Look at yourself through the eyes of a third party.

I once read a short story to the effect that we should imitate Chaplin and see who imitates him the most. Chaplin himself joined in the imitation. However, unexpectedly, the real Chaplin lost the election, which made him extremely puzzled. Will he not be like himself? What a big joke. However, the conclusion of the facts cannot but be convincing. It is precisely because of standing on the bystander's point of view that the imitator collected Chaplin's most representative and arousing features and actions more clearly and accurately, vividly reappeared Chaplin, and made his personality more distinct, prominent and vivid. Chaplin himself is Chaplin. Because he can't walk out of the limitations of his own understanding of himself, he can't cut off the trivial side and highlight the most personalized things, so failure is natural. This can't help but remind people of that sentence: the authorities are confused, and the onlookers are clear. However, although this truth is easy to understand, it is difficult to accept it calmly and objectively and integrate it into your own mind. Many times, we stubbornly believe in ourselves and think that the person who knows us best is ourselves. Even for some foreign views and opinions, we often refute them with contempt and ridicule. "You are a worm in my stomach. Do you know better than me?" "Don't be a gentleman's belly with the heart of a villain." Sometimes it is "waking up the dreamer in one word" that clearly points out the idea that you have been entangled in your mind, but you still deny and avoid it blindly. In fact, why don't we look at ourselves through the eyes of others? Just like looking in the mirror, only looking in the mirror can you find flies, moles, feces and dust on your face. If there is no mirror, we will never know what the back of our head looks like, whether it is flat or a little convex. The problem is that the mirror is lifeless and mindless, so we always trust it, rely on it and even take it as the standard. We accept all the facts it reflects. As living and thoughtful people, we will not easily open our hearts to the reflection of the third party. Although there is a saying called "take people as mirrors", we will never equate the information reflected by people with the information reflected by mirrors. For people, we are always more or less wary and can't trust people, so we hear less truth about criticism and correction and more lies about praise and flattery. Wang Xiaoli in the office has a crew cut hairstyle, revealing a little bald spots originally hidden in her long hair. Some people tell the truth, the original hairstyle is good and can be hidden. Hearing this, Xiao Wang didn't know what to do, but retorted that the other person's hair was like a bird's nest. It was originally a kind reminder, but it made both sides seem to be bickering and disgruntled. There are many such things in life. Looking at yourself from other people's eyes is to accept the opinions of the outside world more objectively and reasonably, so as to correct the shortcomings of your own understanding. People who know themselves best sometimes know themselves least. This is a scene that Christians often feel relieved after talking with priests. In fact, this is similar to modern people seeking counseling from psychologists. Look at yourself through other people's eyes, and maybe you will find yourself three-dimensional.