Why are young people not grateful now? Is there a problem with education?

This question is not expressed accurately. Why are some young people ungrateful now? Is there a problem with education?

Thanksgiving education is divided into three stages: family education, school education and social education. The general answer is that there is something wrong with education, but it is necessary to distinguish the cause of the problem and at which stage it mainly occurs. Only by finding out the reason can we solve the problem.

I think the reasons for the problems in gratitude education mainly occur in the stage of family education. Parents are children's first teachers, and families are children's first classes. In today's family, children are the center and family members are around. All good food and supplies are given to children first, and children forget themselves, forming their self-centered selfishness. Children think that their family members take their kindness for granted and don't need to return it. At this time, children grow in the direction of ingratitude like saplings.

At this time, if parents correct their children's educational methods in time, strengthening gratitude and kindness education can be corrected in time, but it is often ignored by parents.

There is also a lack of gratitude education in the school education stage, which only attaches importance to knowledge and ignores moral education including gratitude to students. Finally, some young people don't know how to be grateful. They only know how to take, enjoy and don't want to give.

In short, education should strengthen students' ideological and political work and personal morality.

There is something wrong with education.

As far as school education is concerned, especially in middle schools, due to the pressure of entering higher schools, schools pay more attention to the study of cultural knowledge. Although moral education such as gratitude education is often given to students, it is often low-level and incoherent, and the form is greater than the content and the effectiveness is not strong.

From the perspective of social education, due to the gradual decline of traditional culture in previous years, the leading and subtle role of gratitude education has been weakened invisibly.

I think the bigger problem lies in family education. First, the leading role of parents is decreasing. When I was a child, my parents had to give something delicious to my grandparents first, and we also learned to give it to our parents first. What about now? Usually hold the child tight first. There are so many things, and now the children are used to it and think it's all right. Second, today's children have never suffered and don't understand the hardships of life. At present, most parents don't want to make their children suffer a little, don't want their children to make a little effort, and don't want their children to suffer a little injustice. In this way, children have no personal experience of their parents' hard work, and they don't know how difficult it is for their parents to raise themselves, so they won't be grateful. I was born in the countryside. When I was a child, I had to work in the fields with my parents. Sometimes I work in the fields all day in the hot sun. Sometimes I have to complete very heavy tasks by myself. Sometimes, after working for a day and a half, I have to get up to beat wheat. With personal experience, we fully understand the hardships of our parents at that time. At that time, the family income was very low, and whenever our parents gave us more expensive money to study, our gratitude naturally came. At that time, our parents didn't give us any gratitude education, but we were very considerate of their hard work. How can children feel this way now?

Therefore, I think parents should set an example for their children. First of all, they should be filial to the elderly. Second, don't spoil children too much and create conditions for them to suffer. Of course, only when society, families and schools join hands can gratitude education achieve fundamental results.

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Young people nowadays don't know how to be grateful. It is true that there is something wrong with education, but it is family education, not school education.

Now that there is something wrong with education, it is natural to think that it is a school education problem, but sometimes it is really not a school problem. For young people who don't know how to be grateful now, it's really not a problem of school education, because many schools are educating their children to be grateful now. For example, the school culture of our school is "super gratitude", so in our teaching process, gratitude education runs through. Although it has a certain effect, it is difficult to completely change the current situation that young people are not grateful.

Why is this happening? I told a short story. A person gives a beggar fifty yuan every day. Suddenly one day, the man didn't give the beggar any money. The beggar asked, "Who did you give my money to?" That's my money! "

What does this little story show? One has always accepted the kindness of others. Over time, he will think that he deserves it and belongs to himself, but he will not think that it is someone else's help to him, nor will he be grateful to those who help him. The same is true of "fighting rice to raise goodness and bearing rice to raise enmity".

In fact, the root of young people's lack of gratitude is family education.

Today's children are almost all only children, and at home they are all little emperors and little princesses. They are spoiled and used by adults. Parents will try their best to meet their children's needs. Children gradually develop the habit of being self-centered and think that everything their parents do is justified and taken for granted. Children who go out into the society have the same mentality and selfishness. They think others should revolve around themselves. If you are slightly dissatisfied, you think that others deliberately make things difficult for him, and you have no gratitude at all.

No matter how children are educated at school, it is really difficult to change their habits.

Therefore, to cultivate children's gratitude, parent education is the most important, and it is difficult to change the expectation of school education.

Now some young people don't know how to be grateful. There are some problems in education, not only family education, but also school education.

Those young people who don't know how to be grateful are basically children of only-child couples. At home, a child is spoiled by six adults. With the connivance and connivance of these adults, the child gradually becomes self-centered. When they bring their family behavior to school and society, they think that others should help them, so they are less grateful.

At school, there is a lot of pressure to go to school. Basically all the time is spent on improving the exam results. Those books that strengthen self-cultivation are thrown aside. In order to improve their grades, teachers usually try to reduce the time that does not belong to the exam to learn the content of the exam or do the questions.

Both family and school neglect the ideological cultivation of children, and young people who grow up in such an environment are ungrateful and extremely selfish.

Cultivate children's love, sense of collective honor, and take part in more labor, so that children can be grateful when they grow up and be accepted by others in society.

But, at least, it has a lot to do with my answer this morning, "Why is social divorce so serious now?" Many parents and families have deviated from the normal track in their children's family education. Uncontrolled connivance and even "poor families are rich" can only cultivate "exquisite egoism" children, because they are used to the lifestyle of others "revolving around themselves". Have they considered other people's feelings? Even if there is a little "swearing", parents should pay attention to it.

Young people know how to be grateful and can't jump to conclusions.

The child is rebellious in the growth stage, but it cannot be concluded that he is not grateful. His heart still agrees with the kindness of his parents. It's just that he pays more attention to himself, which makes people feel that he doesn't know his parents' hard work, grinding people and ingratitude.

From my growing experience and parenting experience, children seem selfish, unreasonable and even rebellious. In fact, he just wants to prove his existence, independent existence, that is, personality publicity. He is also very upset, so he understands each other.

The child will be much better as an adult. Only in words and deeds can we show our understanding and gratitude to our parents. My oldest child has always been obedient, but my third child is the most rebellious. He is always naughty and not afraid of being beaten. I really have a headache, and there is nothing I can do. I didn't expect this boy to be the most filial. Every time he gives me money, he never gives in. Loud, "take it" and "I'll give it to you when I'm done. Don't be reluctant to spend money. "

The girl of Lao Zhang's family next door is fierce at home, and Lao Zhang and his wife are bossed around by her. I've only been married for a few years, and I have a bright future. I took Lao Zhang and his wife to the city to play. Lao Zhang also sent me a video of Tai Chi a few days ago, showing off in an ostentatious manner.