What should I do if my child is greedy for petty advantages?

1. The well-known story of the monkey breaking the corn?

Most people must have heard the story of the monkey breaking the corn when they were young. Because they were too greedy, they lost their lives. Xi, then there was a big fuss and everything was empty-handed.

After a day of tossing, the monkey no longer had the strength to go back, and suddenly a lion appeared. Everyone can imagine the ending, and the monkey became someone else's meal.

The wise older generation often say: "Take advantage of small things and suffer big losses". This is indeed a rule of thumb.

2. "Being greedy" is not the same as "frugality", please do not confuse the concepts

This concept is easy to confuse, some people easily equate "taking advantage" with "frugality". Frugality? The euphemistic name is to avoid waste, but the reality is often much uglier.

Using one's own things frugally is called "thrift", which is indeed a traditional virtue, but ripping off benefits from others can only be called "taking advantage".

For example, some public toilets prepare paper towels for consumers, and some people have to tear off more than they can use and take them home.

There are food tasting activities in the supermarket, and there are many people dragging their children there to have a full meal.

Even when buying fruit, let the children taste this and eat that. 3. Reasons why children are greedy for petty gains

1. Lucky mentality

Children who have not developed a sense of right and wrong when they were young can easily rob other people due to the effect of "property rights psychology" At this time, they don’t have the concept of “mine” or “yours” in their minds. They just know that they can take it if they like it.

If parents do not give correct guidance at this time, there will be a "lucky mentality" in the child's mind. If the first benefit is not discovered, there will be a second and third time in succession, until The development of the character of being greedy for petty gains.

2. Parents themselves also like to take advantage of small things

Children have a strong ability to imitate, and most of their personalities are copied and pasted by their parents.

Children are influenced by their parents' behavior and behavior, and they naturally learn it. If the parents themselves are greedy for petty gains, it is not surprising that their children will develop this character.

The education and quality of parents determine the life pattern of their children to a certain extent.

4. What obstacles will a child with this kind of frugality encounter in life?

1. Could missed opportunities be insulated from success?

People who are greedy for cheap are usually short-sighted and only sensitive to the immediate vested interests, but lack the ability to think and the overall situation of life. Opportunities to make big money are often missed because of unwillingness to part with small money.

Usually such people cannot move their legs after seeing small benefits, and ignore the larger opportunities flying overhead. A person who cannot grasp opportunities has almost zero chance of success. How sad is that?

2. It is difficult to gain happiness

In family life, everyone plays an important role and needs to work hard to gain happiness. If you just ask for it blindly and try to take advantage of it as much as possible, you will naturally have no chance of happiness.

Nowadays, there are many people going on blind dates, and young people are increasingly emphasizing AA consumption. There was once such a joke: a boy and a girl went on a blind date and asked AA to pay, and the girl agreed.

Suddenly the boy took out a half-discount coupon and expressed his intention to pay. Naturally, the girl paid the bill in anger, turned around and left.

AA is right, what should be emphasized is that taking advantage of small things really outweighs the gain.

Similarly, it is difficult to gain happiness by fussing over trivial things.

The third uncle in "Love in the Courtyard" who loves to take advantage has been plotting his whole life. In the end, his children are also plotting against him, and he can only die alone.

Such a situation also exists in reality. If you calculate meaningless little things, you will lose happiness in the end. Guard your heart and don't be blinded by free pie. You are often stepping on traps.

3. It is difficult to have true friends

People who like to be greedy for petty gains often do not have a few friends around them. They have become accustomed to searching for others and making all kinds of efforts to obtain benefits. , it is almost impossible to get him to pay for maintaining a friendship.

A person can be ungenerous or stingy, but taking advantage is absolutely undesirable.

The so-called friends are just to help each other in times of crisis and to provide help to each other when they are down. Friendship also needs to be managed. 5. How to avoid raising children who are greedy for petty gains?

1. Parents should set an example. If you want to teach others, you must first cultivate yourself? If you don’t want to raise children who are greedy for petty gains, parents must set an example. The children’s structure and vision need to be cultivated from an early age.

Whether a child likes it or not, there will be more or less the shadow of his parents in him. This is inevitable.

In the process of children’s education, parents play a greater role than teachers. As their children’s first role models, please remember to be strict with yourself and don’t let your bad habits be passed on to your children and passed down from generation to generation. Pass it on.

A common phenomenon is that those who have a gentle personality, do not care about things, and disdain to take advantage of others often have parents who have a cheerful and generous personality.

As for those who love to take advantage of others and care about small gains and losses, parents usually also like to care about small things. Relations with neighbors are not good, and parents should reflect on themselves.

Parents, please don’t ruin your children’s lives for small gains. People who judge every detail often lose more in the end.

2. If you find that your child is taking advantage of you, you should give correct guidance as soon as possible

If you find that your child is showing signs of taking advantage of you, you must stop it in time and give them the right guidance as soon as possible. Give correct guidance. The effect of sweetness makes it easy for people to lose themselves. Once parents ignore or fail to give correct guidance in time, due to human greed, the children will try again and again, and in the end they may be out of control.

3. You can pay attention to details in life, but not trivial matters

The improvement of economic conditions has made more and more people pay more attention to the quality of life. You can pay more attention to details, but you must not pay attention to trivial matters. Don't get too hung up on the little things.

Many students do not have much financial foundation when they leave school. They will choose to rent a house together, and they will inevitably interact with other people in their lives, and they may even be strangers. stranger.

There will naturally be many conflicts in shared housing. Most people think that as long as they take care of their own "one-third of an acre", they will be fine and try not to disturb others.

There are hundreds of kinds of people, and there are always some people who are not so high-quality and have some bad habits of "taking advantage of small things". For example, the toiletries placed in the public area may be used from time to time. Just use up some of it, because these little things always make things unpleasant.

When this kind of trouble occurs, you might as well try to express your thoughts to such people tactfully. Maybe they don't feel that this is wrong in their hearts.

If you don’t listen to the advice, try to avoid this happening, such as putting things away after each use, etc.

Don’t let these trivial matters cause an unhappy relationship and make it known to everyone, affecting normal interactions. Life is a mess. If you always waste time on such things, it will be a waste of life. Taking advantage of small things and suffering big losses? It is not an empty talk, it is of great significance to children’s education.

We all hope that our children can be upright and confident, so we should work harder on character education. Starting from small things, setting a role model for your children, and using your words and deeds to influence your children is the most effective way.