I often say the wrong thing with my colleagues at work, which leads to offending people. What should I do?

As strangers, we don't know each other very well, and we may accidentally say the wrong thing and put each other in an awkward position. But the strange thing is the embarrassment of the other party. Why do we look so embarrassed and embarrassed? Because of his own mistakes and clumsiness, the other party was caught in an embarrassing dilemma. When this view or idea is formed in our mind, we will give each other more emotional attention. Under the joint action of this cognitive view and empathy, our empathy embarrassment also arises. But this kind of cognition and resonance is self-centered and one-sided. When our mistakes lead to embarrassing things, we should learn to comprehensively judge the surrounding environment, the impact of events on each other, and the current attitude of each other. The conclusion reached in this way is objective.

Many times, the other person may not think that your words can make him embarrassed, but if we care too much, it will not only aggravate the embarrassment artificially, but also expose our sensitive inferiority complex. In the social process, why do we have such embarrassing things? Externally, what we are really afraid of is not embarrassment itself, but that once something embarrassing happens, the other party will lower their expectations of us. This is the last thing we want to see. In particular, such strange colleagues will meet frequently in the future and have professional assistance. So we want to impress each other. When we care about each other, we will naturally care more about his evaluation and expectation of us.

Therefore, when the wrong words or embarrassing events such as refrigeration happen unexpectedly. If we can't break this embarrassing atmosphere in time and effectively, we can only replace it with actions such as silence. Our psychological judgment will reduce each other's goodwill or expectation, which will lead to a series of physical discomfort such as sweating and fidgeting. So we are afraid of this embarrassment. In fact, our hearts are our shortcomings, and the attention of others has caused inner shame and frustration. In the actual working environment, embarrassing events may happen suddenly at any time.

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