Silence is better than words.

Lu Xun once said, "Silence is the highest contempt." We always talk about how to speak, but forget that silence is also a kind of power. The so-called: the depth of the water is silent, and people are steady. A truly powerful person does not learn to be eloquent, but to keep his mouth shut.

can you stop talking, stop talking.

Confucius' Family Words says, "A gentleman speaks with his words, but a villain speaks with his tongue." It means that really powerful people are used to solving problems with actions; And bluffing people always argue about winning or losing in words. In life, talking may be a brilliant skill; But not talking is a wise choice. Li Shanglong, a writer, once shared a story: once he flew to other places on business, but his flight was cancelled because of the weather. After hearing the news, the passengers argued with the staff one after another, and Li Shanglong followed the crowd. At the airport, there was a constant debate and abuse. Soon Li Shanglong realized that arguing like this would not solve the problem, so he stopped talking and quickly changed to the latest flight. And when those people who persistently reasoned with the staff and argued about right and wrong flocked to the change office, the tickets for that day were gone. Arguing with others about right and wrong in words with a red face is not worth the loss. Those who try to convince others by just talking will only come back in vain. Many times, it is better to choose silence than to be eloquent; It is better to change yourself than to convince others. Even if you can win, you will lose in the end. People who live a transparent life never work hard on their mouths. Before, there was a 25-year-old female doctor in Cambridge who studied live on the Internet, which attracted 2 million people's onlookers and became popular all over the network. In fact, this female doctor never said a word in the live broadcast, but quietly focused on her own study. However, there are still many netizens infected by her, and they will follow her live broadcast every day and study hard together. It is never nice words that can really infect others and achieve themselves. Compared with those who are talkative and eloquent, those who know how to be cautious and silent are often more reliable and rare. The truth of life is that it is better to say more than not to say.

you must speak and tell the truth.

Wang Xiaobo once said, "Thinking seriously and distinguishing right from wrong sincerely can be regarded as kindness." Telling the truth is actually an underestimated kindness. Sweet words that often come casually don't necessarily leave your heart; But the thoughtful truth is mostly sincere. Those who are really powerful will not only prefer good words, but also be afraid of listening to the truth. There was a short story in Yangcheng Evening News: A young man was obsessed with poetry creation and wanted to be a poet. So when he attended the party of Mrs Stein, a poetry critic, he took out his masterpiece and asked Mrs Stein to comment on it. Young people are extremely looking forward to receiving praise for their proud works. However, Mrs. Stein didn't "show mercy" because of this, bluntly saying that he didn't have the talent to write poetry, and suggested that he choose a career that was more suitable for him as soon as possible. Although the young man was hit, he seriously reflected on his return and thought that Mrs. Stein's words were not wrong. After that, he decided to become a painter after constant exploration. This young man was Picasso, who later became world-famous. Picasso, who became famous, recalled what happened to Mrs. Stein in those years, and once said with emotion: If it weren't for Mrs. Stein, maybe I was still obsessed with the poet's dream and missed the art of painting. Although good words are nice, they are not really good for each other. Many times, you don't have to say many good words. A truth that doesn't go against your heart is the best response to each other. We always think that everyone likes to listen to compliments and good words, but forget that no one likes deception and lies. As the saying goes: good words are easy to say, but truth is rare. Words full of flattery are not as sincere as a thoughtful truth. A lie is pleasant to the ear, and the truth is clear. Needless to say, words should not be spoken casually, and it is good to say what you don't mean.

it's hard to tell the truth, but tell jokes.

Goethe once said, "There is something in everyone's nature that is inconvenient to make public. If it is made public, it will certainly offend others." Life is not easy, everyone has his own secrets, telling the truth is not to expose his scars to others and make others' privacy public. If some truth is out of line, we can tell jokes appropriately. Some time ago, a Jia Ling responded to the topic that the audience was urged to get married and went on a hot search. It turned out that after Jia Ling's first film, Hi, Mom, became a hit, she took the film's masters to make a road show in Chengdu Cinema. During the fan meeting, a Chengdu mother stood up and asked Jia Ling: Let me gossip. You see, we are all about the same age. I have two children. What about you, Jia Ling? In the face of such an outspoken and embarrassing question, Jia Ling didn't show any reluctance or dissatisfaction, but laughed and replied, "Then you have two children, you can give me one!" Jia Ling's joke-like answer not only instantly resolved the embarrassment, but also caused the audience to laugh, and netizens also praised Jia Ling's witty answer. The truly comfortable way to speak is not to express yourself, nor to please others blindly, but to speak without making yourself uncomfortable and others embarrassed on the basis of caring for others. A measured joke is as valuable as telling the truth. Many times, problems that can't be explained clearly can be solved by a simple joke. This is because a decent joke often hides a mind that knows the sense of proportion and empathy. Being able to tell jokes is not to talk about other people's privacy, not to be mean to others, but to be careful and thoughtful, and to communicate with people in a pleasant way. Speaking just right is advanced emotional intelligence.

Cai Kangyong once said, "You are what you say." How a person speaks often reflects his conduct in life. Although some people don't talk much, they even like to be silent, but they are sincere and comfortable to talk to, and they are often silent and warm to get along with such people. Many times, more words are better than less words, and less words are better than words. Learning to shut up is also a life practice.

I wish you, with no right and wrong in your eyes, a sense of proportion in your exports and a sense of scale in your life.