Well frog joke

Source | Taste Zunyi

The ancients said: "The depth of the water is silent, and people are steady and silent."

This means that truly outstanding people are always quiet, calm, open-minded and sincere.

I'm impressed.

The older you get, the more you know how to be silent. Some things need to be endured, not distinguished; Some people, need to let, don't pursue.

The painter Chen Danqing once said: "There is no need for everyone to know the real you, or you don't need to keep explaining to people what kind of person I am, because that is invalid."

People live their whole lives to be themselves, not to explain themselves to everyone. Instead of trying to explain, it is better to move on while it is still early.

Li Shanglong, a writer, told a short story about himself: once on the subway, he was holding a copy of Mo Yan's "Big Breasts and Fat Buttocks", and the passenger next to him glanced at the title and then shook his head contemptuously.

This man may be thinking: This man dares to read pornographic books in public.

Li Shanglong ignored, just quietly continue to read.

On another occasion, Li Shanglong watched Forever Hope in the teachers' lounge.

A teacher came in and said in a sarcastic tone, "You also watch chicken soup."

What the teacher doesn't know is that Hope is Forever is a book about Cambodian history, but its name is just like chicken soup.

Li Shanglong didn't respond too much, because he knew that people who didn't understand him would explain in vain.

He wrote in the book: "Never have to explain too much to people who don't belong to him. This is a waste of time. "

Different circles don't need to be strong. Different levels, it is futile to explain again.

And people get along with each other, but only by a mutual understanding of the heart, and between the heart and the heart, by real understanding, sincere appreciation, is a silent tacit understanding.

As the years get longer, I prefer a relationship that doesn't ask questions or explain. Even if I am misunderstood, I will laugh it off in good faith without making unnecessary explanations.

Silence is the strongest answer.

Laozi said: "The speaker does not know, the knower does not speak, the debater is not good, and the good does not argue."

Many quarrels in life, instead of getting results, will escalate emotions and eventually break up in discord.

As the saying goes: summer insects can't talk to ice, and well frogs can't talk to the sea.

Franklin once said: "If you always argue and refute, you may win occasionally, but it is an empty victory, because then you will never get the favor of the other side."

Carnegie shared a story in his book:

At a banquet, a man sitting next to him told a joke and quoted a sentence from the joke, explaining that it was from the Bible.

Carnegie pointed out that the sentence came from a work by Shakespeare, and the two held their own words and argued endlessly.

So Carnegie asked another friend who was very familiar with Shakespeare's works.

Hearing this, my friend motioned Carnegie with his eyes, and then agreed with the man that the sentence was from the Bible.

Afterwards, Carnegie asked this friend doubtfully why he was "partial" to the wrong side.

The friend said, "If you argue with him, even if you have the upper hand, the other party will resent you for losing face."

Carnegie agreed and concluded: "The only way to win an argument is to avoid it."

Indeed, everyone's cognition and level are different, and blindly arguing will lead to greater misunderstanding, but will consume themselves.

There is a saying in the Bible: "Agree with those who oppose you as soon as possible."

As long as you are right, when facing different opinions, you just need to say "you are right" generously, or walk away with a smile and continue your life.

After all, it is more meaningful to say something to people who understand.

As Lincoln said, "anyone who has made up his mind to achieve something will not waste his time arguing in private."

Some time ago, I saw a news that in a fire emergency scene in Thailand, a video of a nurse Priya wearing a miniskirt to save people was circulated on the Internet.

Many people accuse Puglia of "revealing clothes and indecent posture to save lives."

Actually, Priya is just shopping nearby. Seeing someone in a coma, she immediately went forward for cardiopulmonary resuscitation until the comatose man was taken to the ambulance.

Priya's heart ached for saving herself, but she was also accused for no reason.

In the face of these overwhelming malicious comments, she had to stand up and apologize, saying, "At that time, I only cared about saving people, but I didn't expect anything to happen to my clothes."

Seeing Puglia's apology, many netizens in China felt wronged for Puglia.

A netizen commented: "She is divorced from human nature and only sees sex."

Watching the whole video, I found that Priya didn't actually walk away. What's more, it was not working hours at that time, and there was nothing wrong with wearing casual clothes.

Sometimes people don't know the whole story, so they will make arbitrary judgments based on subjective assumptions.

As everyone knows, what you see in your eyes may not be the truth.

As the saying goes, "a good word warms three winters, and a bad word hurts people in June."

Sometimes you judge others casually without knowing the truth, which may often have a great influence on others.

In this world, too many people bear a heavy burden. You never know what others have experienced, so don't judge yourself.

Sit still and always think about yourself. Don't gossip about others.

Those who observe only meditate and practice by themselves.

Learn to grow and learn to be silent.

Hemingway once said, "It took us two years to learn to speak, but it took us sixty years to learn to shut up. Many times, the farther you talk, the more contradictions. "

In the world, we will always meet all kinds of people, and there will always be people pointing at you and making irresponsible remarks.

When encountering others' misunderstanding, learn to be silent, don't explain too much, and precipitate your emotions and thoughts.

When encountering different opinions, learn to be silent and not argue, but spend time on valuable people and things.

When encountering three different views, learn to be silent, not easily define and evaluate a person, and learn to understand and tolerate.

Silence is a kind of elegance, charm and wisdom.

May you experience vicissitudes and become more calm and calm.

In the rest of my life, I will wait for the flowers to bloom.