Quotes about the happiness of having a second child (a heart-felt statement from a mother of a second child)

As a mother of two children, pain and joy coexist throughout the entire process, and happiness and torture are friends. In short, you must have strong mental and physical strength and be adequately prepared.

I am a mother who wants to have a second child relatively early.

As an only child, I deeply feel the loneliness of being alone. So I always planned on having a dick. But I have been hesitant as to when. The younger brother is an unexpected one. Calculating the time is not bad. He and his older brother are just 3 years apart. They are not very different and can play together. Moreover, my elder brother had already entered kindergarten when my younger brother was born, so the pressure of raising children would be less. Since it was such a good time, we decided to stay.

Since last year, the country has fully liberalized the two-child policy. Mothers of second children are springing up like mushrooms after a spring rain. There are more and more pregnant mothers picking up their babies in kindergartens every day. You can see pregnant mothers with two babies or one baby everywhere on the streets.

I asked the second-child mothers around me why they want to have a second child: Partly because since the policy has come, no child will be born in vain (I don’t know what the hell the reason is. Sigh!!!) and partly because It's too lonely for a child to have a second child as a companion. Partly because of the preference for boys over girls (strongly despised).

As a mother of a six-year-old and a three-year-old. Let me share my true feelings as a mother of two children in the past few years. Let’s serve as a reference for mothers who are still hesitating about having a second child.

Let’s talk about the bad aspects first. The first thing I want to say is the impact of the second child on the eldest child.

Don’t believe that the love between the two children can be balanced, and you will never ignore the boss’s lies. There are only two types of people I can tell you about. One is the incredible god and the mother of a great fairy who has really done it! Not many! ! ! Not many! ! ! Not many! ! ! (Say important words three times).

There is another kind of Virgin Mary who can stand and speak without pain in her back. If you think you won't ignore the boss, you are just dreaming! !

Therefore, mothers who want to have a second child must be mentally prepared. In the first year after the baby is born, you will not be able to take care of both babies at the same time. But I think this sacrifice is worth it. The premise is to give the eldest daughter the right guidance before giving birth to the second child. After giving birth to the second child, try to involve the eldest daughter in the little one's daily life and cultivate their relationship.

Secondly, the various impacts on oneself.

Don’t believe people who say give birth, give birth and I will take care of you. There are already many mothers of second babies around me who are raising their babies by themselves.

Let’s not talk about anything else. Your young and strong efforts to take care of the two children are exhausted. Not to mention the elderly, they are even more powerless. So, in the end, you still have to do it yourself.

Unless you say, I don’t care. If the old man takes it back to his hometown, he can take it back to his hometown. I don’t care what happens to him. Well, please ignore this one and pretend I didn't say it.

As far as I am concerned, I have been raising a baby for three years and three years for six years. Although my grandma and grandma come to help me for a period of time every year, I hope that I can take care of it myself. I am the mother of a baby, so the main battleground in raising the baby is myself.

My eldest brother is relatively well-behaved, but my younger brother is really a high-maintenance guy. He has been very demanding since he was a child. No matter how good your boss is, you can't ignore taking care of him, so you know how to take care of two children.

I haven’t worn high heels, skirts, or low-cut clothes for six years (it’s not that I don’t want to be a hot mom, you must know how difficult it is to wear high heels when raising a baby, running around, or holding a baby) It’s painful. It’s so inconvenient to wear a skirt when wearing a child, and when the child grows up, he will pick up your skirt and pull your collar to play with it.

What's more, it's a double. Pfft...vomiting blood...) When I go out, I always carry a backpack, which is always filled with diapers, water bottles and snacks...

I haven’t slept in for six years. The two in my family, especially my younger brother, basically got up at 5 o’clock in the morning before he was one and a half years old. And the most crazy thing about my younger brother is that you have to get up when he gets up. If you don't sleep during the day, you won't be allowed to sleep either. If I close my eyes, he starts to pull your eyes like a Tang monk and whisper in your ear "Mom, mom, mom..."

So don't believe anything you see The warm photos posted by the mother of two children who have had a peaceful life in the past few years, I tell you, behind the scenes, she is in a state of embarrassment. It’s just that everyone is more willing to believe in beautiful things.

Of course, don’t be scared by what I say, because you will also experience more wonderful things.

Children themselves are the cutest little angels. I still remember when I first had a younger brother, my three-year-old brother got a photo of him and his younger brother from the kindergarten and said to the teacher, "Teacher, I have a little brother. I like him very much, but he is too small and I dare not hold him."

Sometimes when he sees his younger brother lying down, he will go over to hug him and kiss him. Slowly, the younger brother can crawl, walk, and start to play with his older brother. My brother is no longer as bored as he was when he was alone. He often plays cars or reads quietly by himself. The two of them are each other's playmates, and they really play in different ways at home every day (zuo).

Although there is constant noise at home, the singing and laughter are even more constant.

After having a younger brother, the elder brother grew up unconsciously and began to take good care of his younger brother. If anyone bullied his younger brother when he went out, he would immediately go over to protect him. At home, I would tell my brother stories, take him to play cars and games, and teach him the numbers, pinyin and drawing I had learned.

Therefore, the younger brother has always regarded his elder brother as his idol and has been learning to imitate his elder brother. I say what the elder brother says, I like what the elder brother likes, and the younger brother plays what the elder brother plays. Frankly speaking, my brother has taught me a lot more than I have over the years.

After you have two children, they will not pester you. Especially when the little one is about 2 years old, the mother is basically freer. At least she will have some time to be herself. things. Now when they stay at home, they just play by themselves and basically don't bother me.

Sometimes the two little guys have to squeeze into the crib together, lie down together, and cover themselves with a quilt. The elder brother hugged his younger brother to coax him to sleep. Although the two of them were already too crowded. But looking at them you are really moved.

Sometimes when one brother or the younger brother is about to be beaten, the other one will rush to hide the ruler.

Sometimes the two of us go digging for snacks together, and then we hide and eat them behind my back.

Sometimes two people sit together and chat, saying something here and there. The younger brother parroted his elder brother's words again. So watching them grow up day by day, your sense of pride and satisfaction is also double!

As a mother of two children, pain and joy coexist throughout the entire process, and happiness and torture are friends. In short, you must have strong mental and physical strength and be adequately prepared.

There are two children in the family. They are different to you and to themselves. You will all experience different growth processes and experience different joys of life.

One day in the future, if we leave this world, at least there will be a relative who is related to him by blood, and he will not be alone. He still has someone he can rely on.

Zhang Xukai (Teacher Akai) is the co-founder of Mengdi Education and a well-known sensory integration expert in Taiwan. He is good at helping parents find the strengths of their children and cultivate them. He advocates: "Children can be raised easily, and children can be educated easily." Happy growth".

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