thought it was not expensive, so he bought it. At that time, Zhou Hao took the opportunity to ask for Yue Ming's WeChat, and Yue Ming gave it to him without much thought.

Yue Ming didn't expect that Zhou Hao would take the initiative to chat with himself, and he didn't expect that he would gradually like this humorous and sunny big boy while chatting with Zhou Hao. Since meeting Yue Ming, her life has completely changed. She doesn't have to go shopping alone anymore, and there are surprises in her life. She thinks that Zhou Hao is the sunshine in her ordinary life, and her daily life will be different because of him. He knows how to comfort himself, care for himself and create surprises for himself.

However, the feelings outside marriage are mostly unreliable and only suitable for the distance. Once two people get close, it is easy to have problems. Yue Ming was really seduced by Zhou Hao and did not hesitate to give up his marriage to pursue this relationship.

Zhou Hao broke up with her at this time. The reason for breaking up made Yue Ming feel ridiculous: "Although I have a good impression on you, I will never marry a second-married woman, let alone an derailed second-married woman."

After leaving Zhou Hao, Yue Ming seemed fascinated. She thinks she still likes him and keeps calling and texting him, trying to get his response. She even really divorced and abandoned her children, but Zhou Hao on the other end of the phone never gave a warm reply, and even coldly said to her, "If you send these things again, we can't even be friends. I'll give them to your friends and show them what kind of person you are.

Yue Ming then realized that she couldn't let go, which was a joke to Zhou Hao. Extramarital love, there is no true love at all, and there is not much survival rate. The sweetness of two people at this time is just a stolen stimulus, and it won't last long at all.

After the divorce, Yue Ming regretted it. She bluntly said that she was stupid: an extramarital affair ruined my marriage, and the so-called true love was a joke.

There was also a discussion on this topic in Zhihu: "If you have one person and meet a second person in the future, what will you do?"

Many people will choose the second one. They say that if you love one person enough, there will be no second person. But has it ever occurred to you that maybe your other half met this problem earlier than you, and they chose you anyway? In fact, change of heart is an instinct, and loyalty is a choice.

Whether it is a man or a woman, knowing how to stop in time is a rational choice for extramarital affairs. You know, even if you really like it, extramarital affairs are an abnormal relationship and extremely irresponsible to your family and lover.

In addition, whether it is marriage or love, you should be responsible for your deep feelings, and don't let your good feelings become the reason for others to despise you. Now that we have broken up, there is no need to stay or persist, especially this unspeakable feeling, and there is no need to post it.

Yue Ming got here partly because she didn't choose the right person at first. If the person she chose at first is the one she really likes, how can she feel that life is dull?

There are no feelings in marriage, but if the other person is kind to you, you should open your heart and cultivate feelings with him instead of "having an affair", otherwise, this marriage should not be married in the first place. Being married and cheating is irresponsible for marriage and for yourself.

Cheating is the bottom line of marriage at any time. If you don't love, you can't go on. You can get a divorce. Never cheat at any time.

Tu Lei has a very pertinent saying: "All those thrilling moments, those desperate impulses, will become childish and ridiculous in the tempering of time and years."

In real life, how many people refuse to divorce their lover because they meet the so-called true love after marriage, and most of them will regret it.

Don't go the wrong way, or it will be too late to regret it.