I divorced for a third party and was' green'. "What should I do?

I remember reading a joke in an article to the effect that:

"My dad fell in love with a woman outside. He didn't think about tea and rice, just wanted to be with each other. My mother secretly deleted the woman's contact information while he was not looking.

My dad couldn't get in touch with this woman, so he stamped his feet with anger. After some time, he forgot all about this woman. He should eat and drink. "

This joke is just a smile of the blogger, and it is not reasonable to taste it carefully.

The feelings generated outside marriage will gradually fade with the passage of time, and the true love you are looking for is just a passing sight.

I saw a man on Zhihu and asked: What should I do if I like someone else after I get married?

From the interaction between the questioner and the netizen, I learned that he has been married for 7 years, and he is very unhappy with his nagging wife, and he has to take care of everything, even taking a bath at night.

An intern came to the company. The girl is lively and cheerful and is very interested in him. The two chatted very speculatively and soon fell into ambiguity.

He knows it's not good. It's disgraceful to cheat in marriage and spread it out. Now he is just talking about love, and nothing substantial has happened yet.

He dare not let his wife know that they have a 6-year-old son, and they can't do without his wife's care. If his wife asks him for a divorce, how should he choose? But he likes that girl very much. Anyway, he doesn't know what to do!

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After this question was raised, naturally many people accused him of abusing him. Some people say that he is duplicitous and shameless. Some people say that he doesn't do personnel, uses his wife as a nanny, and looks for women outside at leisure; Others questioned how such a person got a wife.

Among dozens of answers, one netizen's answer makes people feel very worried:

"My husband, like you, ate a bowl and looked at the pot. He met a woman who said it was true love. He can't live without her. He wants to divorce me and have an affair with that woman in front of me.

What about now?

I called that woman shameless, bitch, and she didn't even say anything.

The woman lied to him that she was sick at home and needed a sum of money. As a result, she took the money and ran away This is the true love he wants!

He thought that people were really in trouble, and if they lent them emergency, they would definitely pay them back. But reality, how ironic! "

Meeting true love after cheating is just an illusion. Passion cannot last forever, and it is not good to mistake passion for the end of true love.

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There is such a man around me, 40 years old, married 10 years, and now divorced.

He and his wife were introduced. They are all 29 years old and not married, so their families are naturally anxious. His wife is three years younger than him, so in terms of appearance and temperament, she is a good match for him. At the age of 30, he married his wife. The next year, his wife became pregnant and he was promoted to father.

After ten years of marriage, he has no expectations for marriage. He comes home from work every day, eats and sleeps, and listens to his wife scold his son for not doing his homework well. Every time he lies in bed, he feels meaningless when he thinks about this day's life.

When marriage is boring, he always wants to go outside to make up for the vacancy.

I met a woman at work, the same age as my wife, but much better temperament than my current wife. This woman is good at chatting. Every time he finished talking, he felt happy physically and mentally. Then he crossed the line and had an affair with each other.

He told the woman that he wanted to marry her, and she was very happy. She also praised him for marrying himself if he dared to divorce.

He really believed the woman's words and ran home to tell his wife that he wanted a divorce, saying that these years had become more and more boring. His wife was unprepared and naturally could not accept the fact that he cheated. In a fit of pique, she agreed to divorce on the condition that he was allowed to stay tidy when he left home. He compromised in order to get a quick divorce.

After the divorce procedure, he went to a third party to report the good news. As a result, the other party just said with a surprised face: "I just said, are you really divorced?" Then, a third party asked him how much property he got after the divorce. Frankly speaking, he walked out in innocence.

The woman rolled her eyes and left. I couldn't reach you after that.

When we met again, the woman was hugging a rich fat man in the street. He ran up to argue with her, but the woman threw him away and scolded, "I'm not your wife, what's it to you?"

This man is very stupid. He divorced desperately for his lover, and in the end he lost everything, but he was' green' by the other party! What true love? This is a self-deceiving joke. It's pathetic.

Message from the consultant:

Extramarital affairs look beautiful because they show their best side in front of each other. Back to daily life, no one is much better than anyone else.

Many times, we came in with the expectation of marriage, living innocently, and living a dull and trivial life, which made people feel very boring.

But suddenly a person who makes himself feel interesting feels very fresh, thinking that such a person is his true love and is desperate to pursue it. Once the passion is over, everything is boring and you can only do it yourself.

The essence of marriage is a kind of responsibility. After entering the marriage, you are a member of this family and need to bear your own responsibilities. Maybe you will feel that this marriage is very tired, boring and boring, but if you are looking for new feelings behind your partner's back, it is without character, morality and bottom line.

After entering marriage, no matter how tempting it is outside marriage, you should learn to restrain yourself. Otherwise, you can only swallow your own bitterness, and the extramarital affairs that deceive yourself are the most pathetic.