How to speak tactfully?

1. If it’s urgent, speak slowly.

When encountering an emergency, if you can calm down and think about it, and then explain the matter clearly without haste or haste, it will leave a stable and non-impulsive impression on the listener, thereby increasing others' trust in you.

2. Small things, said humorously.

Especially for some well-intentioned reminders, if they are told in a joke, the listeners will not feel stiff. Not only will they readily accept your reminder, but it will also enhance their sense of intimacy with each other.

3. If you are unsure, speak cautiously.

If you don’t say anything about things that you are not sure about, others will think you are hypocritical; if you can say it in precise words, people will feel that you are a trustworthy person.

4. Don’t talk nonsense about things that didn’t happen.

People hate people who make trouble out of nothing. If you never speculate or talk nonsense, it will make people think that you are mature and cultivated, and that you are a serious and responsible person.

5. Don’t talk nonsense about things you can’t do.

As the saying goes, "If you don't have diamonds, don't do porcelain work." Not easily promising things you can't do will make the listener think that you are a person who "believes in your word and takes action in your actions" and is willing to believe in you.

6. Don’t say things that hurt others.

Do not use words to hurt others easily, especially between people who are relatively close, do not say hurtful words. This will make them see you as a kind person and help maintain and enhance the relationship.

7. Don’t talk about sad things to others.

When people are sad, they all have the desire to talk, but if you talk to people in person, it will easily cause the listener to suffer from excessive psychological pressure and become suspicious and alienated from you. At the same time, you will give people the impression that you are not considerate of others and want to pass the pain on to others.

8. Speak carefully about other people’s matters.

People need a safe distance between each other. Not commenting on or spreading other people’s affairs easily will give people a sense of security in their interactions.

9. Listen to what others say about your own affairs.

Listen to outsiders’ opinions on your own matters. Firstly, it can give people a humble impression; secondly, it will make people think that you are a sensible person.

10. Listen more and speak less when it comes to your elders.

Older people often don’t like young people to comment too much on their own affairs. If young people talk too much, they will feel that you are not a respectful, humble and studious person.

11. Discuss matters between husband and wife.

What couples are most afraid of is blaming each other when things happen, and discussing with each other will have the effect of "passionate love" and can enhance the relationship between husband and wife.

12. Talk about children in an enlightening way.

Especially adolescent children are very rebellious. Adopting a gentle but firm attitude to enlighten them can not only make the children like you and be willing to be friends with you, but also persuade them