How shallow is it? Don't be stingy when your feelings are deep.

After beginning of autumn, the temperature dropped a few degrees obviously, just in time for shopping in autumn. Let's call it A. A is always frugal and seldom spends money and time on dressing up, so I'm a little surprised that she asked me to go shopping together. Thinking that there was nothing wrong after work, I agreed. Because I know her behavior, I made a plan, just to stay with her. As expected, she didn't buy any clothes or trousers, but bought some with me.

At work the next day, everyone sat together for afternoon tea. Another colleague who joined me, I called her B.B. and asked how we went shopping yesterday. I said no problem. She asked what A bought. A said she didn't like anything, so she didn't buy it Basically, everyone knows that A is not a person who will spend money on clothes, so this topic ends here. As a result, B had to say: Do you not like it or is it too expensive to buy it? This sentence is a bit embarrassing as soon as it appears. A blushed a little and replied that she didn't like it. B's facial expression became a little subtle, and then Palbala criticized A's dress from beginning to end. The atmosphere is getting more and more awkward, and we all don't know how to answer the words. A's face is ugly to the extreme. An old colleague was busy joking about the scandal that forced her to have a blind date last month, which brought the topic to the past in the dark. We naturally enjoyed it and went on to say what she said. B didn't seem to understand what we meant at all, and brought back A from the topic of blind date, saying that A couldn't find a boyfriend unless he answered it himself. Now boys look at their appearance at first sight. Who cares if you dress like an aunt? Now that we are collectively speechless, an afternoon tea will end in discord.

Don't think that B has a personal grudge against A, but that's B's character. Her emotional intelligence is too low to speak. Every time I talk to her, I like to make people speechless, as if communication is a war and often offends people. She also boasts that she is just too outspoken and has a more direct personality.

I have never liked such people, calling names and hurting people under the guise of honesty. In my cognition, straightforward personality and inability to speak are two different concepts. Frank people tend to tell more lies, while people who can't talk often don't say good things, so there is still a clear dividing line between the two. Secondly, we always distinguish between occasions and objects when we speak. For those who talk nonsense regardless of time and place, I usually think she has a bad brain. If A is a friend of B, maybe A won't really care about B, but now they are just colleagues, and at a small afternoon tea party, which is equivalent to giving A an ugly face in public. One of the three taboos in life is to avoid making shallow remarks. Friendship is shallow and natural, while words are deep and excessive.

Some people may say that what I said is a bit ugly, but I did it for your own good. Giving advice at the most unpleasant time is good for your action, and I mean no harm.

I'm sorry, I don't need you for my own good, and I don't want to affect my mood because of your thoughtless words. There are some things I can say about myself, but you can't say about me. Who do you think you are? Don't think too highly of yourself.

I have a good friend who has known me for many years. Some time ago, she was lovelorn because that boy cheated on her. At first, all of us, including her family and friends, didn't think highly of them because the boy looked a bit like love rat. She was alienated from our friends because of our opposition.

She has been depressed since she fell out of love. I went to see her last month and she lost a lot of weight. I can see that this relationship has hit her hard. She asked me whether she didn't listen to us or not. I said no, human growth needs to be experienced. You can't change your decision easily because of our words, just like the road always has to go by itself to know whether it is good or not.

She said that her mother kept scolding her at home, saying that she told you that that man was no good and that you should stay with him. Now everything is of my own making. She asked me why I didn't scold her. Don't you think she asked for it?

I said, why should I scold you? We have been friends for so many years. When you are together, I put the bad words first. I said you were not suitable, but you insisted on being with him. Then I can only support your choice as a friend. Now that you are hurt, will I scold you instead of comforting you? What's the point? You fell, and instead of pulling you up, I kicked you again?

Shallow friendship is not deep, and deep affection is not cheap.

To give the simplest example, I went shopping with my colleagues. My colleague took a fancy to a skirt that didn't suit him and asked my opinion. I might say this one is ok, but maybe the other one is more suitable for you. If she doesn't accept my suggestion and insists on buying it, I won't say anything more. When I get to the office, other colleagues will not say too much about me.

But if she goes shopping with friends and sees a dress that doesn't suit her, ask my opinion. I certainly can't say it directly. I may even say that the style is ugly and a little corny, but she insists on buying it, and I won't stop it. Let's go out to play together. When people say that this dress of hers doesn't look good, I won't say that I told you not to buy it, but you just won't listen. I would say that I have an ugly dress, too. We can be ugly together.

Friendship is actually a wonderful emotion, especially the friendship between girls, which is magical and subtle. It comes from inadvertently, and then disappears in the subtleties. I have always felt that no matter how deep the feelings are, there will be a degree, a degree of communication, a degree of speaking and a degree of doing things. This degree is like a dividing line. We were close when we didn't touch it, but once we touched it, it fell apart. When "Fuck off, tumor jun" was released, two girls were very moved when they heard a story. One second, they said to cherish their friendship, and the next, because a girl said that Daniel Wu was really old, her face was wrinkled. The two men quarreled at once. I don't know if this is a joke or true, but the degree of maintaining friendship does exist.

I learned a truth when I was very young: a good word warms three winters, and a bad word hurts June. If you have shallow feelings, you should be careful not to lose your sense of proportion. With deep feelings, we should be more careful not to always chill the hearts of close people.