"If you don't drive your daughter-in-law away, you won't be my son." Should your mother-in-law and daughter-in-law live together?

There is man's cowardice. When there were problems in his marriage, he didn't solve them by himself, but pushed his mother to the front. Not only is he afraid of trouble, but what is more terrible is that he has ulterior motives and doesn't want to go easy on his wife.

The daughter of an aunt in my husband's family filed for divorce because she could not have children.

The man disappeared from the day he filed for divorce. No matter how the woman calls, my aunt's house will find him. Men just don't show up, and it's the man's mother who stays to deal with the divorce.

The attitude of the man's mother is very clear: "Our family can't have no offspring because of this woman. Marriage must be divorced. As long as she agrees to leave home clean, my son will come back for a divorce. She did not agree, so she dragged on. Finally, women will suffer. On the contrary, my son can get married and remarry in a few years. "

My aunt's daughter has just begun to fantasize about men. She never believed that a man would divorce her because she had no children. At first, she firmly believed that her mother-in-law sent her husband away on purpose.

She thinks that even if a man divorces her, it won't be so rude. After all, there was not much contradiction between the two before. Although there have been no children, it is not without feelings.

I have to say here that a man's ruthlessness is sometimes really instantaneous. Sometimes, women should not trust their so-called feelings too much, but should be more rational and look at some real things.

In marriage, women must believe that men say I love you, but they can't just believe that men love you. Otherwise, it is stupid. We believe that the premise of love is the accumulation of true facts.

My aunt, a daughter, was advised by many people not to trust men too much before. Because some things that men do are really unreliable. For example, two people have been married for three years and have never been separated from their parents. Not being separated means that a man's money is dominated by his parents. Although parents are in charge of their own food and drink, shouldn't young couples manage their own money? But the old aunt and daughter didn't listen at all.

At that time, she also said, "I earn my own money, and I don't care what he does with that little money." I can't manage my own money, just give it to his parents. Anyway, there is only one son in their family, and it's the same for anyone to hug. "

Because men's money is given to their parents, men's parents only care about their meals. Therefore, the daughter of the old aunt has hardly spent a penny in the man's house in these years. Even after she resigned to have a baby, she spent all the salary she had saved before. She conceived several children for a man, but she didn't save them. The man not only doesn't care about her health, but also urges her to have children all day.

She feels that it is not that men don't love her, but that men love her. If he really didn't love her, he wouldn't want her to have children. What kind of woman is the most injured in marriage? It is this kind of woman who has completely lost herself. She always thinks she has to pay for others, but forgets what others gave her. Because the salary is not equal, it creates an illusion for both men and in-laws: this woman can bully at will, but she won't resist anyway.

This is also why the woman's husband will be so confident to ask the woman to leave home cleanly.

Her mother-in-law said: "Men basically don't make money after marriage, they all spend their parents' money. "It's very kind of us not to give you money to eat. You can't have children by yourself, and our family is unlucky enough to have raised you for so long. If you divorce, you will get the same property as husband and wife. You don't have any property. Our parents paid for the house and car and wrote down our names. Your property after marriage is zero. You should have left home clean. To drag is to drag yourself. Now that your son doesn't live with you, he will have to get a divorce in the end. Let's get together now. "

My aunt's opinion is that we should not divorce so easily. How much did her daughter suffer when she gave birth? In order to give birth to a child for their family over the years, she also collapsed and resigned. They say that divorce is divorce, and they want women to leave home cleanly. Isn't this bullying?

What can I do if I don't leave Women don't give up at first, and they must wait until the man comes back to talk about divorce. But men just don't come back. She finally agreed to lead an honest and clean life, and the man really came back and divorced her. No matter what she said, the man just said, "Divorce, I'm sorry."

I didn't give any compensation to women, I didn't give any explanation to women, I just wanted a divorce, and I felt that women should leave home cleanly. The woman herself finally said, "I feel like a joke." I don't want to go to the last minute, not that I don't want to leave home, but that men can make it so difficult for me. "

What's not to do?

Many people say that if a woman stays at the beginning of marriage, it must be that her love is not deep enough. But do you have to love deeply? After so many years of marriage, I have always loved it lightly. Although sometimes there will be regrets and I am not strong enough, if I choose again, I will still choose light love.

Why?

Because I believe in love, but I don't believe in love completely. I believe in myself more. I am not too fickle, nor am I full of calculations about marriage. On the contrary, I had a clearer understanding of marriage from the beginning. It's important to me, but not all of it. It should not occupy all my emotions.

In addition to love in marriage, I also have affection, friendship, my favorite career, and many beautiful things that have nothing to do with marriage and men, which can make me feel happy.

It is because of this shallowness that I can always remain independent in my marriage, not attached. The happiness of marriage is my blessing, and I should cherish it even more. Unfortunately, marriage is nothing, because I can protect myself completely, but I have lost one choice, not all.

After writing about emotions for so many years, I sincerely advise that women must have this lightness and sobriety in marriage. When we love, we love bravely, but we can't give it all. What you pay must be within your tolerance.