The old lady occupied her grandchildren and refused to give them. The daughter-in-law was forced to cry three times a day, but it didn't work for her son to knock on the door. What should I do?

Why does mother-in-law always want to occupy her grandson? Many mothers-in-law love their grandchildren in various ways after they become grandmothers, but they let their grandchildren kiss themselves rather than their daughters-in-law. Why?

Grandson is closer than daughter-in-law.

My mother-in-law's thoughts are probably like this. In her eyes, although her grandson is born to her daughter-in-law, her daughter-in-law is an outsider, but her grandson is her son's blood, so the grandson is a family, but her daughter-in-law is not. Daughter-in-law is an outsider, and doing things just makes people feel uneasy. Most mother-in-law thinks that only they can take care of children best, and children should be closer to themselves, so some mother-in-law even instills some strange ideas in their children, such as grandma is closest to you and your mother doesn't want you. This kind of contradiction that interferes with daughter-in-law taking care of children is inevitable, so it is necessary to communicate in time.

If you have to ask me the reason, I can only say that these mother-in-law are not young, most of them are from the old society, and they are seriously influenced by feudal ideas. Although they are also women, their preference for sons is hard to change.

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"Parents' love for their children is harsh, but their love for their grandchildren is spoiled." This is a kind of human nature, and this continuation in love will keep us alive, a grandchild, is a continuation of love for his children. Because you are my child, your child is also my child, and I am willing to take care of him. This can explain why my mother-in-law loves her grandson, but she is not so willing to be close to her daughter-in-law. After all, her daughter-in-law has no blood, and in the final analysis, she is only a nominal relative, and her son is her own.

In addition, it is better for children not to take care of their elders all the time. In fact, letting children sleep with their grandparents for a long time is not conducive to the parent-child relationship. Many parents are busy with work during the day and have no time to accompany their children. If they let their children sleep with their grandparents at night, the feelings between children and their parents will fade. So parents might as well let their children sleep with themselves, so as to increase the affection between them. Of course, if the child is old enough, then the child should be allowed to sleep independently.

Children are psychologically close to whoever they sleep with, while the old people and their parents have different educational ideas, which leads to different children's personalities, and children who sleep with their parents feel more secure. Moreover, it is also a way of parent-child communication for the baby to sleep beside his parents and smell the smell of his mother.