The greatest luck: meeting someone who is willing to listen to you all the time

I woke up in the morning and read a book - "Little Doudou by the Window",

It is about a cute and naughty little girl named Doudou,

She was expelled from school for being naughty, and then went to a new school,

This became a paradise for her to grow up.

What moved me the most was the part where Doudou met the new principal,

"Doudou couldn't help but feel that for the first time in his life, he had met a truly amiable person.

Because Doudou has never had anyone listen to him for such a long time.

And he didn’t even yawn for such a long time, and he didn’t show any sign of boredom at all.

Just like chatting with Doudou, he leaned forward and listened to her very carefully. ”

No matter in the past or later, no adult has ever listened to Doudou so seriously. Bean spoke.

Listening without judgment can be said to be the greatest kindness.

In one episode of the fifth season of "Qi Pa Shuo",

Ma Weiwei confided her thoughts on the court,

"I pride myself on being a good debater. , but I have a mean face.

From the first season, everyone said that I was too mean.

In the second season, I became gentle, and everyone said that I was too mean. I lost my edge.

In the third season, I started telling jokes. People said that I was coerced by money and turned into a variety show.

In the fourth season, I want to share my personal story. At that time, they said, Ma Weiwei, you have lost yourself.

Finally in the fifth season, I can have a good breakdown."

Cai Kangyong comforted her that there is a bigger world;

Zhou Dongyu encouraged her to live out her life.

Gao Xiaosong said, "What you did is nothing, we were scolded much worse than you."

Cai Kangyong interrupted him in time: "You are just standing You can't tell people who are in pain that it doesn't hurt your back.

You can't deny the pain of others by saying that it hurts you.

Such things not only appear in programs, but also often encountered in life:

"It's not a big deal, look at me..."

"I'm just a lost love, look at me..."

"You're just hypocritical, look at me..."

Maybe it's out of good intentions to comfort others, The effect was counterproductive.

Saying "It's no big deal" actually deprives the other party of the right to vent their emotions.

There was a girl whose family member passed away. During the funeral, she cried silently in the corner.

He saw it and walked over silently.

What did he say? He didn't say or do anything, he just stayed by her side.

After the girl finished crying, she said to him, "Thank you."

When I see someone else’s sadness, I often can’t help but want to do something to comfort them.

It’s people’s compassion, and that’s good.

But sometimes, it is actually good to stay with her quietly without talking.

Just like when it rains, I can hold an umbrella myself,

But with you by my side, it is very warm.