5: Little women need great wisdom.

Before I talk nonsense, I'd like to take a deep bow to all my female friends, offer my sincere apologies, and prepare myself for being criticized by others. When I say little women here, I don't insult, belittle or vilify women, nor do I write them to all women, but to a small number of women, that is, "little women."

what kind of woman is a "little woman"? I'm not sure, but I'm definitely not a young woman, a short woman, a thin woman or a light woman. By "little women", I mean their attitude towards life, their value in life, and their way of dealing with others.

the smallness of a "little woman" is first manifested in her small heart. Small heart, of course, does not mean that her heart is small, but her mentality is not good and she is not inclusive. Regardless of how she behaves at work and how she does things in society, we only talk about her words and deeds in family life. Young women often think that her husband applied for a patent by himself and should belong to himself alone. In a small family, the husband does have specificity, but in a big family, the husband has multiple roles. He is the son of his parents, the brother of his sister and brother, the elder of his younger generation, the relative of his relatives and the door of his family. You can't be the only one in his life. You are not the only one in his life. In addition to taking on the responsibilities of your husband, he has to play his multiple roles and take on multiple obligations. You must never be hostile to and exclude his relatives. When he performs his responsibilities and obligations for his relatives, you can't complain that "no one is more important than his wife". At this time, if you are noisy and you interfere, it will deeply hurt your husband, deeply hurt the feelings of your husband and wife, and even cast a shadow over your marriage. A woman who can't tolerate her husband's filial piety and maintaining affection must be a little woman, not a qualified wife.

the "little woman" is small, followed by the "small eyes". Little women's eyes are not really small, and they are often pretty girls with big eyes, but there is no room for sand in their eyes. In her eyes, all women in the world will fall in love with her husband like her, so all women, especially her husband's colleagues and friends who are somewhat beautiful, naturally become their rival in love. She felt that there was a war between herself and them, in which others loved her and she fought back in self-defense. In fact, this is often just her own war. In her eyes, there are already wars, but in others, it is a peaceful time. In order to tie her husband tightly, she can't tolerate other people's humor and a joke. Even in front of everyone, I turned against my husband's friends and made my husband humiliating. Therefore, in a specific circle, her husband is ridiculed as "henpecked", and she herself will be portrayed as "lion roars", "Bitch" and "Tigress", which not only loses her husband's face, but also tarnishes her reputation.

The smallness of a "little woman" is also manifested in her small hands. The so-called small hand means that it is not generous. It is of course a traditional virtue to be diligent in running a family, but today, when the problem of food and clothing has already been solved, that kind of petty miser is not desirable. There is such a joke that leaves a deep impression on people. When a thief touched a man's pocket, the man said with a bitter smile, don't bother, my wife has already searched it. There are some such little women in life who search their husbands' money cleanly and confidently say that men can't have money, and men will go bad if they have money. Not only for husbands, but also for people who walk the streets and meet beggars, little women are also reluctant to part with a penny. Little women are indifferent to public welfare undertakings, and even if they are forced to donate a little money to poor students in the disaster area, they will feel distressed for a long time. Little women value money more than life, and when it comes to spending money, they can't be generous. They are always stingy.

The smallness of a "little woman" is also manifested in many aspects, such as seeing a problem without seeing Mount Tai; Think about the problem and go to a dead end. Say that the problem is importunate and unreasonable; Dealing with the problem, the sword goes off the peak, and the worse it gets. Therefore, "little women" live very tired and feel that happiness is drifting away, so they complain and complain. The more so, the less lovely the "little woman" is, the less lovely her life is, and the more unhappy she is. In such a vicious circle, it is herself and her relatives who are eventually injured.

If a "little woman" wants to live a happy life, she needs great wisdom and fundamentally changes her mentality, behavior and vision. Here, I might as well give some suggestions for "little women" from a man's point of view:

First, "love me, love my dog". Love your husband and other relatives, honor your in-laws like your parents, don't be a cold-blooded animal, treat people warmly, don't let your husband get caught in the middle, and you are not human inside and outside.

the second is "playing hard to get". Husband is also rebellious, just like sand. The tighter you hold it in your palm, the faster it will run away. If you want to tie up your husband, you must first have confidence, trust him at the same time, and give him freedom. Might as well be generous and "confused". Do "three noes" to your husband: don't search his wallet, don't look at his mobile phone, and don't look at his QQ chat record. Let her husband establish his own image and dignity in social life, don't be hostile to her husband's friends, make too many enemies, that is, isolate himself, and turn these "enemies" into friends with his sincerity, which is actually to optimize his living environment.

the third is "goodness is like water". Take good advice, don't do small things for good, don't do small things for evil, do more good deeds, actively participate in public welfare undertakings, give people roses, leave lingering fragrance in your hands, and help others. What you get is happiness. Life is short, let wealth improve its quality of life, and let wealth help those in need, so as to maximize the value of wealth.

the fourth is "knowing the book is a gift". At present, we don't advocate "three obedience and four virtues", and there is no prejudice that "a woman without talent is virtue". To be a woman and be a good woman, we should know the book and be polite. A person needs to learn a lot, and now there are a wide range of learning channels. If husband and wife want to go hand in hand, they must keep pace with the times, read more books, let knowledge change themselves, and let wisdom improve themselves, so that a "little woman" can "grow up" and become a lovely "big" woman with feminine taste.