Aunt, did you really let go of that feud that made you suffer great shame?

Sister-in-law relationship is an extension of brotherly relationship, which is called another century problem that is difficult to deal with after mother-in-law relationship and sister-in-law relationship. A good sister-in-law relationship is a blessing for a family, but if the sister-in-law is abusive, it will definitely affect the original blood relationship between brothers and even turn against each other.

Xiao Jia and Yuan Yuan, originally a pair of sisters-in-law, often call themselves sisters. Xiao Jia is a sister-in-law and Yuan Yuan is a sister-in-law. They are only two years apart, and Xiao Jia and Yuan Yuan are the same year. Because they are all peers, they are all commensurate with their names, and they are not deliberately called sisters-in-law.

Xiao Jia always said that it was her good fortune to meet a sister-in-law like Yuanyuan. Yuanyuan has a good family, so she often shares her skin care experience and clothes collocation with Xiaojia, and at the same time, she selflessly shares her skin care products and expensive clothes she doesn't want to wear with Xiaojia.

The two of them also took a video together in Tik Tok to kill time, and the theme was intimate sister-in-law. Many fans are very envious of their relationship. Where is this sister-in-law? It's even more girlfriends than girlfriends. They also often watch videos of two couples traveling together, reading countless scenery and seeing their harmony and happiness. However, everyone found that the Tik Tok, which they used together, was suddenly cancelled. The previous video no longer exists, so there are many beautiful memories.

after asking, I found out that Xiao Jia and Yuan Yuan had quarreled over a very small matter, which led to a break. And this incident is like a fuse, which inspires, expands and erupts two contradictions hidden behind the appearance of harmony.

what exactly happened that caused the good sisters-in-law and good sisters to turn against each other for seven years? It's really a trivial matter like sesame and mung beans to tell it, and it's also a matter of catching the wind and catching the shadows.

It turned out that Xiao Jia accidentally discovered that her husband and sister-in-law Yuanyuan often chatted on WeChat, talking about their marriage problems, and some of them still involved small privacy. Although judging from Yuanyuan's chat records, most of them are also guiding the younger brother how to do it, but as a sister-in-law, are these things not appropriate? This is more like what a brother should do.

Xiao Jia asks herself that she keeps a certain distance from her husband's brother, Yuanyuan's husband, but how can Yuanyuan talk about everything with her husband? What is even more frightening is that Yuanyuan looks like a best friend with Xiaojia on the surface, but in fact, she may be quite disgusted with her in her heart. Among them, I read a sentence: What clothes Jiajia wears, you should remind her more in the future, and send a link to the clothes.

well, isn't this the dress that my husband bought for himself on our wedding anniversary? It turned out that from beginning to end, Xiaojia felt that Yuanyuan despised her taste, and the intimate relationship she thought was just a "local joke" in the eyes of some people.

Xiao Jia first quarreled with her husband. Later, her husband thought that she was looking for trouble, and the escalation of the war between them was known by Yuanyuan. Yuanyuan was not in the mood, and she made a dynamic in the circle of friends: some people even gave you face and didn't know how to cherish it. Xiao Jia couldn't restrain her inner anger, so she went straight to the door to theorize. If not, the theory would be a tearing meeting. Well, the good relationship that has been slowly managed in these seven years was destroyed by a very small thing.

However, the irreversibility of their relationship has something to do with their too close relationship. No matter how close the relationship is, keep your distance. Once there is no boundary, there is no bottom line. Especially in a big family, the sister-in-law has in-laws, children and husbands in the middle. Sister-in-law's relationship is actually very complicated and sensitive. If you want to do no harm or self-injury, you must keep them at a safe distance.

After all, the flying chickens and jumping dogs between sisters-in-law will affect the feelings between brothers. If each other's wives are "at war" every day, even if brothers are deeply in love, it is inevitable that they will have bad feelings and hurt their harmony.

Therefore, in dealing with the sister-in-law's relationship, we should realize its subtle connection and the significance of the boundary, and not easily break the balance of distance.

what is the boundary? Boundaries are like some boundaries or things that mark a limit, range or edge. On the psychological level, the boundary is the cognition that oneself and others are different individuals. The boundary between sisters-in-law is nothing more than keeping two distances, one is the distance between men and the other is the distance between money.

in a good sister-in-law relationship, it is always not about men and money. It is easy to be jealous and sensitive when talking about men, and it is easy to be emotional when talking about money. The break and collapse of the sister-in-law relationship may eventually lead to a big fight or money damage between men.

Rene Liu said in "I dare to be alone in your arms":

The longer friends get along with each other, the more they will know what words are suitable for saying and the correct expressions. Express your opinions sincerely, without hurting each other or causing trouble, in order to properly maintain their relationship. In addition, you can also give each other an independent living space through such a relationship.

between sisters-in-law, it can also be explained that keeping your distance is neither intimate nor indifferent. I can help you when you are in trouble, but I don't have to share your bones if I have meat to eat.

In short, sisters-in-law should be considerate of each other. Of course, the most important thing must be to keep a proper distance, not to gossip, to do more good, and to be humble. I remember a sister told me why she and her sister-in-law have never blushed for 2 years. That's because they meet less than three times a year, and the problems that can be solved with money are not tied and shared by feelings, and they never compare and brag.

Because everyone has self-esteem, and the self-esteem between sisters-in-law is even stronger. At the same time, remember not to use your so-called kindness to challenge others' self-awareness. That's not kindness, that's indiscretion.