Worry too much about everything

I had a consultation today, which was actually similar to your question. You can have a look:

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But your question is not exactly the same as his. In fact, I had a similar confusion many years ago.

In fact, the root cause is the same, and they are all psychologically afraid of being criticized. They are too heavy-minded and attach too much importance to others' opinions and evaluations of themselves.

The solution is also simple. Don't care too much about other people's opinions and criticisms. Of course, you should try your best to do well, and accept criticism from others with an open mind if you can't do well, but you should know that others criticize what you do, not you. As individuals, each of us is unique.

Maybe some of the things your parents hinted at you are superficial rules of life, because you are too young to understand, so I want to tell you. If that's the case, learn and don't make similar mistakes in the future.

This example you gave is very good. In fact, many people are like this, too concerned about other people's reactions to themselves. Let me give you an example:

One of my computers broke down at the same time, so I took it from the company and asked me to help repair it. Because it involves hardware, I need to turn on one of my computers. At this time, the director came, asked about the situation, and then said that everything was installed after the repair.

In this way, my colleague was unhappy and said to me, Ah, he doesn't want to use the computer, just like his family, even if I am at home. ...

I thought it was normal at that time, and he could hear other meanings. I'm afraid only the speaker knows if there is any other meaning.

I said to my colleagues: you are too concerned, the director just told me, nothing else, and so on. ...

In fact, what I want to tell you is that you are too concerned and everyone stops talking. Do you think there is something wrong with what you said? I feel fine, even if there is a problem, so what? No one in your family will forgive you.

Think of such a joke:

A family gave birth to a child, and everyone said that the child would be promoted and made a fortune in the future. Although they are all lies, the host is still very happy. Later, a person who can't speak said that the child will definitely die in the future. Although he was telling the truth, he was kicked out by his master.

I think the strong baby you said is much stronger than this person said.

In fact, it doesn't matter what others think of you, what matters is what you think of others.

Do the absolutely right thing. There is no right or wrong. Right and wrong are people's thoughts. Some people think the same thing is right, while others think it is wrong.

Hitler's massacre of Jews is cruel to us, but he himself thinks it is a just cause. He has many followers.

Liangshan hero, said to be a hero, in fact, to put it bluntly, which is not murder and arson.

So, don't cling to right and wrong, wrong is wrong, no big deal.

Life is only a few decades, and it's too late to play. How can time be wasted on right and wrong?

Tell another story:

The old monk took his apprentice on a trip. On the way, he met a woman who wanted to cross the river. After crossing the river, the old monk went his separate ways. The young monk endured for the old monk for a long time: Master, how can you take a woman across the river? The old monk looked at him and said, I put her down when I crossed the river. Why don't you let her go?

Therefore, it is not important to do right or wrong, the key is whether you are persistent in it.

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