What happened when the man proposed marriage and the woman's parents called it "eight-character disagreement" and insisted on breaking an engagement?

Xiao He, who works in Nanning, is 3 years old. In the past two years, he has never dealt with anyone except his mother. He shut himself in his room and killed time by surfing the Internet. All this started with a relationship four years ago.

Four years ago, Xiao He had a beautiful and gentle girlfriend, and it was time to talk about marriage. Unexpectedly, an accident happened on the day of the marriage proposal, which ruined the marriage and made him a joke in his population. In the laughter and pointing, he endured for a year, but he could not face the reality after all, so he began to close himself. It was not until this year, after receiving professional treatment, that his mind shone into a piece of sunshine. Recently, Xiao He, who has come out of the haze, finally has the courage to talk about the past and tell his story to reporters. The following is his dictation.

We are congenial, and others say that we are a good match.

My family is in the countryside, and I am an only child. Because my family conditions are not bad, I have not suffered anything since I was a child. There is a building at home, and I also have a fruit farm. My parents want me to stay in the village and manage the fruit farm to inherit the family business. But I think men should make a career, or they will live in vain.

I studied in a technical secondary school in Nanning, and I am determined to stay in Nanning for development. In 213, graduated at home? I came to work in Nanning after many years of idleness. After work, I often get together and chat with my classmates who stay in Nanning to work. At that time, I met A Xiang.

A Xiang is my hometown. She is beautiful but shy. She doesn't talk much, but she likes to chat with me. She always comes to me when she needs help. After contact, I found that A Xiang is a very good girl, a typical good girl. Because she admired me very much, when I confessed to her, she readily agreed. When the villagers knew that we were in love, everyone said that we were a good match.

If I don't get married, I will become a joke to my neighbors.

I was 26 years old when I met A Xiang, but this was my first real love.

Although A Xiang also comes from the countryside, she used to study in Nanning and stayed in Nanning for many years, paying great attention to her personal image and life quality. She is gentle and beautiful, obedient and clever, so after more than a year of dating, I want to marry her home.

When I told A Xiang my intention to get married, she nodded in agreement. However, we have been in love for more than a year, and no one has mentioned it to our parents. Suddenly, we are going to get married, and we are worried that our parents can't accept it. To this end, we discussed how to get parents' consent.

in the end, we persuaded our parents, and the two families chose the day to propose marriage together.

on the day of proposing marriage, I called all my good friends and expanded the team of proposing marriage. Parents also feel that ostentation and extravagance is more dignified. The marriage seems to be a foregone conclusion, and no one expected that things would turn around.

On that day, when A Xiang's home was approaching, A Xiang and his parents went out to meet him. But somehow, A Xiang had a bad fall. This scene was seen by many neighbors, and everyone began to talk noisily. According to the local custom, it is very unlucky for this to happen when proposing marriage. A Xiang's parents immediately rejected my proposal. Helpless, I had to leave for a while.

at that time, I thought it was not too late to arrange the wedding after a while, when A Xiang was well. Unexpectedly, what I waited for was a notice of breaking off my marriage. Everyone in the village said that A Xiang's mother took my birthdates to "tell fortune" and "calculated" that I was the nemesis of A Xiang. Plus what happened on the day of the proposal, the marriage is over.

When I got home, my parents told me not to think about this marriage. However, I won't give up until A Xiang refuses me personally.

at that time, A Xiang didn't meet me. I don't blame her. After all, she has listened to her parents since she was a child, and she will not be happy if she is forced to stay with me against her parents.

I closed myself up and always felt that everyone was laughing at me.

I waited for a while, but nothing changed.

the villagers began to talk about me. The words about me being A Xiang's "nemesis" spread very strangely, which made me unable to argue. At first, I warned them not to gossip, but the more I cared, the more people talked about me and the more distorted the content was.

Although others say that A Xiang and I are incompatible in life, I still want to fight for the opportunity. However, after several visits, A Xiang's parents refused to let me in or see A Xiang.

My parents were very sad and angry when I saw my "hot face sticking to my cold ass". My father, in particular, always said that I failed to live up to expectations.

in this village, my neighbors always point fingers when they see me. Over time, I began to feel afraid. My father was very angry with my performance, and I was under great pressure to live at home. So, I left home, fled to Nanning, rented in a rental house, and no one wanted to see me.

after I came to Nanning, I was surrounded by strangers, but I still felt that people around me were laughing at me. I can't control my thoughts. I'm afraid to go out and have to stay in the house. I'm afraid to find a job. I order takeout for three meals a day and kill time by surfing the Internet every day. I'm afraid to meet others, for fear that they will laugh at me.

When my mother learned about my situation, she left her farm work and came to Nanning to accompany me. She advised me to go home, but I was afraid to go back. In this way, I hid in the rental house and spent two years in the dark. In these two years, I hardly talked to anyone except my mother.

Psychologists analyze

In recent years, some cases of couples breaking up and couples divorcing because of listening to fortune tellers. Experts said: birthdates and others have no other meanings except the date of birth. Happiness in marriage depends on how two people get along. Getting along with husband and wife is a science, and a happy marriage depends on two people working together. Expert advice: It is proper for parents to give some advice to their children who are about to get married for their reference, but we must not believe that some so-called superstitions are forcibly separated and ruin the happiness of their children's lives. Children should also do more ideological work for their parents, so that parents can believe in science and get rid of superstitions.