Caigen Tan: If you care less in your life, you will get more happiness in your life.

Wen/Ren Zimo

Life is like a platter. You will get the sweet fruit that suits your heart, and you will also taste the bitter fruit that makes much ado about nothing. Being born as a human being is inevitable, and it is not haggling over every ounce, but being open-minded and tolerant that determines whether we can be happy or not.

Therefore, the wisdom left by Caigen Tan is that if we can care less about the issue of "right and wrong", we will have more happiness in our lives.

There are many things in the Jianghu, and no one can live alone. Even if you are in man of great talent, some people envy and hate you and want to find confidence in you. Even if you are at the end of the road, someone will kick you hard.

Fu Bi, the prime minister of Song Renzong, is generous and never makes bad friends with others. The ancients were also very gossipy. Fu Bi was in a high position, and people often reported to him, saying who was who, where was who, and spoke ill of him. If you were an ordinary person, when you hear this, you will definitely look for that person's theory in disgust; Or rely on power to teach that person some lessons.

Fu Bi is different. Every time he hears someone else's "small report", he just smiles: "You heard me wrong. How can he talk about me casually?" He never pays attention to anyone who slanders him by name. Because in his view, "forgiving others is not an idiot, and idiots will not forgive others", it is futile to argue with frivolous people.

adhering to such a way of dealing with the world, Fu Bi was highly praised from the emperor to the officials. And he is therefore more and more like a duck to water in officialdom.

In this world, there are always some people who deliberately provoke and irritate others because of their incompetence. Because then he can drag you into the water and make things difficult for you. If you dispute with them, you will fall into their trap.

As the saying goes, "people are not too many", we often think that people who live better than others will have more right and wrong. In fact, even if you are at the end of the road and scribble for the rest of your life, you can't escape the clutches of right and wrong. Because where there are people, there are right and wrong.

Sister Xianglin, written by Lu Xun, lost her son and her husband, and was driven away by her husband's family, so she was homeless and miserable. I came to Fourth Master Lu's house and wanted to make a fresh start on my own. However, it has to be rejected by Fourth Master Lu's words and the noisy jokes of the neighbors.

"Right and wrong" has long been on Sister Xianglin's body, so I can't get it off. The more she cares, the tighter the right and wrong will be. Finally, she finally died tragically under the attack of "right and wrong".

It is emphasized that a person should be open-minded and tolerant. It is true that people are in the rivers and lakes, and "right and wrong" comes. None of us can change, nor can we escape the "right and wrong" life.

But if you treat these rights and wrongs as a "joke", then at least you can be happier; And if you take right and wrong too seriously, you will become a joke to others.

Before Han Xin became famous, he once walked in the street and met several local ruffians. They held their shoulders and crossed their legs, squinting proudly, blocking Han Xin's way. Han Xin greeted them politely, but they got "begging".

"A scholar can be killed but not humiliated". Since the other party deliberately finds fault, it must give him some color to see see. Han Xin's "impulsive devil" should have thought so at that time. However, he was not impulsive and "rushed" to his head. But bullet, from the man's crotch in the past.

Later, those thugs never bothered Han Xin again. After Han Xin became famous, the man became a dedicated official under Han Xin.

Just imagine that if Han Xin had killed the local ruffian, he would have made bad friends with the local ruffians. It is hard to know whether he will win or lose, and he will have to deal with it every day. In addition, Han Xin, who wants to kill people, will be sued for it, and even hinder his later "s". In this case, although Han Xin was indeed insulted, he chose to be tolerant, which not only saved the overall situation, but also won a good reputation.

an open-minded and tolerant person can easily accept others. This makes it easy to get along with people and achieve a win-win situation. Darwin's Theory of Relativity has influenced many people, but you may not know that without Wallace, Darwin might never have published his Theory of Relativity.

Wallace is not from college, but he loves beetles. An accidental fire strengthened his determination to seek the "species problem". Darwin at that time had long-term research experience in the origin of species. Unexpectedly, Wallace's point of view coincides with Darwin's theory of natural selection.

Later, Darwin's work partner compiled Darwin's documents and Wallace's manuscripts into a paper, which was published in the name of both of them. But the Theory of Relativity became Darwin's theory of relativity. Wallace can argue with Newton like Leibniz if he wants to be famous.

In fact, Darwin didn't steal his ideas, but they "great minds think alike". And Darwin has rich experience in this respect, so he can complete the Origin of Species in one go. If Wallace insisted on naming this theory after himself, I'm afraid that the European continent at that time would be unable to accept the Theory of Relativity for a long time.

It means to teach people to learn an "indisputable" attitude, because in this way, no one in the world can compete with it. At all times and in all countries, many people have paved their way to success with "open-mindedness and tolerance". Sometimes, we think that "caring" can make a profit, but in fact, on the contrary, it is often the people who will "calculate" who suffer.

People who are open-minded and tolerant are the most likely to bring themselves blessings. Changjin entered the palace very early. In order to inherit her mother's wishes, she became the highest palace in the imperial kitchen. She always got up alone and studied before dawn.

On the eve of the competition held by Imperial Restaurant, Jin Ying, a competitor of Changjin, tearfully begged her to quit the competition. Because Jin Ying's mother is dying, she can only smile when she sees Jin Ying as a palace official. Changjin has made a lot of efforts to become a palace. But she gave up the game for Jin Ying.

Later, Jin Ying was canonized as an empress by the emperor. In order to repay Changjin, she told the emperor everything. As a result, Changjin became the "Great Changjin" and the highest palace in the imperial kitchen.

Everyone has his own desires and needs, but those who care too much may not have the last laugh. The emperor took a fancy to Jin Ying, and when judging the taste of dishes, he may not be fair and just; Even if Jangjin takes Jin Ying's position in the palace, Jin Ying will become an empress in the future, and Jangjin's life will surely not be better.

People who are open-minded and tolerant are often rewarded more easily than those who haggle over every ounce. At the same time, "open-mindedness and tolerance" is also a kind of cultivation, which helps you build a harmonious bridge and help you step by step.

In life, the "right and wrong" that sticks to us is like a "mad dog". The more you ignore him, the more endless he will be. Ignoring him can not only save worry and effort, but also show your accomplishment. We should learn this from Fu Bi. Prime Minister Tang can laugh it off when he is insulted in the street. It's time to learn from Han Xin, so that you can stay green and have no worries about firewood.

In life, we always meet people who are right and wrong, and things that are right and wrong. They are surrounded by arrogance and want to disgust you or tear you apart. The wisdom of Caigen Tan tells us that if there is no "right and wrong", there is no need to entangle with the "right and wrong" people and get caught up in the "right and wrong" things.

be more open-minded and tolerant, and less haggle over every ounce. Although it is a choice, you can get two completely different endings. Therefore, as "Caigen Tan" has said:

In short, if you can care less and be more tolerant in your life; Maybe I can have less suffering and more happiness in my life.