What do you think of the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law

Nowadays, many young couples have to ask the elderly to help take care of their children because of the pressure of life. However, due to different living habits and concepts, various frictions will inevitably occur in their life together. So, what do you think of the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law?

Fangfang's husband and younger brother are classmates, and the younger brother is holding the red line in the middle, and their feelings soon stabilize. Because the two families are relatively close and familiar, they have been in love for less than a year and received the certificate. At the wedding, my mother-in-law sincerely told Fangfang that I would tell her as soon as possible if the couple had any difficulties in life in the future. Although I don't say whether I can help, it is always possible to have one more person to give advice and reference.

Having children in the second year of marriage has also increased expenses, and there is still a mortgage to be paid every month. If Fangfang resigns, it is definitely not enough to rely solely on her husband, so Fangfang offered to ask her mother-in-law to help take care of the children so that she could continue to work. My mother-in-law also agreed.

We got along well at first, but after getting along for a long time, problems came out. Fangfang had a bad stomach when she was a child, but her mother-in-law liked to bake big cakes, which were too difficult to digest. At first, Fangfang was afraid that she would lose her mother-in-law's kindness if she didn't eat it. She ate it several times, but she didn't expect her stomach to get sick. She took medicine for several days in a row. Fangfang was going to tell her mother-in-law not to burn it. As soon as she thought that she liked to eat, she swallowed her words and cooked every meal herself. As a result, her mother-in-law was unhappy and said Fangfang didn't like her cooking. Fangfang explained that she had stomach trouble, but her mother-in-law just wouldn't listen. In order to avoid quarreling, Fangfang eats very little as long as she eats at home, and usually solves it in the company cafeteria.

Because Fangfang's child was only five months old when she finished maternity leave, she had not been weaned yet, so Fangfang would put her breast milk in the refrigerator before going to work every day and let her mother-in-law heat it up when she wanted to eat it. After a long time, my mother-in-law was too troublesome, so she suggested to Fangfang that she should resign and wait until the child was weaned before going to work. Fangfang disagreed. She told her mother-in-law that prices were rising and the expenses were too high. Her husband's salary is not enough except the mortgage. My mother-in-law also said that it would be more convenient for Fangfang to rent a house where she works, so as to support her children. Fangfang is unwilling to rent a house. If she rents a house, what was the significance of buying a house at the beginning? Later, my husband also said that her mother-in-law was not considerate enough because she had to work to help with the children. The incident was unpleasant and dropped.

My mother-in-law takes her children every day and chats with other neighbors with children in the community. Once a child was sick, Fangfang reminded her mother-in-law not to get too close to others when the child was sick, so that others would not like it and were afraid that the children would infect each other. As a result, my mother-in-law was very unhappy, saying that Fangfang shouldn't say that, and none of the neighbors she knew were like this ... Fangfang expressed her helplessness.

After the children go to kindergarten, the mother-in-law has plenty of time every day, basically chatting with her neighbors about her family. One day, Fangfang came home from work, and an aunt accused Fangfang's mother-in-law of how hard it was to help her take care of her children, and she was also critical. She also said that she was too delicate ... Fangfang was very wronged at that time. When her husband found out, he told her mother-in-law not to gossip with outsiders everywhere. The mother-in-law made a scene and felt that her son didn't help herself. Fangfang was at a loss. I don't know if it's right or wrong to ask my mother-in-law to help with the children.

Bian Xiao thinks that a bad relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will only affect the harmony of the family, making it difficult for men to get caught in the middle, and outsiders will only see jokes. In fact, both mother-in-law and daughter-in-law love this man. Why not put aside their prejudice, be more tolerant and respect, so that their lives will be happier and avoid some unnecessary quarrels. what do you think?